Comments on: Seeing Love With New Eyes http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/seeing-love-with-new-eyes/ Marriage & Relationship Advice From Rori Raye Thu, 11 Mar 2010 07:58:34 +0000 hourly 1 By: heartbeat http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/seeing-love-with-new-eyes/comment-page-1/#comment-4458 heartbeat Thu, 29 Jan 2009 00:32:59 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=289#comment-4458 What an amazing bunch of women - I've loved this post and all the comments. I feel grateful. What an amazing bunch of women – I’ve loved this post and all the comments. I feel grateful.

]]> By: Cassandra http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/seeing-love-with-new-eyes/comment-page-1/#comment-4449 Cassandra Wed, 28 Jan 2009 22:09:06 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=289#comment-4449 Heartbeat...that is so awesome that you are also haveing pictures done! I definitely appluad that and the truth that you love yourslef no matter what anyone else thinks, says or does. I aspire to get there. thank you for being an inspiration. Reshi....I loved the beautiful image of your imaginary marriage. Sometimes people tell me taht I live in a bubble but you know what? My bubble (without all of the drama of Charles and his antics at times) has always been such a happy and peaceful and beautiful place. So what if it isn't reality for most people...it is for me and that is what has always mattered to me. I love that image of what you imagined....it really is beautiful. Sometimes I would rather be in my bubble world than in the real world....it is so much more beautiful in here and now I know taht I am not alone in here!!! DocK...I am so glad that you are ok! That is so cool how you just leaned back during a terribly intense time emotionally I am sure...being so shaken up and look.....3 hotties come out of nowhere to assist a beautiful damsel in distress! How cool is that?! Cookie...I am sorry that you are feeling so down and that it has taken me so long to get to this post. I can totally relate to what youa re saying as I am feeling the same way. I do love my fiance but am realizing.....oh so slowly but surely that I may not ever have the things that I REALLY want with him - marriage and a family of my own. If I stay with him then I could be setting myself up to never have those things but if I leave I have to start all over again that terrifies me. I have not dated that much - I have always been in relationships for long periods of time. I have always been afriad of dating because in the indusrty that I worked in for most of my life thus far men have wanted to be with me because I was in the entertainment industry and have worked with many well known artists...or because my name was on a kiosk as a headliner or I was 'with the band'..... NOT for who I am. I have always been afraid that most men had/have the same motives even today so if I am not in a rekationship then I mind my own business and don't even make eye contact with a man. I am getting more scared each day that if I do stay with Charles that I could miss out so I completely understand where you are. I send you a huge hug! Melissa....you are doing wonderfully. I agree with Daria and Hearbeat......let him row the boat and you enjoy the ride...be open and warm when he moves forward and FEEL the wonderful feelings along the way!! You go Goddess!!! I have really struggled with this exact thing.....enjoying the ride. I am so anxious about what is going to happen in the future tha I can't enjoy the NOW. Even now since things have been so much better with Charles...I still have that feeling that the other shoe is going to drop that I can't seem to let go and enjoy the NOW with him for fear that he will do something again to hurt me in some way. not a good feeling. I want to be able to let go and enjoy this ride but I also feel so much pressure about time and my age. I do want a family of my own and I don't jhave alot of time left to have a child of my own..that scares me. You guys are all so amazing! XOXOXO Heartbeat…that is so awesome that you are also haveing pictures done! I definitely appluad that and the truth that you love yourslef no matter what anyone else thinks, says or does. I aspire to get there. thank you for being an inspiration.

Reshi….I loved the beautiful image of your imaginary marriage. Sometimes people tell me taht I live in a bubble but you know what? My bubble (without all of the drama of Charles and his antics at times) has always been such a happy and peaceful and beautiful place. So what if it isn’t reality for most people…it is for me and that is what has always mattered to me. I love that image of what you imagined….it really is beautiful. Sometimes I would rather be in my bubble world than in the real world….it is so much more beautiful in here and now I know taht I am not alone in here!!!

DocK…I am so glad that you are ok! That is so cool how you just leaned back during a terribly intense time emotionally I am sure…being so shaken up and look…..3 hotties come out of nowhere to assist a beautiful damsel in distress! How cool is that?!

