Love Spell – Oxytocin Spray For Him?
I just saw an article for a product – Oxytocin in a spray bottle.
Oxytocin is a hormone we women make plenty of that makes us feel good, makes us feel connected and loving, and makes us feel loved. It makes us feel bonded to ourselves, and it makes us feel bonded to a man.
Oxytocin is why we get so attached to a man so quickly when we sleep with him. Why we fall into the “Girlfriend Trap” so easily.
This product works when you spray it into your nose – or into the nose of your man…
You’d spray it into the nose of your man (or he’d spray it into his own nose) so he’d feel more loving feelings in the relationship – it would theoretically inspire his own oxytocin (the tiny amounts a man produces compared to the huge amounts we women produce) to get going. Oh my. What are we to make of this?
Before you go get your own Oxytocin bottle and try to spray your man’s nose in his sleep, try this:
1. Look in his eyes while he’s talking. Don’t try to multi-task, or think about anything else – just be there with him…
2. Sing with him – along with the radio, old songs you both know, at karaoke night at the neighborhood hangout (even if you don’t get onstage, sing with him during the breaks while you look in his eyes and smile).
3. Appreciate him. Tell him “Thank You” every time he does anything even remotely meant to please you – and do it from your heart.
4. Let him please you. Practice Receiving from him. Whatever he wishes to give you, no matter how small, accept his gift of a word, a hand out of the car, a pat on your rear – with a smile, a “melt” and a look in his eyes.
Let me know how this works for you – better than a spray bottle any time…
Love, Rori
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1: Kris Keimig
says:
Putting aside the fact that this product is actually suggesting that I stick a bottle up my nose and spray “love juice” up my nose in the middle of romantic dinner or starlit conversation… I think the bigger issue is that the product completely misses the point.
If you have to artificially boost your attraction for the person you are with – maybe you shouldn’t be with them.
Or you are with a man completely incapable of REAL emotion.
Or maybe people should stop looking for the quick (2 second) fix, slow down and remember WHY they actually love/care for the person they are with.
Now Rori… I am no singer – and you’ll catch me dead before you’ll catch me in a sing-along. But (even as a male) I love the advice to “just be there.” That’s not only great relationship relationship advice – it’s also great LIFE advice.
Great post!
Thursday, 18 September 2008 @ 3:32pm
2: Rori Raye
says:
How great to hear from a man!
Here’s what’s so powerful for me about Kris’s comment…we women are always so concerned about giving a man the ‘benefit of the doubt.”
We figure if he’s not affectionate, not emotionally close, we should go to any and all lengths to “make him love us.”
And what I hear men saying all the time is “Why?”
They say, as Kris did here, “Why would you work so hard for a man?”
And most men’s take on this situation is NOT that the woman’s at fault here, or that she should do something special to make him more interested – but that she’s most likely got a man who CAN’T do the job of relationship.
In other words…”Next!”
And I want you to know – there always is a Next – and Next is usually WAY better than the last. Believe that and you won’t need any love potions.
The trick is to simply be who you are – to discover that day by day, minute by minute, and let a man INTO your experience of yourself.
You fall in love with you…and HE falls in love with you.
Friday, 19 September 2008 @ 6:30pm
3: Andrea
says:
Hi Rori-
My husband is in the Air Force and deployed to the Middle East until next summer (he left 3 months ago). I am 6 months pregnant and this is our first baby. I am going through a lot of emotions and I would really like for him to be a little more involved in my pregnancy with OUR child!
He was issued a cell phone so I am able to talk to him but recently he got very angry at me because I call him to say hi 2-3 times a day and he told me he talks to me TOO MUCH. He said he gets angry because he doesn’t want to have to glue a cell phone to his ear while his friends are all playing cards or pool and he is missing the game.
I feel miserable about this because he tells me it’s not that he loves me less, or doesn’t care about me, but he doesn’t have a lot to say to me because things there are the same every day and he doesn’t want to spend 15-20 minutes on the phone multiple times a day just sitting there not talking (for the record, I work also and do a lot of the talking when we are on the phone, because I usually have something to talk about from work or my OB appointments.)
