Miranda Kerr Talks About Circular Dating

targetingI was just sent this article from Harper’s – an interview with the lovely model, singer, organic cosmetic line mogul, and self-help author Miranda Kerr:

http://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a5460/miranda-kerr-interview-0215/?click=_lpTrnsprtr_

In it – Miranda sounds like me! She (or the interviewer from Harper’s) uses the term “circular dating” this way:

“Kerr cites the concept of circular dating: seeing a few men at a time and keeping all options open until you’re sure a man is worth it. The idea is about saving ladies from investing in unsuitable men. ”

Here’s more:

“Men don’t want to be disrespected, and women feel the best when they feel cherished,” she says. “So if a woman is feeling cherished, she will respect a man, and if a man’s feeling respected, he will cherish a woman. It doesn’t need to be complicated.” She continues: “You know, for a long time I had it the wrong way. I was constantly doing, doing. Giving, giving for my partner. But what works is not feeling like you have to be everything to everyone.”

And more:

“Miranda Kerr thinks it’s fine for a woman to date multiple men as long as they don’t sleep with any of them.

“The 31-year-old star – who split from Orlando Bloom in 2013 after three years of marriage – advises against having sex on a first date because she thinks it’s better to go out with a number of potential suitors to keep your options open.

“To the issues: How to prepare for a date? “What really works is to spend 15 minutes and focus on feelings and moments that have made you feel really good. Remember those moments so you can build up a positive force field around you.”

“Next, should a girl ever call a guy? “I don’t believe in that. I believe in the man chasing the girl, but that’s just me personally.” Texting? “I think a woman should respond but not reach out.”

“Which brings us to the timeless question of sex on the first date. Out comes the notepad. “My philosophy is that until you get to know them it’s better not to, because energetically as a woman you get attached. So you’re better off to go on a few dates and see if you want to get attached or not.”

From Rori: I think this is just a great article, and that Miranda Kerr is awesome. I’ve commented there to thank Harper’s for mentioning the term, and inviting them to the blog to check out more about “Circular Dating,” how it’s not really about “dating” at all (it’s more Free Therapy), and how you amazing Sirens are all using it…

If you have anything to say there as well – please feel free to comment! I feel very proud that Circular Dating was “coined” here on the blog (a google search confirms it!), intensely laid out in “Targeting Mr. Right,”  and that more women are now doing it.

Love, Rori

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A Schoolgirl Crush, Or The Real Thing?

maninbottleHere’s a letter from Alice that may sound very extreme to you – and it’s a common, everyday experience that so many women are having.

It may seem like the height of “being taken for a ride.”

And yet, to Alice, it feels like love and potential.

It feels like “he’s afraid of commitment.”

The truth, for me, is more like:

There is no one and nothing to blame – AND – there’s nothing here for you.

“Hi Rori,

I have read the blog, the emails, I am working through some of the programs and learning some things, but I still have trouble figuring out what to do about my current situation. Since I emailed you last, things have gotten a lot worse, and my heart is breaking.

I met this man online at the beginning of March, and the connection was instant. We
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What Can I Do To Get Him Back?

rosestemThis is such a powerfully painful letter from Lydia, and just reading it, I feel such a painful pull into old feelings I’ve had in my life of simply…losing myself.

To Lydia – this has nothing to do with this man, and all to do with your wanting to put so much of your energy into him.  At the end, I’ll help:

My ex of 7 years and I were suppose to have gotten married. I ran him away with my attitude and drama simply because I did not know how to remain humble when we had a problem.

I allowed others to interfere in our relationship because I always listened to rumors and then I took it back to him to confront him and blame him…..when all I wanted was to let him know how hurt I was (sometimes I found evidence on my own that let me know he had been unfaithful or dishonest to). As for as the rumors, I never had evidence of those rumors.

There were times when I honestly believed they were true. However, the only reason I would question him or believed the rumors was because I had found evidence where he’d betrayed me. There were times when I acted a fool. He simply got tired, and I was
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Amazing Articles By Rabbi Shmuley

lovebirdsI came across these articles by Rabbi Shmuley by accident – and instantly felt “GOT.”

I have never read anything like this from a man, and am in touch with him to get an interview and help from him around this situation.

 

Here are the articles:

http://www.algemeiner.com/2013/02/18/husbands-who-extinguish-their-wives’-libidos/

and

http://www.algemeiner.com/2014/12/16/women-want-to-be-wanted/

Here’s what I wrote to the Rabbi:

“Dear Rabbi Shmuley, my name is Rori Raye, I’m a relationship “expert” for women
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New Years 2014 – Love Is All There Is

rori with seals nycThis is my traditional New Year’s post – and I’d love to create something new with your help….Do you have any traditions for the New Year that feel great for you?

I’d LOVE to put together a post, or a report that has New Years rituals and traditions – goddess ones, shaman ones – things that YOU do that make you feel good! You can put them as comments here, and I’ll copy them off and put them together into a piece! I’ll use the names you use here if that’s okay….

I have a New Year’s Resolution for us all this year – and that resolution is: NO MORE NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS!

It just feels all wrong to me.

A “Resolution” seems like something I’d write down for myself to do – or TELL myself to do – that I just DON’T WANT to do.

Like never eating chocolate. Or walking a certain distance or exercising a certain way every day.

The moment my brain hears that “have to” attached to the “resolution” I can FEEL it grating in my mind.
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Maintaining Relationships With Two Men And Keeping Them Secret From Each Other: Is It Even Possible?

navigating loveThough Irina has asked me to “not judge her” – why would any of us judge something we all feel sometimes?

