Okay – I’m trudging through this saga picking up so many scenarios to work with…I like the movies so much better!
And the reason why the books don’t work – in my opinion – is that we only hear, see and feel Bella’s experience. So when our hero finally makes an appearance in “New Moon” – he’s already lost his glow. He’s lost his hero status.
Yes, I get the Romeo and Juliet, Wuthering Heights thing. Yes, I get the teenage thing here. And we women are very capable of filling in the holes – but this hole-filling is exhausting. I wanted my hero Edward the way he was in the first book – always there.
And…that leads me to the fantasy, and the really terrific thing that Stephanie Meyers, the author of these books, helped us and so many girls out More…
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This is in honor of you wonderful women who post here and sometimes feel so strongly that you draw “fire.” (You know who you are…if you’re not sure, let me know in a comment)…
I’m totally awed by you.
In general: The bigger you get, the more you will draw fire.
So -Thank you so much for venting and getting all those feelings out…
…and if I were working with you privately – I’d say something like this: I’m so glad you got that out of your system – and now — tell me how you feel.
Did it make you feel better and released and relieved, or did all that time and research and writing and thinking required to make a great point-by-point argument for ANYTHING actually make you feel deeper down the rabbit hole of feeling tied into the person you’re talking to?
Someone who triggers us that deeply is very important to us – and can be HUGE for your healing.
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Here’s another frustrating, heart-rending account from Bethany, who’s working with her natural impulses to hide what she’s feeling and be a doormat, following after this man:
Rori, Thanks all for your support…I felt so disappointed when…
…he texted me about going to this coffee shop today, and then when…
…I texted back a little later and said sure, I’m at…wherever I was, then…
…he texted back and said “oh shit, I’m already there.”
Well, there was no communication about what we were doing and I felt hurt…I want a guy to come pick me up!! And I didn’t text back, just went back to the apartment I’m staying at ready to pack up my shit and move home, I felt like I’d had enough.
Then he calls me and asks if I’m coming to meet him and… More…
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I just got this from Myralisa, and starting laughing out loud…and really – this is a serious question I’ll briefly answer at the end…
Subject: Report on my success
I purchased the Modern Siren and Have the Relationship You Want materials and followed them faithfully, More…
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Inside me I feel so much I can’t even keep it straight. Carousels and rollercoasters – an entire theme park of emotion. A carnival of feelings.
And – who cares what those feelings are!
I can say I feel mad at this, I feel sad from that, I feel glad because of this, I feel afraid of that….but it really doesn’t matter.
The only reason for discovering any of it is to become more aware of my triggers – but beyond that – it really doesn’t matter.
The only thing that matters is that I feel them fully – and then decide where I want my thoughts to be.
I get to decide what ride I take, what thought I think, where I go, what I do, what I say. I get to let my feelings out, I get to express, I get to More…
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Here’s a letter from Grace, who’s with a man who’s “interacting” with other women through emails and Facebook. Grace is understandably distraught:
“Rori, Help! I’m freaking out…
My man Joe talks with other women on line. He says it’s about friendship, he just needs to do it, and he’s not having sex or anything like that with any of them, and I just need to accept it.
I couldn’t help myself – I wrote to one woman that Joe had sexual emails with. I wrote to her woman to woman. More…
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Here’s a letter from Laura, who’s enduring a practically unendurable situation – see if parts of Laura’s problem feel familiar to you…another woman he’s emotionally attached to, deep depression and physical symptoms….
I’ve been going through a difficult time dealing with my husband Bill this past week. He seems to be going through a very rough patch and I don’t know how to help him, or even if I should try to help him, so I’m not.
He’s been sleeping and basically living in the spare bed room for 18 days now. Most days he comes out occasionally for an hour or so, but sometimes he hides in there for days, only emerging when he can be sure he won’t run into me.
I thought he was “punishing” me because I told him if he keeps talking to this other woman and actually goes to visit her in the country she lives More…
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There is simply no way to live a full, magnificent life without getting your inner “Boy” out there in a huge way.
You WANT to encourage your Boy energy to to do the tech, logistical, organizational things that need doing to get yourself where you want to be, making the contribution to this world you want to make.
There is no reason we can’t do this and be PRESENT at the same time…but it doesn’t take away from the fact that we are DOING.
And practicing ANYTHING makes it the “default” position. More…
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If you’re feeling frustrated, upset and angry because your man is either totally clueless – or depriving you of affection, attention and happiness ON PURPOSE – or if you’d simply like to learn how to attract men – here’s a quick tool that will help: “Doggie Treat” Voice.
Here’s why it works, and then I’ll teach you what it is and how to do it:
When we’re frustrated, and our man isn’t measuring up, isn’t stepping-up and just generally isn’t even bothering to row our relationship “rowboat,” we complain.
Sometimes we even “whine.”
And if we try to hide our feelings, it comes out in our voices and our energy anyway.
A man can hear a complaint a mile away.
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In my experience (not to say this is always the truth) a man will get mad at you when he feels bad about something.
Sometimes he’s done something to hurt you, or he’s cheating, or he’s lying, and sometimes he just feels bad and guilty because he’s done something or is about to do something so very minor that he knows, nevertheless, is stressing you and not making you happy.
The range of this is the same as the range of his good or dicey character, his ability to communicate, how much in touch he is with his own feelings and workings.
As always, putting a man on the defensive makes things harder – he’ll just back up and clam up more…so this is where we have to go FIRST in the opening-up department – be vigilant about Feeling Messages. (Feeling Messages are the most basic, most profound Tool in all my work – they will More…
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