Comments on: Healing Hearts By the Holidays http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/breakup-divorce/healing-hearts-by-the-holidays/ Marriage & Relationship Advice From Rori Raye Sat, 31 Jul 2010 00:37:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=5675 By: Tracy http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/breakup-divorce/healing-hearts-by-the-holidays/comment-page-2/#comment-16284 Tracy Tue, 22 Sep 2009 14:21:22 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=760#comment-16284 Linda, Thank you......I feel more encouraged and its amazing how others see a progress in us that we sometimes fail to notice in ourselves...Hugs! Linda,
Thank you……I feel more encouraged and its amazing how others see a progress in us that we sometimes fail to notice in ourselves…Hugs!

]]> By: Linda http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/breakup-divorce/healing-hearts-by-the-holidays/comment-page-2/#comment-16186 Linda Mon, 21 Sep 2009 03:19:38 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=760#comment-16186 Tracy... be encouraged. You have made so much progress. It is wonderful to know that I am not in this alone. Your posts often inspire me. Your vunerablilty and willingness to share helps me accept my humaness. You too are becoming a beautiful butterfly. Hugs Linda Tracy… be encouraged. You have made so much progress. It is wonderful to know that I am not in this alone. Your posts often inspire me. Your vunerablilty and willingness to share helps me accept my humaness.

You too are becoming a beautiful butterfly.

Hugs Linda

]]> By: Linda http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/breakup-divorce/healing-hearts-by-the-holidays/comment-page-2/#comment-16185 Linda Mon, 21 Sep 2009 03:10:37 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=760#comment-16185 You are welcome Cass. We have seasons in our life that we wish we could fast forward through.But if we did then we would miss something important, something that will make us better, stronger, or more self aware. I am so glad I share something that was meaningful to you. We are both in a beautiful place, even when we are scared and crying alone in our bed at night. You want to know why? We are in process, not stuck, or staying the same. My tears are watering the seeds that I have planted that will grow into my new future. I call it my growning season. The fruit that will come from it will be sweet and nourish me. Healthy things grow Growing things change Changing things challenge Think of a worm that forms its cocoon, and later immerges as a beautiful butterfly.... The process cant be rushed or circumvented...or the butterfly will not immerge. It takes time.... I identify with this because I too am in process of change and growing into this new beautiful creation. You my dear are too! Hugs to you! Linda You are welcome Cass. We have seasons in our life that we wish we could fast forward through.But if we did then we would miss something important, something that will make us better, stronger, or more self aware.

I am so glad I share something that was meaningful to you. We are both in a beautiful place, even when we are scared and crying alone in our bed at night. You want to know why? We are in process, not stuck, or staying the same. My tears are watering the seeds that I have planted that will grow into my new future. I call it my growning season. The fruit that will come from it will be sweet and nourish me.

Healthy things grow
Growing things change
Changing things challenge

Think of a worm that forms its cocoon, and later immerges as a beautiful butterfly…. The process cant be rushed or circumvented…or the butterfly will not immerge. It takes time…. I identify with this because I too am in process of change and growing into this new beautiful creation. You my dear are too!

Hugs to you!

Linda

]]> By: Cassandra http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/breakup-divorce/healing-hearts-by-the-holidays/comment-page-2/#comment-16158 Cassandra Sun, 20 Sep 2009 19:49:04 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=760#comment-16158 WOW...Linda thank you!! I loved your post as a matter of fact...I just printed it out, cut off the extra empty page part and stuck it in my purse to carry with me for when I am in one of those places where I don't feel strong and confident and want to crawl back to where I am moving from. Last night, I soooo had one of those nights where I felt so so so deeply lonely and alone and scared and all of that stuff. It was hard. I had no one to call and talk to and I couldn't move. I just physically could not move. I felt immobilized so I did nothing but take my bath and crawl into bed. I didn't even eat dinner. All I could do was cry. I feel happy that the next time I have one of those nights/ days/ moments that I can come here or pull your post out of my purse and read it over and over. Tracy....PRINT IT OUT!! If I could print it out and send it to you..I WOULD love!! You have made so much progress and I feel so deeply proud of you!! You deserve so so so much better and you WILL have it and KNOW in your heart that you deserve it!! I can't wait for that time and I feel excited about that for both of us!! Linda I feel so excited that you are in such a beautiful place!! Thank you!! With so much love..... Cass WOW…Linda thank you!! I loved your post as a matter of fact…I just printed it out, cut off the extra empty page part and stuck it in my purse to carry with me for when I am in one of those places where I don’t feel strong and confident and want to crawl back to where I am moving from. Last night, I soooo had one of those nights where I felt so so so deeply lonely and alone and scared and all of that stuff. It was hard. I had no one to call and talk to and I couldn’t move. I just physically could not move. I felt immobilized so I did nothing but take my bath and crawl into bed. I didn’t even eat dinner. All I could do was cry. I feel happy that the next time I have one of those nights/ days/ moments that I can come here or pull your post out of my purse and read it over and over. Tracy….PRINT IT OUT!! If I could print it out and send it to you..I WOULD love!! You have made so much progress and I feel so deeply proud of you!! You deserve so so so much better and you WILL have it and KNOW in your heart that you deserve it!! I can’t wait for that time and I feel excited about that for both of us!! Linda I feel so excited that you are in such a beautiful place!! Thank you!! With so much love…..
Cass

]]> By: Tracy http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/breakup-divorce/healing-hearts-by-the-holidays/comment-page-2/#comment-16154 Tracy Sun, 20 Sep 2009 18:21:09 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=760#comment-16154 Yay...Linda....i am having one of those days when i feel like crawling back to my past....giving in and feeling lonely... I am reminding myself of the progress i have made and that i have to be strong...thanks for reminding me that... I feel confident that for me to attract the situation that feel good for me i have to look forward and have faith..... Yay…Linda….i am having one of those days when i feel like crawling back to my past….giving in and feeling lonely…
I am reminding myself of the progress i have made and that i have to be strong…thanks for reminding me that…
I feel confident that for me to attract the situation that feel good for me i have to look forward and have faith…..

