Dear Rori,my name is Connie. I am 32yrs old and I am dating a 53yrs old man who is separated from his wife of 20yrs. They have two children. A boy and a girl of 20 and 17 yes respectively. We live in different countries.
Things were fine,he came to visit me and it’s been great. Some few days ago, he went to court with his ex-wife on a motion he filed. Since that day,his attitude has changed completely.
He calls me only if he wants to talk. And he makes the conversation so short. Whenever I call he will give an excuse and say he’ll call me back but never will. When I send him a text, he takes a very long time to reply. I have decided to let him be but I am hurting.
I am exclusive with him,he’s like my best friend we used to talk 24/7 so these few days is taking a toll on me. I have taken days off from work because of this.
Rori,please advice me. Do you think, this is a relationship worth waiting for? He says the trial for the divorce is in May. Does that mean that anytime he’s not happy, I must be forgotten? I am very worried and sad. I am planning to start a family as soon as possible. I am 32 and feel I should give birth. Please help me as early as possible. Thanks, Connie.
Run, Connie! Get away from this man as quickly as possible and begin Circular Dating eligible men who want family and children as you do.
Yes, short. Not sweet.
Why should she not even give this man a chance?
How about if she just stepped back, became non-exclusive, dated other men, and responded to him when he called or visited?
Because he clearly does not care!!!!
If he cared about Connie, and for her, he would be calling her.
He’d be trying to visit. He’d be Skyping.
Even “leaning” on her during this “tough time” would be “something.”
I say – “Goodbye…” and “Next.”
Connie, please let us know how you’re doing.
Get on online dating sites, start getting social, and you’ll quickly find a man who wants what you want.
Do not give a man who doesn’t want what you want – NOW, not “later” – the time of day.