Comments on: How To Manage The Men Who Show Up http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/how-to-manage-the-men-who-show-up/ Marriage & Relationship Advice From Rori Raye Wed, 10 Mar 2010 10:03:11 +0000 hourly 1 By: Rori Raye http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/how-to-manage-the-men-who-show-up/comment-page-1/#comment-341 Rori Raye Wed, 15 Oct 2008 17:52:11 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=158#comment-341 Alias Girl - totally beautiful. You are now creating SAFETY for a man by loving YOURSELF - Dark, ugly, icky parts, warts and toads and all - so a man can open himself up to you. This is COMPLETELY different from SERVING a man, or being "Nice" or "Understanding" or "Giving him the benefit of the doubt" or tolerating any kind of bad behavior that feels bad to you. This is instead more - not taking personally things a man does just because he's scared or clueless, and yet not LEANING FORWARD in an effort to HELP him. You sort of let a man be, just as he is, and YOU be who you are, loving yourself, then he feels safe, he opens up, you accept and appreciate him, even though it might be scary because there's a lot more intimacy and you may be a lot more open than you're used to being.. - and everyone heals! Love, Rori Alias Girl – totally beautiful. You are now creating SAFETY for a man by loving YOURSELF – Dark, ugly, icky parts, warts and toads and all – so a man can open himself up to you.

This is COMPLETELY different from SERVING a man, or being “Nice” or “Understanding” or “Giving him the benefit of the doubt” or tolerating any kind of bad behavior that feels bad to you.

This is instead more – not taking personally things a man does just because he’s scared or clueless, and yet not LEANING FORWARD in an effort to HELP him.

You sort of let a man be, just as he is, and YOU be who you are, loving yourself, then he feels safe, he opens up, you accept and appreciate him, even though it might be scary because there’s a lot more intimacy and you may be a lot more open than you’re used to being.. – and everyone heals!

Love, Rori

]]> By: Daria http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/how-to-manage-the-men-who-show-up/comment-page-1/#comment-330 Daria Wed, 15 Oct 2008 08:57:09 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=158#comment-330 oh my gosh alias girl that IS so cute!! I hope you do heal everyone YAY!! oh my gosh alias girl that IS so cute!! I hope you do heal everyone YAY!!

]]> By: alias girl http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/how-to-manage-the-men-who-show-up/comment-page-1/#comment-328 alias girl Wed, 15 Oct 2008 06:03:42 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=158#comment-328 so now i feel compassion and soft. the men on my dating site must have read somewhere that women don't like to go to the movies as a first date. because so many men have in their profile for first date suggestions NO MOVIES let's go somewhere we can talk! and its so sweet and cute and so many men just want to please us and bc of the last couple of generations of women's lib, women in the work force, women accidentally becoming predominantly male energy- bc of all that a lot of men are just as confused and hurt as women. and so i feel remorse for all the times a man was just trying to please me and i was misinterpreting as weakness, or rudeness, or disinterest.or however i mistakenly interpretted their behavior. even recently online dating i was interpreting a man's lack of questions as a lack of interest or an inability to carry a conversation so i would just stop emailing and think they weren't going to be good catches. but i've just this last couple of men been experimenting with emailing back trying to match where they're coming from and then it seemed once they felt = was interested they got REALLY excited!!! usinng exclamtion points and just very enthusiastic. and now i feel remorse for any men in the past when i might have hurt their feelings. it feels like a burning in behind my nose and my eyes welling up with tears. i wish i could heal everyonein the world so no one ever got their feelings hurt. ifeel jugemental about that statement. likes it's stupid and childish. itfeels like a really mean ugly tight face. hah. like i used to walk around with a lot before !! ahah hah :) so now i feel compassion and soft. the men on my dating site must have read somewhere that women don’t like to go to the movies as a first date. because so many men have in their profile for first date suggestions NO MOVIES let’s go somewhere we can talk! and its so sweet and cute and so many men just want to please us and bc of the last couple of generations of women’s lib, women in the work force, women accidentally becoming predominantly male energy- bc of all that a lot of men are just as confused and hurt as women. and so i feel remorse for all the times a man was just trying to please me and i was misinterpreting as weakness, or rudeness, or disinterest.or however i mistakenly interpretted their behavior. even recently online dating i was interpreting a man’s lack of questions as a lack of interest or an inability to carry a conversation so i would just stop emailing and think they weren’t going to be good catches. but i’ve just this last couple of men been experimenting with emailing back trying to match where they’re coming from and then it seemed once they felt = was interested they got REALLY excited!!! usinng exclamtion points and just very enthusiastic. and now i feel remorse for any men in the past when i might have hurt their feelings. it feels like a burning in behind my nose and my eyes welling up with tears. i wish i could heal everyonein the world so no one ever got their feelings hurt. ifeel jugemental about that statement. likes it’s stupid and childish. itfeels like a really mean ugly tight face. hah. like i used to walk around with a lot before !! ahah hah :)

]]> By: alias girl http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/how-to-manage-the-men-who-show-up/comment-page-1/#comment-322 alias girl Tue, 14 Oct 2008 22:38:10 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=158#comment-322 thank you rori! yes, i can definitely feel and am experiencing that as I shift so do the men in my life. (so does everything in my life!) even some men from my past when i interact with them are different. some of them have manged to outgirl me but some of them seem to kind of flow with me as we venture into a higher softer more divine and trusting way way of being with one another. thank you rori! yes, i can definitely feel and am experiencing that as I shift so do the men in my life. (so does everything in my life!) even some men from my past when i interact with them are different. some of them have manged to outgirl me but some of them seem to kind of flow with me as we venture into a higher softer more divine and trusting way way of being with one another.

