Comments on: Look Confident Even When You’re Confused

By: dawn

dawn — Sun, 13 Dec 2009 14:40:59 +0000

I know i do this alot. The more I try not to the harder it is. If I think about I stiffen up so much I try to fix it by leaning forward.Make sense ? wow. I think I go back and forth so much I confuse myself nevermind who’s standing in front of me. I wish i realised this before.

By: Rori Raye

Rori Raye — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 02:45:54 +0000

Nigma, Welcome, and thank you for your comment and insight about “shutting down.” Look forward to more of your thoughts and feelings, Love, Rori

By: Nigma

Nigma — Sun, 11 Oct 2009 15:35:49 +0000

Excellent article. I’m not one to comment very frequently on anything I find on the internet, but I stumbled across this and just had to comment. This article offers an amazing insight into the “shut down” process I believe many people (both men and women) experience as a result of our insecurities and fears. We want to bring people closer but inadvertently push them away as our reaction to our egos and insecurities get in between our true selves and the people around us. This is very powerful and useful information. Thank you all for sharing your knowledge and experiences!!!

By: Cassandra

Cassandra — Mon, 29 Dec 2008 14:22:00 +0000

I can totally relate to this issue. I definitely think that on some level I do/ did this. I am not sure about now but there are definitely times even in this ‘relationship’ that I am in where I do this. I can look at Charles and think ‘wow…he is so handsome and I am SO attracted to him.’ and then I can actually FEEL my entire vibe change at that moment. Hopefully the more I am working on ME and learning and growing here it will get better.

By: Daria

Daria — Thu, 25 Dec 2008 05:45:12 +0000

I feel really dragged down… my God-sister told me she had a conversation with that guy I like and he said he is still not sure if he is having the baby or not. I feel really heavy in my jaw and tummy. I left her house to go home by myself because I feel so down and I don’t want to feel that way and maybe cry around her or the kids. I feel low. I know it will pass and I feel overwhelmed. I love myself. I love my deep deep heavy heavy sadness.
That feel like heaviness in my jaw. I love my jaw and chin. That feels like a slight upturning of the corners of my mouth, and that feels like my eyes brightening. That feels lighter in my jaw. That feels like heavy in my tummy and upper jaw now. I love my tummy and upper jaw. That feels like a sigh. That feels like sinking into my tummy. That feels like sleepiness, like feeling tired. That feels like turning down corners of my mouth. I love my mouth corners, that feels like smiling! I feel tightness in my upper abdomen. I love my tightness in my upper abodmen! That feels like a bigger smile. My smile feels like it’s melting back down. I love my mouth and smily frown. That feels like sinking softly. I love my sinking feeling. That feels like yawning. I love my yawn. That feels like bleary eyes. I love my eyes, I love how they feel bleary. That feels like smiling, like a secret smile. I love my smile. I love my yawn. That feels like tight ankles, and I love my ankles. That feels like more smiling and I love my ankles, stomach And smile! That feels like more yawns. I love the tightness in my stomach. I am so cool to carry such deep heavy feelings. Sometimes they feel like I am caught in a vortex pulling me down, and I love my vortex. That feels good. It feels reassuring.

By: Linda G

Linda G — Thu, 25 Dec 2008 04:26:19 +0000

Wow! This is uncanny! This is exactly the problem I had just tonight! I was logging onto the sight with the exact same scenario. I have been trying my hardest to circular date. But I can’t get past the first date. I m even getting emails from men that I shut them down. Well, I got one any way. Mostly, I have been mostly highly successful, using Rori’s tools and feeling messages online and in person, reeling them in for a phone call or a date. But I don’t know what to do to get past that point of the initial hook, so to speak. I rarely get a second date.
I wish I could go to the seminar this winter.

By: Daria

Daria — Wed, 24 Dec 2008 21:49:59 +0000

I still feel like I love myself right now! Yay! I am getting very good at loving myself in public! At least that’s what it feels like right now! It’s ok to have doubts. I love my doubts. I love that I sound like a crazy person. Yay. I sound like a crazy person and I love myself. And I don’t even sound like a crazy person necessarily. HEhe. I love you guys too… and I feel embarassed to write that… and I love myself. LOL. This is fun! It’s like getting high on love…

By: Daria

Daria — Wed, 24 Dec 2008 21:45:20 +0000

I just realized I haven’t been communicating (except indirectly) with the guy I like, probably for years. We talk about everyday stuff but I don’t express my feelings.
I want to give him a power speech and I keep losing track because what I feel is a lot of rage and I feel weird saying it to him. I feel embarassed. I feel embarassed to tell him I feel embarassed. He might say you always feel mad at me… I would feel devastated blank stuck! Like I felt last time that happened. I feel so MAD. I don’t know how to express it I feel like I’m stuck I feel like ROAR I want to rip him apart like a big lion. Help??!! I feel scared I will rip him apart, even just with my mean energy. I feel sooo scared. I am such a dormat to him I am just realizing it… WAAH… I don’t know how to make it better… I feel powerless… I feel so totally caught up in his power… I want to have my power and feel what I want in this situation…

By: Daria

Daria — Wed, 24 Dec 2008 20:20:55 +0000

Wow that was a real breakthrough post for me Rori. thanks. i am actually on a date right now and I was feeling totally terrified and I was doing just that! Thank you! Hehe…

By: Erika

Erika — Wed, 24 Dec 2008 17:51:42 +0000

Beautiful entry, Rori.

Embracing our aliveness — all aspects of it, including the scary and messy ones — is the most powerful thing we can do, bot for ourselves and for everyone else in our life.