Comments on: Romance Yourself And Bring Him IN http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/romance-yourself-and-bring-him-in/ Marriage & Relationship Advice From Rori Raye Thu, 11 Mar 2010 21:49:49 +0000 hourly 1 By: Daria http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/romance-yourself-and-bring-him-in/comment-page-2/#comment-1962 Daria Fri, 05 Dec 2008 09:29:34 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=245#comment-1962 Hey JP... thank you for the pro-floozy comment! It sounds awesome that way and made me feel good! Hey JP… thank you for the pro-floozy comment! It sounds awesome that way and made me feel good!

]]> By: JP http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/romance-yourself-and-bring-him-in/comment-page-2/#comment-1944 JP Fri, 05 Dec 2008 01:48:27 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=245#comment-1944 I want to backtrack to the FLOOZY comments and say I'm all for floozies. Floozies rock! Floozies can fall in and out of love, ask for what they want, have tantrums and ride on the wonderfully turbulent Ocean of Emotions. It's a great way to experiment and try out the stuff that eventually blossoms into relationship skills, it's a School - so form a disorderly queue for enrolment :) I want to backtrack to the FLOOZY comments and say I’m all for floozies. Floozies rock! Floozies can fall in and out of love, ask for what they want, have tantrums and ride on the wonderfully turbulent Ocean of Emotions. It’s a great way to experiment and try out the stuff that eventually blossoms into relationship skills, it’s a School – so form a disorderly queue for enrolment :)

]]> By: Cassandra http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/romance-yourself-and-bring-him-in/comment-page-2/#comment-1909 Cassandra Thu, 04 Dec 2008 20:18:43 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=245#comment-1909 Thanks A.G.!! I hope you find your sheets!:-) I definitely know that being married to a wonderful man who is also my best friend and having a family is definitely one of the things that I am to do. Some women are wired for career and that is great but I am not Miss Corporate America and have never wanted that for myself. I think that my biggest wants in life are indeed to be married to my best friend and have a family...some people especially some women look down on that because women have worked so hard to get to where they are in the workplace but forget that not all women want that high powered career life....I am one of them. I would be so happy to be able to take care of my husband and my children and our home. That is a job in itself and one that I would love to do each day. I do hope that it happens for me...sometimes I want it so badly with Charles but then again sometimes I wonder if he is REALLY capable of being that family man that I want and need in a marriage. I do hope that it will turn out that way for us - things have been going really well lately so that is good but he still plans on me moving out as soon as I have a good job and of course now with this cancer thing - once I am totally free of all of that. I don't get it. If you love someone why would you want them to go away? He says that it is because he wants things to be right with us spiritually and that we should not be living together but I did not create this...he did. I did come here to marry him and he was the one to change things. I don't want to move when I get a job...I really don't and if I have to ...I amnot sure that I would ever be able to come back if we were to marry - I think I would always have that fear of having to leave again for whatever reason. In ay case...thanks for your support AG! XOXO Love and hugs to you! Cassandra Thanks A.G.!! I hope you find your sheets!:-) I definitely know that being married to a wonderful man who is also my best friend and having a family is definitely one of the things that I am to do. Some women are wired for career and that is great but I am not Miss Corporate America and have never wanted that for myself. I think that my biggest wants in life are indeed to be married to my best friend and have a family…some people especially some women look down on that because women have worked so hard to get to where they are in the workplace but forget that not all women want that high powered career life….I am one of them. I would be so happy to be able to take care of my husband and my children and our home. That is a job in itself and one that I would love to do each day. I do hope that it happens for me…sometimes I want it so badly with Charles but then again sometimes I wonder if he is REALLY capable of being that family man that I want and need in a marriage. I do hope that it will turn out that way for us – things have been going really well lately so that is good but he still plans on me moving out as soon as I have a good job and of course now with this cancer thing – once I am totally free of all of that. I don’t get it. If you love someone why would you want them to go away? He says that it is because he wants things to be right with us spiritually and that we should not be living together but I did not create this…he did. I did come here to marry him and he was the one to change things. I don’t want to move when I get a job…I really don’t and if I have to …I amnot sure that I would ever be able to come back if we were to marry – I think I would always have that fear of having to leave again for whatever reason. In ay case…thanks for your support AG!
XOXO
Love and hugs to you!
Cassandra

]]> By: alias girl http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/romance-yourself-and-bring-him-in/comment-page-2/#comment-1905 alias girl Thu, 04 Dec 2008 18:34:15 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=245#comment-1905 oooooooh thanks for the overstock tip! i am totally going to check it out! i think you are doin great cassandra. right where you are supposed tobe. if what you want is marriage and kids maybe THAT is what you came here to do? just a thought. :) xo oooooooh thanks for the overstock tip! i am totally going to check it out!

i think you are doin great cassandra. right where you are supposed tobe. if what you want is marriage and kids maybe THAT is what you came here to do? just a thought. :) xo

