Comments on: Your Love Life Works Best Organically

By: heartbeat

heartbeat — Sat, 28 Feb 2009 13:05:02 +0000

Daria – I feel itchy lol! I have two cats and I put those drops on the back of their necks, as I get a bad allergic reaction to bites. Maybe I can emo that too…

Flipper you are right on the button – I’ve been reflecting on my process on differences. I feel two parts – 1. I don’t want something, and 2. I feel fear. So I end up setting aside my don’t want and getting interested in the alternative. I haven’t known any different. Until now – now I feel, using this amazing emotrance, calmer about speaking my don’t want WITHOUT getting triggered, aqnd still being interested in the alternative. I’ve been imagining situations and practising when my feelings come up – fear, shrinking – and even just thinking about emo I feel the tension melt away!

I’m emo-ing all day.

By: Flipper

Flipper — Sat, 28 Feb 2009 12:12:01 +0000

Heartbeat – it felt so good to read your response (on the other post). I felt tears reading your posts earlier, too. A friend just reminded me about basing myself more from the don’t wants than the wants when things involve some conflict, and I feel that coming through your processes. <3

By: Daria

Daria — Sat, 28 Feb 2009 06:04:11 +0000

I feel miserable. I feel a little amused to share why though. I went to my friend’s aunt’s house and I think a flea jumped on me. I keep tingling everywhere and my body is reacting. My shoulder tensed up really hard out of nowhere from a tingle. I put some grapefruit essential oil right now on myself but my shoulder is still feeling really tense and ANGRy my lips are pouted. I feel whiny. And I am loving my feelings, I love my feeling sand I feel disgusted and mad and guilty. I feel guilty because I judge those people as dirty and also because I have my moms voice in my head and I imagine her judging them as dirty and saying ew how can you hang out in that dirty house with those people. The house was very dirty. I feel very tolerant but also I have this mom’s voice and I feel guilty about it. Also I feel like the flea is jumping around my back and on my thighs all over. It’s probably not but it’s making feel like that and I hate that feeling and when my cat has before brought fleas. I feel dirty and disgusting and miserable. And I love my feelings and the pain my muscles feel tensing up and rejecting and revolting. I love myself and my reactions.

Thank you.

By: Linmayu

Linmayu — Sat, 28 Feb 2009 04:15:01 +0000

Thanks Daria and Heartbeat for the compliments on my name; that makes me feel really good. It’s a name I decided to give myself some time ago, just because I decided that I wanted to feel good whenever someone said my name, and for some reason that was not the case with the name I had been given by my parents.

Project Sanctuary sounds right up my alley. Thanks so much for pointing me there. I will also check out the books.

Ana, I feel sorry to hear that you are experiencing hurt in a relationship. It feels so similar to the hurt I experienced in the last relationship I had…I want to say that you are in the right place. Rori has helped me SO much over these last several months; I was just awed today at how strong and connected to myself I feel. When I was in the painful place of being verbally abused and thrown out by a man I never could have imagined feeling strong. Now that I am out from under his shadow I have started to take in the sunlight and grow stronger and deeper-rooted within myself. It is an interesting and wonderful feeling.

By: heartbeat

heartbeat — Sat, 28 Feb 2009 01:54:52 +0000

Ana – I’m writing this for me too, so I never forget – I remember how my pain and anger energised me from moment to moment… every moment I could I would ask myself ‘what would feel better than THIS’ and ‘what would feel better than this PAIN’ moment after moment. Sometimes I’d do something wild and outlandish, sometimes I’d do something small… until one day I started to come back into peace, and I wanted to experiment, do new things, meet new people, cry, laugh and make mistakes (after all, I’d nothing to lose as i felt I’d lost everything), and learn. And I got to experiment and practice on lots of men, even the man who’d dumped me for an ex-girlfriend (I’d ignored the red flags), and eventually the man I’m with now (and other men who are around). I feel incredibly honoured and grateful to be part of this community and feel hopeful for you. xxxxxx

By: Rori Raye

Rori Raye — Sat, 28 Feb 2009 01:25:57 +0000

Ana, Welcome – and I’m so sorry you’re in so much pain – and yet I hear your strength and determination to feel good and get what you want. Just put that HAPPY EVER AFTER in lights for yourself, and we’ll get there…perhaps all it will take is a moment…just one…Love, Rori

By: heartbeat

heartbeat — Sat, 28 Feb 2009 00:47:58 +0000

darn forgot to tick the little box….

By: heartbeat

heartbeat — Sat, 28 Feb 2009 00:40:02 +0000

So much wisdom here – feels like a gift! THANK YOU.

I’m experiencing what’s beneath my fear and anger in reltionships and starting to express it and it feels scary and good at the same time.

Reflection I feel very very interested in your upcoming post on Painbody – I feel longing to read it.

Linmayu (GORGEOUS name!) you wrote (as Reshi) “a trigger–something happens to make me doubt the other person loves me, then I react with anger” … in my case angry feelings which I don’t want to express because i feel all tangled up in whether it’s ‘my stuff’ or ‘relationship’ (unless it’s something big and obvious) especially when I feel like I’m not being cared for ‘properly’.

I feel grateful for the opportunity to notice this struggle of mine and feel more real, and am curious as to how that will translate into how I speak.

I’ve come far, and this feels like the deep icky stuff coming up for me. I feel tense and sick and want o hide away, next minute I feel calm and open, excited about my LIFE, and almost nonchalant about my relationship.

That’s not a lot of detail, but I’m catching up on posts, which I’ve been reading and thoroughly appreciating and drinking in the wonderfullness.

By: Ana Thomas

Ana Thomas — Fri, 27 Feb 2009 21:27:26 +0000

Lori, I have just signed up recently and it seems like every blog was relating to my day. Broken relationship that I did not see coming, trying to communicate with him and he did not want it. Last night, after just over a year in the relationship, he snap at me very hard. Again, with the verbal abuse and telling me to get out of his house. I left and said to myself (hearing the voices) I will not tolerate this behavior. It has gone on for too long. And today starting the steps to a new life, it was good to read this blog. You do not know how your blogs have helped me just in a short time. I feel for the words, the never leave me and you are everything i wanted and when he switched without notice to the opposite, I was devastated. I cannot eat, I constantly have him on my mind, heart racing, cant sleep etc.

Please, please continue with the blogs. You are not only helping me…..you are helping others

Ana

By: Daria

Daria — Fri, 27 Feb 2009 20:10:55 +0000

Ok I am now ready to share… I feel excited. Also got a chance to rewrite my profile since it got erased. I feel comfortable and a little blank.