Cookie…I am sorry that you are feeling so down and that it has taken me so long to get to this post. I can totally relate to what youa re saying as I am feeling the same way. I do love my fiance but am realizing…..oh so slowly but surely that I may not ever have the things that I REALLY want with him – marriage and a family of my own. If I stay with him then I could be setting myself up to never have those things but if I leave I have to start all over again that terrifies me. I have not dated that much – I have always been in relationships for long periods of time. I have always been afriad of dating because in the indusrty that I worked in for most of my life thus far men have wanted to be with me because I was in the entertainment industry and have worked with many well known artists…or because my name was on a kiosk as a headliner or I was ‘with the band’….. NOT for who I am. I have always been afraid that most men had/have the same motives even today so if I am not in a rekationship then I mind my own business and don’t even make eye contact with a man. I am getting more scared each day that if I do stay with Charles that I could miss out so I completely understand where you are. I send you a huge hug!

Melissa….you are doing wonderfully. I agree with Daria and Hearbeat……let him row the boat and you enjoy the ride…be open and warm when he moves forward and FEEL the wonderful feelings along the way!! You go Goddess!!!

I have really struggled with this exact thing…..enjoying the ride. I am so anxious about what is going to happen in the future tha I can’t enjoy the NOW. Even now since things have been so much better with Charles…I still have that feeling that the other shoe is going to drop that I can’t seem to let go and enjoy the NOW with him for fear that he will do something again to hurt me in some way. not a good feeling. I want to be able to let go and enjoy this ride but I also feel so much pressure about time and my age. I do want a family of my own and I don’t jhave alot of time left to have a child of my own..that scares me.

You guys are all so amazing!
XOXOXO

]]> By: heartbeat http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/seeing-love-with-new-eyes/comment-page-1/#comment-4419 heartbeat Tue, 27 Jan 2009 23:46:09 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=289#comment-4419 or "I feel really good/happy/excited right now with you" Yay keep going Melissa! or “I feel really good/happy/excited right now with you”

Yay keep going Melissa!

]]> By: Daria http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/seeing-love-with-new-eyes/comment-page-1/#comment-4415 Daria Tue, 27 Jan 2009 22:16:17 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=289#comment-4415 Melissa it sounds like you're doing great! Keep it up, and keep adding other men and continue practicing being open with the feeling messages... Why has the guy at work not asked you out... perhaps he is about to? Maybe you could say... I would feel open to dating you again you know, what do you think? or... It would feel great to go out with you... or... nothing... and see if he CAN step up on his own. If not there are MORE out there! Melissa it sounds like you’re doing great! Keep it up, and keep adding other men and continue practicing being open with the feeling messages…

Why has the guy at work not asked you out… perhaps he is about to? Maybe you could say… I would feel open to dating you again you know, what do you think?

or… It would feel great to go out with you…

or… nothing… and see if he CAN step up on his own. If not there are MORE out there!

]]> By: Melissa http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/seeing-love-with-new-eyes/comment-page-1/#comment-4385 Melissa Tue, 27 Jan 2009 05:04:53 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=289#comment-4385 In my marriage,I so identify with being in the masculine energy..always doing doing doing.. and everything. Thats not the way it started but the way it ended up. I also let myself go as I was too busy taking care of everything and everyone. With Roris help, I am now focused on ME.. taking better care of myself and MY needs. I have been divorced over a year. He does respond to me differently now.. Hes stepping up to the plate with money..alot more than he did before. AND I can see the twinkle in his eye now.. the one that he had when we first met. Interestingly enough, when we were married, he told me I had to care about myself first. I am comfortable meeting men etc. But havent been asked out in ages. I thought of Rori this am,..When I was in Starbucks, I used feeling messages on the very very young barista.and he started flirting with me big time..I loved it. At work, I have had a flirtation with a guy for a very long time. When I was first divorced we went out, had a great time, made out etc...He was going through something which made him unavailable, as well. Everytime I see him, my heart almost stops. He always hugs and kisses me.. I do just melt in his arms. He continued to flirt..Today he winked at me at least 6 times in the hour we were in the same room (cafeteria)together...Oh by the way, I did lean back when he approached me today.. and several minutes after we were in conversation..He took me in his arms.. WOW.. I wanted to go home with him..I do flirt with him looking at him for 3-5 secs like Rori suggests..and he flirts back.. However, it hasnt gone any further. He is single.. Any suggestions...?? In my marriage,I so identify with being in the masculine energy..always doing doing doing.. and everything. Thats not the way it started but the way it ended up. I also let myself go as I was too busy taking care of everything and everyone.