]]> By: Cassandra http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/romance-yourself-and-bring-him-in/comment-page-2/#comment-1899 Cassandra Thu, 04 Dec 2008 16:41:26 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=245#comment-1899 Thanks Guys for your support and love...as always! I do believe that I will beat this as I have been through a whole lot worse with my health in the past so I know that it is NOT my time to go anywhere yet. I am not sure how I know that but I just do. I know that there are things that I am supposed to do before I leave this place. That is one thing that I do feel guilty about in that I know what I am supposed to do but I have not been able to do it becuase I have been focused on things that I want as in being with Charles....being married....having a baby..etc. I know that i have gotten so far off track as far as that is concerned. Oh well..all I can do is try to get back on track and do what I am supposed to do. :-) Thanks for all of your encouragement and support...you guys mean so much to me....you just don't know!!! A.G.......I LOVED what you said about the romance thing and all of the things that you want to do! I love that kind of stuff!! I love to decorate and redo stuff!! You are so right though in that the men take their cues from us! They certainly do! I don't ever want to be one of those women that allows anyone to mistreat her. I know that Charles has done some bad stuff but none of us are perfect and as soon as I can get a job then I can spread my wings and fly......I will be able to do what it is that I want to do for ME. I do want to be with him so much but only if his behavior is right for the long-term....if not then it is HIS loss! As for your sheets...try Overstock.com. They have awesome stuff there for pretty reasonable prices. I got a beautiful sheet set there a few years ago that was supr expensive in stores but I paid waaaaaaay less than that. Treat yourself...you deserve it! :-) Love and hugs to all... Cassandra Thanks Guys for your support and love…as always! I do believe that I will beat this as I have been through a whole lot worse with my health in the past so I know that it is NOT my time to go anywhere yet. I am not sure how I know that but I just do. I know that there are things that I am supposed to do before I leave this place. That is one thing that I do feel guilty about in that I know what I am supposed to do but I have not been able to do it becuase I have been focused on things that I want as in being with Charles….being married….having a baby..etc. I know that i have gotten so far off track as far as that is concerned. Oh well..all I can do is try to get back on track and do what I am supposed to do. :-) Thanks for all of your encouragement and support…you guys mean so much to me….you just don’t know!!!

A.G…….I LOVED what you said about the romance thing and all of the things that you want to do! I love that kind of stuff!! I love to decorate and redo stuff!! You are so right though in that the men take their cues from us! They certainly do! I don’t ever want to be one of those women that allows anyone to mistreat her. I know that Charles has done some bad stuff but none of us are perfect and as soon as I can get a job then I can spread my wings and fly……I will be able to do what it is that I want to do for ME. I do want to be with him so much but only if his behavior is right for the long-term….if not then it is HIS loss!

As for your sheets…try Overstock.com. They have awesome stuff there for pretty reasonable prices. I got a beautiful sheet set there a few years ago that was supr expensive in stores but I paid waaaaaaay less than that. Treat yourself…you deserve it! :-)
Love and hugs to all…
Cassandra

]]> By: alias girl http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/romance-yourself-and-bring-him-in/comment-page-2/#comment-1891 alias girl Thu, 04 Dec 2008 08:15:00 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=245#comment-1891 i just reread this post about romance. i want to get new sheets. actually i want to buy a home but will be happy with new sheets as well. and maybe a new throw blanket. another candle. maybe a nice bracelet. paint my kitchen (rather have a new home than spend more sweat and time fixing this place up) get some romantic cds. and a nice comfy HUGE couch. oh i'd love to have a fireplace and a jacuzzi. mmmm. some bubble bath. that sounds so nice. yes this definitely helps with the romance part of the equation bc the guy is going to take his cues from the woman. also if she is vulnerable and accepting about being romantic then it sort of gives him permission. rather than her Not being romantic with herself and just waiting on him to come fill up that bucket. we all know the people who will let people treat them bad. not that everybody does treat them bad but most everybody could bc they are sending out those signals. some people are even unconsciously Begging to be treated bad and are even doing things to unintentionally yet purposefully irritate others so they can have the world mirror their self hatred.my point is we have allmet the sort of woman also who you just know would Never tolerate a certain kind of poor behavior. and she treats herself and those around her with respect. men take their cues from us. so it makes sense it would be the same in the romance category. i just reread this post about romance. i want to get new sheets. actually i want to buy a home but will be happy with new sheets as well. and maybe a new throw blanket. another candle. maybe a nice bracelet. paint my kitchen (rather have a new home than spend more sweat and time fixing this place up)

get some romantic cds. and a nice comfy HUGE couch. oh i’d love to have a fireplace and a jacuzzi. mmmm. some bubble bath. that sounds so nice. yes this definitely helps with the romance part of the equation bc the guy is going to take his cues from the woman. also if she is vulnerable and accepting about being romantic then it sort of gives him permission. rather than her Not being romantic with herself and just waiting on him to come fill up that bucket.

we all know the people who will let people treat them bad. not that everybody does treat them bad but most everybody could bc they are sending out those signals. some people are even unconsciously Begging to be treated bad and are even doing things to unintentionally yet purposefully irritate others so they can have the world mirror their self hatred.my point is we have allmet the sort of woman also who you just know would Never tolerate a certain kind of poor behavior. and she treats herself and those around her with respect.

men take their cues from us. so it makes sense it would be the same in the romance category.

