Here’s a guest post from Orna and Matthew Walters – my amazing, lovely, fabulous interview for April in my Interviews With Relationship Experts series:
This week’s question comes from Sharrie:
“Hi there! Love your weekly notes! How about addressing love addiction? Very little is written or researched on this topic.”
Thanks for asking about love addiction. We feel that this statement in itself is an oxymoron – these two words just do not go together.
The LOVE we speak of and support people in creating cannot be connected to “Addiction” – there’s no room for it.
There certainly are many ways to avoid feeling our feelings and addiction is a way for a person to avoid feeling negative emotions.
Whether we’re talking about sex addiction or so-called love-addiction… this is all a faulty program for coping.
When we have sex, particularly when we orgasm, there are an enormous amount of “feel-good” chemicals that flood our entire system. It’s a rush that is very similar to the rush from many drugs and it is possible for a person to become addicted to this rush.
As with any addiction issue, a new way of dealing and coping with life must be created in order to live a balanced and harmonious life.
The help of a professional is very important so that one does not give up one addiction for another.
All of our behavior has positive intent – meaning that we all want to receive love, approval, and acceptance, as community and connection are our soul-based desires.
HOW we go about attempting to receive these feelings can become dysfunctional at a very young age, setting the stage for lifelong problems.
It is possible to exercise our free will and change these programs, just remember that a person does not stumble into them, this transformation requires dedication and commitment.
Love and Abundance,
Orna and Matthew
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Be SURE to absolutely watch their video when you get to the page – watch how they listen to each other, how attentive Matthew is, how still and simple and just THERE with him Orna is (you don’t see her wheels turning while she’s waiting to speak – she’s truly hearing him).
It’s as though they’re so in tune, really attentive, that they just know with “signals” when to listen and when to speak.
It’s all kind of effortless and, I think, magical. This is what you want to copy! And this is what they teach and talk about.
(You’ll see my testimonial and love letter to them on the page, and know this – I hardly EVER do that for anyone, friends or not. I really believe these two walk their talk.)
Having them in the same room during the interview – I could SEE how this works.
Not only do they have this amazing connection and real intimacy, rawness, truthfulness and attention with each other – there’s absolutely NO tension. The amazing thing about that, for me – is that they WORK together.
They live together, they work HARD together creating programs and doing interviews and running their business and coaching TOGETHER – and so they’re CONTINUALLY working things out – and what they’re doing with all this is creating DEEPER intimacy.
I watched them NOT shut down, NOT compete, NOT raise their hands or pushing against each other. What I saw and felt was a true, organic TEAM. You’ll love this interview, and Orna and Matthew…