Here’s a question from Sandi that I’ve turned into a full post:
” Rori, Hello, I had a quick question, I had a amazing relationship that started off with everything I have ever wanted ..as my feelings grew stronger and turned into a deep love I started to let my nasty voice win ..rule my insecurities about how he really felt about me instead of just trusting what I knew to be true which was his mutual growing love and commitment for me …
I became the overdoer, become needy, a constant worrier and I took control ..pretty much did every “Don’t Do”~ and the result was I ended up pushing him away and that just made me go into fix it mode and try showing him the amazing person I know I am and I started overfunctioning.
I have learned that my actions made him withdrawal to the point where he decided a relationship just wasn’t what he wanted right now. I see everything so clearly now and have learned everything I did wrong and that I seemed to have ruined the very thing I have been searching for my whole life ..what we had was so beautiful .. my question is what is my general chance of him giving me another chance or have at this point are they pretty much gone for good??
If not how do I go about showing him I am really Not that needy over functioning, unattractive women I became.? How can I show him the real me the feminine energy partner I want to be. I have learned the tools and know how not to revert back ..I just really want other chance ..but don’t know if men come back after pushing them away like I have done?
Thank You.! I feel blessed to have come across you and have been given the chance to learn and grow as a women ..such value~able life changing info. ..cant thank you enough!
Sandi – Here’s the deal – you can’t just suddenly “pretend” to be this woman you want to be.
It has to be a practice you do over time that changes you from the inside out, helped by the new things you do and say from the outside in.
You can do it QUICKLY if you practice hard and Circular Date for practice – but you have to learn the Tools and do it.
Please start with the ebook NOW and just DO everything, over and over, 24/7 (yeah – watch your dreams, too…) and practice on everyone you meet, everyone you know – and with yourself in the mirror and the writing exercises.
You can do this…and don’t worry about “showing” him ANYTHING.
If you truly shift, he’ll pick up on it RIGHT AWAY.
Even if he’s not in town!
He’ll forget about everything old, and as you prove to him consistently that he’s safe with you, and you’re not going to be his “mother” – all may very well be okay.