So – what does this look like? And even more important – What does this FEEL like?
Let’s just do it and find out for ourselves in our unique ways – and let’s start with the big one:
Step 1: If Only I had the relationship I want with the kind of great man I want…
Let’s take that to:
Step 2: What If I had the relationship I want with the kind of great man I want…
Now – take a moment to settle down into your body and feel what that FEELS like. Dare to imagine that you HAVE this amazing life you want.
Now let’s take it to the last step:
Step 3: Act AS IF you HAVE this amazing man and relationship, and that it’s a living, breathing, flowing, growing, beautiful thing…
That means – you don’t have to imagine it, it’s already here. This room you’re standing in is the room you dream about – it just already is. EXACTLY AS IT IS. Just accept what’s around you as part of the picture – otherwise your system will reject this step (if you catch yourself resisting and rejecting this As If idea – just go to the Targeting Mr. Right- Power & Self Esteem Category here and do the “Riff”).
If your man is in front of you, just accept HIM as part of the picture, and focus on feeling in your BODY that this is your dream come real. Just act AS IF.
If you’re in-between men (a GLORIOUS place to be right now – because you can start fresh, hit the ground running and move lightening fast to your dreams – REALLY) just act as if you’re IN the exact relationship you dream about. Don’t make a big deal out of it – just act as if, simply. Just do the laundry, wash your face, put on makeup AS IF everything were exactly the way you want it.
You can’t just THINK this – you have to FEEL this, so walk around. Take yourself to the drug store or the market, or work, and just BE the woman who has EVERYTHING.
Just BE that woman.
If you feel silly, or wrong, or stupid, and your Nasty Voice is just kicking in like mad, don’t worry. Just try to get a few seconds out of Step 3 every time you do it. You don’t need to carry this on for more than a few seconds at a time – every second is like a breakthrough for you – truly.
What we’re trying to do here is slowly build a new reality for your brain. (And our brains are so literal – it’s an easy thing to retrain them! – A brain can’t tell the difference between what we call “real” and what we “make up” in our heads.)
Just move through these 3 steps as often as you can during the day. For fun – Watch how your Nasty Voice gets all activated and agitated.
Enjoy the Nasty Voice’s discomfort (remember – it’s only getting so loud because you’re MOVING FORWARD – because you’re starting to feel like you DESERVE all the great stuff you truly DO deserve – and the Nasty Voice’s only JOB, the only one it has – to keep you safely tucked inside the mental, emotional, physical and spiritual BOX you’ve ALWAYS been in – feels like it’s in danger every time you do something NICE for yourself).
Let me know how this works for you – I’ll be doing it right along with you, so know I’m right beside you while you HAVE what you want.