I just finished a powerful Skype session with a client where I basically “snuck up” on her and created tension between us – on purpose.
Why did I do that?
Sometimes, we’re so in our heads, and our defense systems are so vigilant, it’s hard for us to commit to what it takes to get what we want in love.
And by this, I mean, letting ourselves “all hang out,” without censure, judgment, containment
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And it’s not the “holiday” I celebrate (we all know the history of that is murky)…it’s the opportunity.
It’s the feeling that so many of us are doing it at once, that people are getting together in the same room with other people, that people are inviting other people, feeding other people, going to see other people, dealing with old emotions and triggers with other people, looking at the larger picture and focusing on generosity of material goods and spirit, even
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It’s so easy to live in the Land of Mistakes.
I can so easily live my entire life there.
I can spend my time considering every “mistake” I ever thought I’ve made, and every “mistake” I think I’m about to make.
*I can live in the place where I think about and mull over, focus on, figure out, try to redo, live over and over again in my mind, feel regrets about, feel guilt over, analyze, and generally try to figure out how I
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Here’s a conversation with Pamela (who’s been AMAZING keeping together and moving forward a genuine relationship with a very “Difficult” man on the “Toxic Men” scale for several years now, long distance!) – and it brings up a very touchy concept for many of us – the essential “laying down” of “independence” if you choose to be with a man:
Rori, Sam’s trip to my city for my friend’s wedding was a huge success. He was relaxed – engaged in long conversations with my family members, was kind and thoughtful towards me – was affectionate ( shower sex) and even asked about 4
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Here’s a great question from “Argentina” to jump off from:
“Rori, why do certain men consistently flirt with other women while they are married with children and consistently speak of their past partners and relationships All the time?”
Argentina – I realize this analogy might seem odd, since these things “come from” different places and, since they’re partly “behavioral” – we often believe we can effect change in them, but the core of the question is the same:
What makes a man have blue eyes? What makes a man 6′ tall? What makes a man like the color blue, or green, or yellow, or red? What makes a man like to cook? What makes a man like to do anything? Or feel
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My family’s friend “John” asked me for help with his online dating profile.
I read it, was repulsed.
I thought: How can such a fabulous man turn out such a horrible profile that makes me want to slap him instead of kiss him?
Before I answer that, and tell you what a wonderful man he truly is - let me ask YOU:
Are YOU ignoring a great man like John online who wrote a bad profile? Are you letting a man with a slightly “bad” attitude, a bit defeatist and defensive get away because you don’t think you can fix him?
The classic “good woman” of literature, legend and myth actually exists.
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Please let me know directly if you’re having trouble accessing the blog, or commenting on it…write Melanie@CoachRori.com.
There’s just so much spam coming in constantly from automated sources all over the world, sometimes the spam blockers on the site get overactive…and I want to make sure you all get through.
Now – are you getting through, or getting blocked in other areas of your life?
Sometimes it feels like you’re banging your head against a brick wall, and sometimes it feels like you’re gliding through sunlight down a clear path leading all the way to forever…
For me, the difference is in my perception.
For me, it’s how I react to what I “perceive” of as “reality.”
A lot of “big” concepts there…and I know when I just let my body go, and stop trying to DO anything….everything shifts instantly…
Let me know where you’re feeling “blocked” – and I’ll answer your questions!
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Here’s a letter that hit me so powerfully, I wrote up a storm about it:
“Hi ladies… this is completely off topic but I wanted to post on the most recent article so my comment would be seen. I am completely lost and heartbroken, I don’t know where to turn. I just recently found out that my fiancé, a man I have been dating for 5 years, is interacting with women from craigslist and online dating sites.
I found an email account I didn’t recognize on our internet history and found several emails he had sent to women under a fake name. I was completely freaked out and.. I know this is bad… I changed the password
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Here’s a great post from inside our Rori Raye community, from Diana:
Okay so here is where I am at, not sure how to post about this, but what I am looking for someone out there to relate and if you are been there and have moved your Goddess to the #1 space I would appreciate your advice. So here it is.. ME
Who is running my LIFE in order?: The addict, the monster, the little girl and the goddess..AND I wonder why I am NOT happy.. hmmm
If you met me, you would never know, I may look like a normal girl but I am an addict.. not for pleasure but to temporarily relieve the pain and emptiness in my soul.
My addict looks and acts just like a homeless dog, she has no home, she just runs from person to person, try
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Here’s a free interview I did with Allana Pratt (you’ll want to listen to all the interviews and watch all the videos in this series – Allana is SO warm and open and vulnerable – she just gets the best out of her interviewees.
I know that what she got out of me was stellar, and you’ll get a lot from hearing it….
Just go here to listen to it all for free: http://www.braveboldandraw.com/
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