]]> By: Reshi http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/how-to-manage-the-men-who-show-up/comment-page-1/#comment-318 Reshi Tue, 14 Oct 2008 20:40:08 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=158#comment-318 And thanks so much Rori, that definitely sounds like the most fun advice I've ever gotten...I used to be into all those kinds of things on my own but I've definitely fallen out of touch with my own sensuality over the years and especially after I started actually *being* sexual with a man. Yeah, it doesn't even make sense, but that's what happened... And thanks so much Rori, that definitely sounds like the most fun advice I’ve ever gotten…I used to be into all those kinds of things on my own but I’ve definitely fallen out of touch with my own sensuality over the years and especially after I started actually *being* sexual with a man. Yeah, it doesn’t even make sense, but that’s what happened…

]]> By: Reshi http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/how-to-manage-the-men-who-show-up/comment-page-1/#comment-317 Reshi Tue, 14 Oct 2008 20:36:57 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=158#comment-317 Hahaha Daria, it sounds like you just got a Feeling Message from a Feminine Energy man...NEXT! ;) I will definitely check out the exercise you found. Thanks so much! :D Hahaha Daria, it sounds like you just got a Feeling Message from a Feminine Energy man…NEXT! ;)

I will definitely check out the exercise you found. Thanks so much! :D

]]> By: Daria http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/how-to-manage-the-men-who-show-up/comment-page-1/#comment-316 Daria Tue, 14 Oct 2008 19:12:21 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=158#comment-316 oh did i mentioned the guy who said that me not driving sounded dumb... also said he "feels really turned off now!" LOOOL isn't that our line... hahaha this feels hilarious to me now... oh did i mentioned the guy who said that me not driving sounded dumb… also said he “feels really turned off now!” LOOOL isn’t that our line…

hahaha this feels hilarious to me now…

]]> By: Daria http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/how-to-manage-the-men-who-show-up/comment-page-1/#comment-313 Daria Tue, 14 Oct 2008 18:31:22 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=158#comment-313 Rori thank you! I was feeling that the universe is really testing me here... i just had a cute guy from the past who suddenly started calling me and wanting to see me... Again the driving issue came up (I think I'm bringing this on energy wise LOL)... I used to go see one of his friends... and now I said I don't want to go see men... he said that sounds dumb... (I was already feeling upset and impatient because of other guy)... I said I feel angry now and I don't know what to say... he said blah blah (well really he said I see I see...) and I said ok and I hung up! LOL oops... I feel like I pushed him away... he has not called back... he seemed like he thought I was "playing" with him and didn't really want to see him (told him I do). Anyways I was feeling awful but I did this self-hypnosis thing I learned how to do from Wendi Friesen... I closed my eyes, counted down, said in my mind all outside sounds are relaxing me and putting me deeper into trance... looked at the "velvety darkness" behind my eyes... then gave myself instructions... I feel good because I Know there is a guy, lots of guys that want to come pick me up...I did your waterwheel hundred men exercise... and I feel free and compassionate and connected to nature... and all my guilt and resistance I took and stuck to a tree which sucked it up and used it as nourishment... then all this will become true when I open my eyes as I count back from 3 2 1 and I open my eyes! WOO HOOO ! Tallk about instant emotion change... I feel fine now! YAY! Rori thank you!

I was feeling that the universe is really testing me here… i just had a cute guy from the past who suddenly started calling me and wanting to see me… Again the driving issue came up (I think I’m bringing this on energy wise LOL)… I used to go see one of his friends… and now I said I don’t want to go see men… he said that sounds dumb… (I was already feeling upset and impatient because of other guy)… I said I feel angry now and I don’t know what to say… he said blah blah (well really he said I see I see…) and I said ok and I hung up! LOL oops… I feel like I pushed him away… he has not called back… he seemed like he thought I was “playing” with him and didn’t really want to see him (told him I do).

Anyways I was feeling awful but I did this self-hypnosis thing I learned how to do from Wendi Friesen… I closed my eyes, counted down, said in my mind all outside sounds are relaxing me and putting me deeper into trance… looked at the “velvety darkness” behind my eyes… then gave myself instructions… I feel good because I Know there is a guy, lots of guys that want to come pick me up…I did your waterwheel hundred men exercise… and I feel free and compassionate and connected to nature… and all my guilt and resistance I took and stuck to a tree which sucked it up and used it as nourishment… then all this will become true when I open my eyes as I count back from 3 2 1 and I open my eyes! WOO HOOO ! Tallk about instant emotion change… I feel fine now! YAY!

]]> By: Daria http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/how-to-manage-the-men-who-show-up/comment-page-1/#comment-312 Daria Tue, 14 Oct 2008 18:24:05 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=158#comment-312 Reshi also an exercise I found online about raising and balancing female sexual energy... it's called the Chinese Deer Exercise for Women. It's much about getting deeply in touch with your body and energy in a very non threatening way. I just started practicing it and I like how it feels very sensual and yet emotionally safe and caring. Reshi also an exercise I found online about raising and balancing female sexual energy…

it’s called the Chinese Deer Exercise for Women.

It’s much about getting deeply in touch with your body and energy in a very non threatening way. I just started practicing it and I like how it feels very sensual and yet emotionally safe and caring.

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