I’ve been asked so much about my “smallest” program – Heart Connection Toolkit – because it doesn’t get promoted much and doesn’t seem to fit in any “category as my other programs do – so here’s some info on it and what it does (it’s really all about confidence, self-esteem, faith and hope).
We often spend so much time trying to cultivate our love relationship with a man, that we neglect the relationship we have with our core self – and that ends up making us LESS attractive, less powerful and feminine, and actually pushes a man away.
We women have all been taught to obsess about how to get closer with a man, how to talk to him, how to get him to give us what what we need.
And that just doesn’t work.I know it NEVER worked for me, and every client who comes to me is reeling from the awfulness of being stuck in this path of focusing on a man and a relationship, until they finally had enough of the damage it’s done to their love life and found me and this work we’re doing together.
Do you do this, too?
So when things aren’t working, do you feel resentful and worn out?
The truth is that you should not put out ANY effort trying to make a relationship happen with a man.
You need to stop DOING.
Stop trying to initiate closeness, affection, or conversations, or intimacy. Stop asking him to do things or asking him to make us feel better about things.
That relationship has to happen naturally and effortlessly BECAUSE OF you loving YOURSELF. It’s then and only then that a man can love you – but you need to love yourself first.
Your man cannot truly love you if you’re not loving yourself. Yes, it can happen sometimes- but that’s when love feels like pain.
When you don’t love yourself, and you depend on a man loving you in order to feel OK, love can feel like a constant struggle. That’s also when we feel the “drama” of pining for a man who is always just one step away from us, and never fully with us.
When you learn to love yourself and cultivate a good relationship with your self, you begin to break free of those habitual patterns that are keeping you stuck in painful relationships.
Habitual patterns can be changed. You CAN create new neuropathways in the brain – there’s research now that proves it.
All it takes is REPETITION…repetition of new thoughts and of new, positive, healthy coping habits.
With my Heart Connection Toolkit, there’s a “plan” (this is the program where the images of riding your horse across the landscape of your life come from…and all the “Body Dialogues.” And that plan is to help you develop those new patterns of thinking and developing a better relationship with yourself.
If you really believe that you’ll never get love from the man you’re with, or never find true and lasting love with ANY man, Heart Connection Toolkit will help you break through those negative thought patterns.
The idea of the “Toolkit” is to help you nurture that relationship with yourself, help you feel better about yourself, and help you eliminate the thoughts and self-judgments that are creating “stories” inside you.
Those stories you’re telling yourself- that you’re never going to find a man you’re attracted to that will want a relationship with you, or that every man you love will ultimately leave – those stories come across as neediness, defensiveness and “drama” to a man and actually repel him.
My Toolkit will help you stop the stories. It’s the only program where you don’t have to DO anything except put in the CD and listen to my voice – guiding you, creating visualizations, cheering you on, and putting healthy thoughts in where the old “stories” used to be.
The more you listen, the better you feel about yourself.
You can read more about it on the Toolkit page here->