I feel like he is pulling away slowly and shutting me out of his life and it is heart-breaking. He has never once asked me how I am feeling during this pregnancy. The latest ultrasound pictures I emailed to him and the rest of my family were commented on by my WHOLE family…except for him.
He didn’t write back to it at all and then when I asked him about it he lied to me and said he hadn’t received my email…it is the exact same email address automatically stored into my computer that I use all the time and he has never had any trouble getting ANY of my emails before, so I find his story almost completely implausible.
He has lied to me before about little things that I have caught him on so I know he doesn’t hesitate to lie when he thinks it might benefit him or prevent hurting me.
I don’t know what to do. He wants to limit how much we talk now and says he doesn’t want to talk to me more than twice a day MAX (with the 7 hour time change and the fact that we both work and are busy, we didn’t really talk more than twice a day ANYHOW, but he still says that is too much). I am going crazy because I am overly-emotional due to my pregnancy and I need him to be a part of this and he is just pushing me away.
I read all of your emails and I know you have helped others so please help me to understand why my husband is pushing me away from halfway around the world!
Saturday, 20 September 2008 @ 5:25am
4: Rori Raye
says:
Andrea – This is such a powerful topic – I’m going to write a whole new post about it under Long Distance Relationships…go right here…
Monday, 22 September 2008 @ 2:07pm
5: If Your Husband Is Overseas In The Armed Forces, You Can Keep His Interest says:
[...] Andrea feels “He’s pushing me away…” (You can read Andrea’s whole comment by clicking here): [...]
Monday, 22 September 2008 @ 3:19pm
6: farouk
says:
wow, nice article
Wednesday, 17 December 2008 @ 2:53am
7: Madeline
says:
I have been in a relationship for almost two years. My relationship was great and heading forward. Now my relationship is having issues which I think are very simple to solve but I cannot seem to know how since I have tried many alternatives. My boyfriend has been acting distant for the past year. (long time I know) and ever since I havent been able to get him to come close again as he use to be. He has a profile online and he talks to several girls to which he tells me there only online girlfriends only. I believe him yes, because the girls are not from the country he is living in, but the problem is that sometimes he is more interesting is speaking to those girls than to me. Inclusively when he is chatting with me he tells me that he’s gonna leave and then he stays chatting with other girls. I have talk to him about this and I have told him how bad I feel because I truly do. He also doesnt call me like he use to, I try an try and cannot seem to get him to call this part is my fault though because he doesnt call me because I am very shy over the phone so he tells me that that makes him not want to speak to him. So okay I told him that I was sorry and that I was going to work on not being shy. So for the moment while I am working on it that I continue to chat with him but when I try he always wiats for me to initiate the conversation, I ask him stuff about himself to get to know him even more but he never really initiates the conversation, if we spend atleast 2 hours chatting I am the one talking at the most and he is speaking with me and other girls as well. I ask him if there is anything I can help with incase his job or anything is making him stress I want to understand him. But he tells me that the problem is that since we are far the (relationship is long distance) he sometimes feels lonely and acts like that. He said he is willing to wait until he sees me. We have waited for two years, I will see him next year, so thats the other issue how can I keep him interested when he seems to leave everything in my hands. Last he also tells me that he is willing to wait but that he doesnt know for how long because he wants to have a kid. He’s 21 and I am 18 I told him we need to wait because I want to keep focuse in school still. But he says he wants a kid now. I am afraid he may later change his mine and just leave with another girl for that but I will try to be ready and put myself first before any guy. Love comes from within I understand. The issues are simple but my bf doesnt seem to cooperate. Please help with any advice because I want to keep my relationship.
Wednesday, 21 January 2009 @ 5:13pm
8: oxyman
says:
I think the spray that is being referred to is Liquid Trust. I have used it (I’m a man) and found it to improve my confidence and also to appeared to make women feel more at ease with me.
Friday, 31 July 2009 @ 8:26am
9: oxytocin
says:
In response to oxyman I have also used the liquid trust spray and find the experience very subjective. For me it really depended on my state of mind before I applied it. For instance if I was feeling down it wouldn’t do much for me however if I was feeling in anyway good it magnified that.
Tuesday, 20 October 2009 @ 3:27am