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By: He Says It's Over. The Mistake Women Make When He Doesn't Want A Relationship

He Says It's Over. The Mistake Women Make When He Doesn't Want A Relationship — Mon, 19 Jul 2010 19:48:18 +0000

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By: Linda G

Linda G — Sun, 05 Apr 2009 18:55:29 +0000

Daria, thanks for your input. I will try to remember to respond as you suggest next time, should it happen again. In other words, you are right.

By: Linda G

Linda G — Sun, 05 Apr 2009 18:38:42 +0000

The guys whio just stood me up by not showing to our first meeting never contacted me again. Fine with me.
The guy who was supposed to drive to see me from DC emialed and apologized profusely that he could not come and see me. He had complications from a recent serious injury. assured me he was not playing games or seeing someone else, and understood if I as furious and never wanted to hear from him again.
I responded with feeling messages and how I felt about stuff. I posted my response to him on the Twilight spread, if you really are curious.
Anyway, a guy who stands me up is just an inconsiderate idiot in my book and not worth a second thought. I am beginning to finally not take it personally, though it does make me feel bad, like how can I present soworthless? It only takes the acute attention from a good guy to make the bad guy go away, and the bad feelings. Hooray for circular dating.

By: Daria

Daria — Sun, 05 Apr 2009 18:25:47 +0000

Hi Linda G…

If that was me I would feel dissaponted and let down. I would NOT contact him (his worth would be going down in my book because I did not feel good about being stood up). I might not even respond to his first contacts because of feeling annoyed and not wanting to talk to him. Then when/if I did respond to his contacts I would write/say:

I’m feeling really dissapointed that our meeting didn’t happen. I feel really foolish getting ready for it and really angry/furious. I do not want to feel this way.

And see what he says and continue expressing my anger “I’m still feeling angry” or “I feel better” depending on how I’m feeling after his responses.

By: Dorothea

Dorothea — Sat, 04 Apr 2009 20:28:48 +0000

hey linda g girrrrl, i just posted on this topic in the twilight thread, maybe you should paste your comment again over in there and we can figure out something that feels good this afternoon for both of us.

By: Linda G

Linda G — Sat, 04 Apr 2009 11:15:22 +0000

What do we do when a guy does not show up for a meeting? First scenario, we were not that interested anyway, can he tell? Second, we are very interested and he has disappointed/canceled before. Do we contact and ask what happened, as in I felt so disappointed when you were not at Starbucks today. Or do we do the Diva thing and just forget it as if it doesn’t matter? This happened twice this week to me. When a cool guy, we think he’s cool, cancels once, and then does not firm up plans he initiated, do we contact him and ask if we are meeting or just let it go, because we have so many other options it doesn’t matter? Truth is, I am feeling angry about this, I feel disappointed/let down, my feelings are hurt. As in, the guy who was supposed to drive miles and miles to see me, to his insistence, has not contacted me with time to meet today.
PS any tools to suggest to get through this nonsense?

By: Dorothea

Dorothea — Sat, 04 Apr 2009 00:25:22 +0000

i decided not to. he emailed me to get together (got my email address through the class listing at school) and i said call me on thursday if you want to kick it on friday. then he TEXTS me a day later.

too much effort to text back, for real. thanks for responding to my little query

By: Daria

Daria — Fri, 03 Apr 2009 23:53:53 +0000

Hi Dorothea…

it’s up to you. If it was me if I feel too much effort to return text I don’t. Otherwise if I don’t want texts from him I write back I don’t like texting.

Or maybe I don’t like texting, it would feel nice to talk to you.

Not too sensitive about anything even if it doesn’t make sense… how do you feel?

I felt judged by a guy today and he was not making judging comments. I text I feel judged what do you think. he said oh I don’t know why you feel that way I think you’re pretty and like you… I felt better…

By: Dorothea

Dorothea — Fri, 03 Apr 2009 19:21:17 +0000

He texted me. He’s never called, how does he know I have text messaging? So what do I do? Tell him I have plans? Ignore the text? I told him to CALL. I always feel pretty irritated when I say calling is good and they do something else like text or email. Am i too sensitive about this?

By: Linda G

Linda G — Fri, 03 Apr 2009 15:37:17 +0000

Dorothea
Absolutely adorable! Thanks for the smile and the great attitude!
Just remember to breathe and do your tools tonight.