With Roris help, I am now focused on ME.. taking better care of myself and MY needs. I have been divorced over a year. He does respond to me differently now.. Hes stepping up to the plate with money..alot more than he did before. AND I can see the twinkle in his eye now.. the one that he had when we first met. Interestingly enough, when we were married, he told me I had to care about myself first.

I am comfortable meeting men etc. But havent been asked out in ages.

I thought of Rori this am,..When I was in Starbucks, I used feeling messages on the very very young barista.and he started flirting with me big time..I loved it.

At work, I have had a flirtation with a guy for a very long time. When I was first divorced we went out, had a great time, made out etc…He was going through something which made him unavailable, as well.

Everytime I see him, my heart almost stops. He always hugs and kisses me.. I do just melt in his arms. He continued to flirt..Today he winked at me at least 6 times in the hour we were in the same room (cafeteria)together…Oh by the way, I did lean back when he approached me today.. and several minutes after we were in conversation..He took me in his arms.. WOW.. I wanted to go home with him..I do flirt with him looking at him for 3-5 secs like Rori suggests..and he flirts back.. However, it hasnt gone any further. He is single..

Any suggestions…??

]]> By: Cookie http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/seeing-love-with-new-eyes/comment-page-1/#comment-4300 Cookie Sun, 25 Jan 2009 01:42:39 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=289#comment-4300 thank u linda for responding to me i read ur response in the other post n it was so right on thank u. i guess i keep stepping forward then being afraid to keep moving because of fear. its great to read that are progressing so. thank u linda for responding to me i read ur response in the other post n it was so right on thank u. i guess i keep stepping forward then being afraid to keep moving because of fear. its great to read that are progressing so.

]]> By: Linda G http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/seeing-love-with-new-eyes/comment-page-1/#comment-4297 Linda G Sat, 24 Jan 2009 23:04:42 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=289#comment-4297 Oh, and getting back to me... I also realized I treated my precious drawing like I do my relationships, I ruined it by overfunctionung and sprayed it to death with fixative, which absolutely corrupted the subtleties and finesse! Oh, and getting back to me… I also realized I treated my precious drawing like I do my relationships, I ruined it by overfunctionung and sprayed it to death with fixative, which absolutely corrupted the subtleties and finesse!

]]> By: Linda G http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/seeing-love-with-new-eyes/comment-page-1/#comment-4296 Linda G Sat, 24 Jan 2009 23:02:25 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=289#comment-4296 Dear Cookie; I would follow the advice Rori gives in her newest blog post about turning around your marriage, even though it is not the exact scenario, it's still the correct course of action. Dear Cookie; I would follow the advice Rori gives in her newest blog post about turning around your marriage, even though it is not the exact scenario, it’s still the correct course of action.

]]> By: cookie http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/seeing-love-with-new-eyes/comment-page-1/#comment-4289 cookie Sat, 24 Jan 2009 18:43:10 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=289#comment-4289 Linda, I feel some of the feelings u described about not being able to connect to men. I'm feeling so much pressure to make movement in my life my parents want grandchildren n I been w the same man for 7 yrs. He used to talk about kids n family our whole time together now all of sudden he doesn't ever bring it up. Now that I'm ready. I don't know what to do I wish rori would respond to this one cuz I can't stop thinking about no matter how manythings,classes,etc I add to my life I still feel empty n sad. Linda, I feel some of the feelings u described about not being able to connect to men. I’m feeling so much pressure to make movement in my life my parents want grandchildren n I been w the same man for 7 yrs. He used to talk about kids n family our whole time together now all of sudden he doesn’t ever bring it up. Now that I’m ready. I don’t know what to do I wish rori would respond to this one cuz I can’t stop thinking about no matter how manythings,classes,etc I add to my life I still feel empty n sad.

]]> By: Ann http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/seeing-love-with-new-eyes/comment-page-1/#comment-4268 Ann Sat, 24 Jan 2009 04:06:03 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=289#comment-4268 Since I like to draw tho ,I haven't allow myself to get lost in art in months, I'm loving this post and all the comments. I often look for things to help me open my eyes and really "see". At the moment, I feel, I see a group of woman(everyone who post here at any time) who reach out to connect and support each other. High 5's and Hugs for all of us! Since I like to draw tho ,I haven’t allow myself to get lost in art in months, I’m loving this post and all the comments. I often look for things to help me open my eyes and really “see”. At the moment, I feel, I see a group of woman(everyone who post here at any time) who reach out to connect and support each other.

High 5’s and Hugs for all of us!

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