Comments on: Don’t Give Up On Love And Relationship!

By: Diane

Diane — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 19:34:33 +0000

Thank you Rori for replying to my message. I am trying to be very strong and can see that this is just not going to work. Unfortunately, No disrespect to you but I don’t feel that your programmes can make a difference to him anymore. But I do want your help I feel confident that you can help me to become a different person who can experience what it is to be loved and be appreciated by a man, as I clearly have never experienced that in the last 24 years. I am still willing and eagerly awaiting delivery of the Modern Siren programme and the Toxic Men to see what happens. I will keep you informed if that’s okay? Once again Thank You!! Diane

By: Rori Raye

Rori Raye — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 16:34:52 +0000

Diane, Welcome, and I’m so sorry to feel your pain, and hope this blog will help you see it as an opportunity to get away from this relationship and into one that will fulfill you and make you happy.

About the weight thing – you’re not going to like this. You are the same person to a man who loves you – thin or with weight gain. However, that doesn’t apply to “attraction.”

For a man – losing attraction can be a very subtle thing. It can be deep emotional stuff that gets triggered, a basic fear of intimacy, a lack of closeness in the relationship, our inability to feel and sink into our feelings, so he can never get past a certain point of openness himself, and simple basic physical things – like no longer appealing to him visually.

Some men LOVE a woman with curves, and some men feel “friendly” toward a woman with curves. Friendship does not make a romantic relationship. And everyone has a different internal engine around sex and romance.

Your ex seems like a totally unworthy man all around if he’s not much of a father…look for someone who has the whole package.

In the meantime – work on yourself, focus on yourself. You’ll have to decide about the extra weight. If you take good care of yourself and get to a weight you feel good about, a weight that looks and feels healthy, it will change your vibe and make you more attractive to more men. Along the way, you’ll find many, many, MANY men who actually DO love curves on a woman – respond to those.

Love, Rori

By: Diane

Diane — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 05:32:03 +0000

I can totally relate to Helene, as I too feel like giving up. I have tried over the last 4 years to make things right with my ex, tried various life coaches and spent alot of money. We started a very intimate relationship 18months ago only for him to now tell me that it was only sex and he is not ready to take a gamble at taking our relationship to the next level. This man as been in my life for 24 years and 4 children later, he doesn’t even want to be a dad to them anymore. I am now 41 and he is 47. I was slimmer 18months ago, which is why he wanted me as his sex buddy, but I fell in love with him allover again, for it to mean nothing to him. I am very hurt and feel that I will always be treated this way. The weight crept on and that is when he started to loose interest. I love him no matter what his faults why can men not see that we are the same women they fell in love with slim or big!!!

I have wasted 24yrs of my life on this man, and feel totally useless and stupid for allowing this to happen.
How to you learn to love again when you have loved someone for 24yrs to find out that it was all in vain?
Diane