We all find ourselves caught between “wants.”

Caught between what’s “right” (or what we think is right…) and what we desire.

Caught between what people tell us we should want, and what we feel, deep inside ourselves, compelled to want.

Caught between what we think we want – and what we really want – and often unable to tell the difference, because these different wants all come from inside US!

What Irina is talking about here is a fantasy dream situation a great many of us have: A loyal, wonderful, loving man steady by our side – AND a wild, sexy, heart-quivering man for the romantic stuff.

Who doesn’t want that?

(Yeah – we want that all in one man – and yet, is that possible?)

The Question:

“Dear Rori,

I’ve been reading your advice, and have already got 2 of your e-books that has helped me a lot! Thank you very much for these fantastic insights into such a complex field which is the realm of love relationships!

I am writing you because I need some feedback about a (sort of) love story that has gone wrong all of a sudden and I feel the loss and would like to do something to rescue it.

The whole situation is:
– I have a stable relationship for 10 years that makes me very happy, however in the begin of the year I met
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For Your Holiday Season 2014

treeheartHere’s my favorite Holiday post….and happy everything to you…

Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, Winter Solstice, many more traditions both religious and secular – all together, all at once the mere thought of it fills me with feelings of dread.

Is it because I remember that winter in New York and how depressed that year was? Is it because there’s so much family at the holidays – and I feel not only obligated and exhausted, but adolescent again around so much of my history?

My family history is wonderful. I’m one of the very lucky ones. A not so dysfunctional home – perhaps not passion, but at least humor, affection and lots of support and attention for my brother and me.

Perhaps it just feels as if all the pain of the world comes into relief around the ever present pictures of joy at this time of year. I know it’s not about me at all.

It’s not personal. Do we all just notice, suddenly, all at the same time, that we’re all in this together? We go to church, go to synagogue, light candles, wrap
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Be A Rori Raye Coach – Free Teleclasses Monday, December 15th

rori glastonbury torAsk Me How RRRCT Can Help You Be A Professional, Successful Rori Raye Trained Relationship Coach…

If you’re considering enrolling in RRRCT – the Fundamentals for 2015, learning how to help women in their love lives exactly the way I do and get personally mentored by me as a professional coach – you likely have lots of questions about how it works.

And not just how RRRCT works – but how it will work for YOU!

And so I’ll do a Q & A teleclass on Monday, December 15th, TWICE! – at 11am and 5:30 PST – to answer your questions -

1. To listen in by phone or Skype:

Phone Number to Dial: (425) 440-5100
Backup Number: (323) 476-3997
Conf ID: 269386#

You can also try these Local & International Numbers:
http://instantteleseminar.com/local/

2. Or go to this webpage to listen and write questions to me in real time:

http://www.coachrori.com/welcome-to-the-rrrct-free-teleclass/

If you’re not sure if you’re interested in being a professional coach, but would like to learn (or just listen in on) how RRRCT coach training and business mentoring work, I’d be happy to have you on the call.

If you’d like to just read about how RRRCT works, what it (and my teaching and mentoring) will do for you, and learn how you can be a practicing Rori Raye Relationship Coach – go here–>>

http://www.coachrori.com/be-a-rori-raye-relationship-coach/

Love, Rori

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When Are You Actually “Ready” To Meet Mr. Right? Now!

2014-10-15 08.35.16The Question:

“Rori, If a woman doesn’t completely love herself, care for herself, feel happy in herself and secure in herself first, then won’t she keep attracting men who mirror that.

If we do the inner work first, then wouldn’t we attract a more emotionally loving man?

I guess my question is, can I still be doing the inner work and attract the perfect man who loves me, will commit and care for me despite my vulnerability and lack of perfection?

Thanks Rori. I’m a big fan of your work (especially love when you interview people and record their wisdom) and have been studying the tools for some years now.

Love, Taria

My Answer:

Taria – I think your question is awesome and covers SO much!

This is what I see: We are all a work in progress.

It’s not about meeting a man who is “fully finished” when we are “fully finished” – it’s about meeting a “Life
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Free RRRCT Teleclass On December 15th – Be a Rori Raye Trained Coach

tiltheadAsk Me How RRRCT Can Help You Be A Professional, Successful Rori Raye Trained Relationship Coach…

If you’re considering enrolling in RRRCT – the Fundamentals for 2015, learning how to help women in their love lives exactly the way I do and get personally mentored by me as a professional coach – you likely have lots of questions about how it works.

And not just how RRRCT works – but how it will work for YOU!

And so I’ll do a Q & A teleclass on Monday, December 15th, TWICE! – at 11am and 5:30 PST – to answer your questions -

1. To listen in by phone or Skype:

Phone Number to Dial: (425) 440-5100
Backup Number: (323) 476-3997
Conf ID: 269386#

You can also try these Local & International Numbers:
http://instantteleseminar.com/local/

2. Or go to this webpage to listen and write questions to me in real time:

http://www.coachrori.com/welcome-to-the-rrrct-free-teleclass/

If you’re not sure if you’re interested in being a professional coach, but would like to learn (or just listen in on) how RRRCT coach training and business mentoring work, I’d be happy to have you on the call.

If you’d like to just read about how RRRCT works, what it (and my teaching and mentoring) will do for you, and learn how you can be a practicing Rori Raye Relationship Coach – go here–>>

http://www.coachrori.com/be-a-rori-raye-relationship-coach/

Love, Rori

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