]]> By: alias girl http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/romance-yourself-and-bring-him-in/comment-page-2/#comment-1890 alias girl Thu, 04 Dec 2008 08:03:05 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=245#comment-1890 thank you for the support cassandra! i still feel good about my decision so i guess it was the right one for me i am sorry to hear about your health issues. that sounds like a very frightening situation to face. i can imagine it is bringing up some anxiety. the body is AMAZING though and has a terrific capacity to heal itself. just as in every other area of life miracles exist and happen and things can turn right around. i would try to keep my mind focussed on health rather than disease. you can have all you want in life. You Can. you can have the health you have worked so hard for. i am rooting for you! /d it sounds like you and charles have actually made amazing progress in your communication. congrats. that's really awesome! thank you for the support cassandra! i still feel good about my decision so i guess it was the right one for me

i am sorry to hear about your health issues. that sounds like a very frightening situation to face. i can imagine it is bringing up some anxiety. the body is AMAZING though and has a terrific capacity to heal itself. just as in every other area of life miracles exist and happen and things can turn right around. i would try to keep my mind focussed on health rather than disease. you can have all you want in life. You Can. you can have the health you have worked so hard for. i am rooting for you! /d it sounds like you and charles have actually made amazing progress in your communication. congrats. that’s really awesome!

]]> By: Cassandra http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/romance-yourself-and-bring-him-in/comment-page-2/#comment-1872 Cassandra Wed, 03 Dec 2008 20:27:36 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=245#comment-1872 Thanks Reshi. Now that you mention it I remember that as well so that is where I will start. :-) Alias Girl....it is so awesome that you made a decision based on what YOU wanted and went with it with no regrets. That is huge steps forward. YAY for you!!! :-) XOXOXO Cassandra Thanks Reshi. Now that you mention it I remember that as well so that is where I will start. :-) Alias Girl….it is so awesome that you made a decision based on what YOU wanted and went with it with no regrets. That is huge steps forward. YAY for you!!! :-)
XOXOXO
Cassandra

]]> By: Reshi http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/romance-yourself-and-bring-him-in/comment-page-2/#comment-1871 Reshi Wed, 03 Dec 2008 19:33:52 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=245#comment-1871 I think I recall Rori saying that Reconnect had a lot of the basics that the other programs build on. I started with it and it's a great program. I think I recall Rori saying that Reconnect had a lot of the basics that the other programs build on. I started with it and it’s a great program.

]]> By: alias girl http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/romance-yourself-and-bring-him-in/comment-page-1/#comment-1870 alias girl Wed, 03 Dec 2008 19:31:41 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=245#comment-1870 i am so grateful and honored to be able to witness other people go through their process here. it really is amazing. and to see people grow and also the compassion in people's responses to each other is really teaching me alot. since i don't have a lot of close girlfriends it is helpful for me to see healthy responses to each other and alos just to read the honesty written. btw i had sex with an ex last night. one of the unchoosable ones. similar to daria's situation with baby mama drama etc. so many circumstantial reasons why i could not or rather would not choose him. it would be a book to tell it all. in fact it just may be a book. heheh. anyway it was unplanned and i made the decision and i don't regret it. i do feel emotionally connected to him again which to be honest is what i wanted. i had just felt so alone and to be with someone i connect with is kind of a gift for me. anyway. i am still completely open to circular dating and developing rockstar status. and finding my good guy to settle down with. things aren't always a straight line or easily categorized. i am learning that by reading other women's stories. i feel mega vulnerable. argh. not sure why the pirate sound (argh) follows feeling mega vulnerable but it does. i am so grateful and honored to be able to witness other people go through their process here. it really is amazing. and to see people grow and also the compassion in people’s responses to each other is really teaching me alot. since i don’t have a lot of close girlfriends it is helpful for me to see healthy responses to each other and alos just to read the honesty written.

btw i had sex with an ex last night. one of the unchoosable ones. similar to daria’s situation with baby mama drama etc. so many circumstantial reasons why i could not or rather would not choose him. it would be a book to tell it all. in fact it just may be a book. heheh.

anyway it was unplanned and i made the decision and i don’t regret it. i do feel emotionally connected to him again which to be honest is what i wanted. i had just felt so alone and to be with someone i connect with is kind of a gift for me. anyway. i am still completely open to circular dating and developing rockstar status. and finding my good guy to settle down with.

things aren’t always a straight line or easily categorized. i am learning that by reading other women’s stories. i feel mega vulnerable. argh. not sure why the pirate sound (argh) follows feeling mega vulnerable but it does.

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