More On Circular Dating

moviedateJust to clarify – Circular Dating is not about dating.

It doesn’t even need to INCLUDE “dating.”

Circular Dating is a therapeutic tool for interacting with men out in the world and using my tools.

Period.

That can look like an encounter with the butcher at the market. A short conversation with a man at Starbucks. Or an actual date.

It’s about learning to open your heart, feel steady when your heart is open, trust yourself and stay sane.

Targeting Mr. Right – my program on Circular Dating – explores ALL possibilities of CDing – from
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Strong On the Inside and Soft On the Outside – How it Works

flowerheartJust got this letter from Cami – who’s having a great experience:

“Hi Rori,
Just wanted to check in with you. So last night we had a very good night for the most part. But a lot of it I have to attribute to where I am right now. I feel more centered and strong.

I have also started doing yoga again more regularly and just taking care of ME more. I know I have a looong way to go to get to where I want to be, but I am working on it.

I am finding the leaning back tool to be very very helpful. We met after my yoga class at my favorite sushi restaurant and sat at the bar. It was so nice to just sit next to him and talk and enjoy. But there
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An Interview With Rori – Speaking From The Heart

rosestemHere are some bits and pieces from an interview I did years ago:

I was asked: “What about the words you say you teach people to use?”

Here was my answer:

The words and body language and all the other tools I developed and teach look very different on different sides of the relationship dynamic.

I talk about choosing to be the masculine energy partner or the feminine energy partner, and that there has to be one of each in a relationship – regardless of gender or who chooses which role, but that you have to choose.

Masculine energy is about thinking, about action – making decisions, being in charge, delegating tasks, just generally doing, and feminine energy is about feelings – about expressing
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The Theme Park Of YOU – EngineeringLand

navigating loveHere’s another installment on my “The Theme Park Of You” Concept (hopefully, it’ll eventually be made into a book or program…):

ENGINEERINGLAND – YOU AS “ENGINEER”

This is the fix-it part of you.

The part that does examining, analysis, doing, accomplishing, constructing, building, calculating…

This is the boy part.

This is the tinkering, the planning part.

Don’t be afraid of it!

It’s necessary.
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Some Basic Dating Tips…

intimacyIf you’re dating, practice being absolutely authentic from the moment you first speak.

This means listening, not trying to control your anxiety by talking so much, actually tolerating anxiety until you get used to the feeling of connecting with someone, and speaking in feeling terms.

Talk about how you feel about things – the food, the restaurant, the weather, your job, your dog – rather than stating the facts – or your opinions about them.

Instead of saying this is a nice restaurant – say how it makes you feel to be there – how the lighting
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When A Man “Opens” With Sex Talk…

cutefrogThe Question:

“Rori, Don’t get me wrong… I love men… love what they are about and how their differences are so …. different…

…the question that came up with my girl friends and I is when a man  just starts chatting… and the meeting has not even taken place and he makes a casual reference to … now this has happened on two separate occasions recently with friends… sex…as in .. he has had no problems having his needs met when he needs to and all of the encounters were healthy adult consenting ones…and the other was a reference to the type of woman a
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What A Man Really Wants – Your Modern Siren Hotness

sexyguybackSo what does a man want in a woman more than anything else?

As a man over 40 recently said to me “A man wants a woman who can give him a boner.”

Sounds so crass. So basic. So what we’ve always thought and feared about man, doesn’t it?

And yet I believe him.

So what exactly does this mean for you?

If you’re in your 20s and he’s in his 20s that means that almost any woman he sees can give him a Boner.

He’s free to roam about the country. He’s free to roam about women-kind. And what he needs from you
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Good Man vs. Sexy One

maninredHere’s a great letter re: A Good Man vs. A Sexy One” from Gina with a terrific outcome:

Hi and I have an answer for this one!

YES and yes….well, a maybe!

I was also attracted to the bad boy vibes and as it turned out, also that he was so very good at sending these out to so many OTHER women, at the same time!!! No discretion and no discerning one from another, it seemed at the end.

Ever wonder what it feels like to see another woman’s hair in his hairbrush?…tampons under the sink?…car in his driveway?…

Well, enough drama. After a brief mourning, I said YES to dating a really nice man who was interested
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Last Chance – Siren Mom Live Teleclass Tomorrow

10-6 love yourselfHi Sirens,

Today is the last day you can sign up to ask me specific questions about love and relationships in my live teleclass “Dating Secrets For The Siren Mom” – and thank you SO much for your help and input addressing one of the key, crucial issues.

I’ll be focusing on the specific logistical, emotional and psychological high-stakes challenges of dating and relationships when you have kids.

If you join me on Wednesday, you’ll learn:

  • How to heal your anger, frustration and hurt from past relationships using my “Two Trains” Tool
  • The best way to manage your time that reduces stress and makes you feel like you’ve “Got all the time in the world…”
  • How to create your “New Love Story” with my new Circular Dating Tool: Stir The Pot
  • Easy ways to create the family environment that invites the right man IN, instead of pushing him away
  • How to stop the Mom “Quicksand of Overfunctioning” with your kids so you’ll never again overfunction with a man

Yes! Sign Me Up!

I truly hope you’ll join me on June 25th at either 11am or 5:30 pm PST (you can choose which call once you sign up), and learn how to reconnect to your irresistible, feminine, magnetic self again.

It’s time you took care of yourself the way you take care of others, and get the loving, connected, romantic relationship you deserve.

Love, Rori

Note: Remember, if you come to the teleclass, you’ll get a discount to the full audio program once it’s completed this fall. 

Yes! Sign Me Up!

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What To Tell A Man About Your Feelings

locked heartHere’s a great question from “Sunshine” about sharing some deep feelings of hurt:

The Question:

“Hello everyone, I am new to this blog and I hope not to be intrusive. I just have a question… must a man know you have cried for him if you’re trying to be sincere and open up to him? Is it ok if you tell him you have shed tears for him?

Or should you only say you have felt deeply hurt – Sunshine”

My Answer:

Sunshine – great question – and here’s the short answer – there is no reason to “tell” or “share” with a man ANYTHING in terms of “rules” or “right answers.”

Where you must ALWAYS be coming from is “Where am I coming from?”

In other words – if there’s a REASON you want to share this information with him other than just wanting to have a deep, meaningful, profound, honest and open communication and going “first” – then that’s where your work is.
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