It’s not the asking, the inviting, the doing…it’s about where that’s coming from inside you that attracts or repels a man.
And if you are a woman who instinctively wants to reach out, ask, invite, do – then chances are your entire “vibe” is about chasing a man down.
Chasing is the total opposite of warmth and openness.
If you have such a huge heart that you’re able to give and receive in full measure, and never shut down when love of any kind shows up, and are blissfully happy with a lifelong relationship – then you don’t need my help, and you don’t have to even consider if what you’re doing and thinking and saying looks like chasing.
But if you’re not having the success in love you want – chances are what you’re doing, thinking and saying is not working for you.
Chances are you shut yourself down around receiving love, and instead feel compelled to reach out to a man. And this marks your “vibe” as chasing.
So – in answering this question – keep in mind that it’s not WHAT you do or say at any given moment – it’s where what you’re doing and saying is coming from…and all of my Rori Raye Tools are designed to help you reformat your vibe.
Most often – this means staying away from anything that looks or feels like “chasing” – at least until you can clearly see and experience the patterns of how you feel and what your results with men are when you do, think and say certain things.
Here’s a letter from Rose about “chasing”:
You mentioned that if you chase a man, that would “blow it”. Are you saying that no matter how well suited you might be to him and how much affection he says he has, the second you chase, it’s all lost?
I hear stories all the time and am told that countless women make mistakes in relationships, but ultimately if the man is right they get through it. Aren’t we all to some degree afraid and therefore, prone to making mistakes and if every mistake drove a man away, surely we would all be single. Or are some mistakes worse than others?
Here’s my answer:
Rose – here’s the deal…working with me is not about “strategy” or “mistakes.”
You HAVE to make mistakes as you’re shifting and changing…otherwise there’s no process to work with…!
It’s all about shifting your “vibe” so that you ATTRACT your Mr. Right and many, many other great men all at the same time.
If your “vibe” is that of a woman who “chases” – you lower your pool of men to men who WANT you to chase them – which means they’re going to be very feminine in nature and standoffish and not make you happy. You keep to your old patterns.
And here’s the big question – Why would you chase?
And the only answer is: You don’t believe, deep down that what you want will show up for you.
You believe you have to “work” for it…and that’s not the truth.
So – I want you to experiment with how chasing and not chasing – how you feel – compels you to act – and how those things you do affect how you feel.
While you’re practicing with men – their response is not important in any way except to HELP you, to guide you to undoing old patterns and experimenting with new things and shifting your vibe to what will work SO much better for you in the long run.
Individually calling a man, or inviting him somewhere, or winking at him on match.com is not the issue here….these things can work fine – it’s the ENERGY, the INTENTION – your EMOTIONS and vibe behind your DOING it that’s the KEY here.
We’re working on being “Rock Star Free Spirits” here – so that you can do Anything – as you say…