]]> By: Linda http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/breakup-divorce/healing-hearts-by-the-holidays/comment-page-2/#comment-16147 Linda Sun, 20 Sep 2009 16:43:04 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=760#comment-16147 Cassandra, you go girl. Moving out is the first step. A great one for you. It has been a long time coming. It is hard to do the things that are best for us sometimes because there are so many other competeing feelings. Sifting through them and getting the root of us under all of it takes time. You will most likely find days when you are not feeling hopeful or strong at all. Dont turn back stay the course. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other, stand still and take a deep breath. It is even okay to just not move. Change is hard, feelings will conflict and nip at you. Remember through it all that you did something different, and now you can expect a different result than before. There are days I feel scared, petrified ! There are other days where I feel sexy and independant and beautiful ! There are days I feel lonely and am tempted to crawl back to where I was because I am not experienceing what I want right now. Then I remember to respond to things around me and within me not react....think through them.. then I remember why I left in the first place and what made me so unhappy. Time does not necessairly heal wounds, but it gives us opportunity reflect and learn. You are not alone in making changes in your life that have long been necessary. You are not alone. Linda Cassandra, you go girl. Moving out is the first step. A great one for you. It has been a long time coming. It is hard to do the things that are best for us sometimes because there are so many other competeing feelings. Sifting through them and getting the root of us under all of it takes time.

You will most likely find days when you are not feeling hopeful or strong at all. Dont turn back stay the course. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other, stand still and take a deep breath. It is even okay to just not move. Change is hard, feelings will conflict and nip at you. Remember through it all that you did something different, and now you can expect a different result than before.

There are days I feel scared, petrified ! There are other days where I feel sexy and independant and beautiful ! There are days I feel lonely and am tempted to crawl back to where I was because I am not experienceing what I want right now. Then I remember to respond to things around me and within me not react….think through them.. then I remember why I left in the first place and what made me so unhappy. Time does not necessairly heal wounds, but it gives us opportunity reflect and learn. You are not alone in making changes in your life that have long been necessary.

You are not alone.

Linda

]]> By: Cassandra http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/breakup-divorce/healing-hearts-by-the-holidays/comment-page-2/#comment-16140 Cassandra Sun, 20 Sep 2009 15:08:51 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=760#comment-16140 Tracy....thank you so much for your post and encouragement. I felt support and love coming from your words....thank you!! I feel so glad that you too got away from that man that was not good for you and I feel inspried by your experience. Linda....Reading your post...I felt excited and happy for you as welll!! I join AAG in her back flips for you and I feel so happy that you are getting all of the uplifting messages that I hope will erase all of the bad ones that you received in your relationship. I am going through what you did but I am moving out on Oct. 1st. I feel inspired and hopeful reading your post. Tracy….thank you so much for your post and encouragement. I felt support and love coming from your words….thank you!! I feel so glad that you too got away from that man that was not good for you and I feel inspried by your experience.

Linda….Reading your post…I felt excited and happy for you as welll!! I join AAG in her back flips for you and I feel so happy that you are getting all of the uplifting messages that I hope will erase all of the bad ones that you received in your relationship. I am going through what you did but I am moving out on Oct. 1st. I feel inspired and hopeful reading your post.

]]> By: Lisa Steadman http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/breakup-divorce/healing-hearts-by-the-holidays/comment-page-2/#comment-16118 Lisa Steadman Sat, 19 Sep 2009 22:10:41 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=760#comment-16118 Wow, Ladies, I love the inspired and powered words you're sharing here. I love the call to heal your hearts! And I love the desire to take care of and love YOURSELVES. That is the first step. To your continued success! xoxo, Lisa Wow, Ladies, I love the inspired and powered words you’re sharing here. I love the call to heal your hearts! And I love the desire to take care of and love YOURSELVES. That is the first step. To your continued success!

xoxo,

Lisa

]]> By: Paula http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/breakup-divorce/healing-hearts-by-the-holidays/comment-page-2/#comment-16117 Paula Sat, 19 Sep 2009 21:56:10 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=760#comment-16117 Thanks Linda and Alias Girl, I feel more hopeful already! I find it hard to believe that there are men everywhere. I feel ashamed if I flirt with a guy and he responds. And then he turns out to be married or too young. So maybe I just need to enjoy it and not become attached to any outcome? And not demean myself in anyway (as Rori says). I'm quite interested in the concept of having a High Degree of Difficulty and not being the 'Good Woman'. Wow, that's what I've been all my life - the caring, listening, reasonable, flexible, therapist/doormat. It's such a leap for me not to fall back into that pattern - the 'carer' and the fixer of his wounds. Baby steps I suppose.... Thanks Linda and Alias Girl,

I feel more hopeful already!

I find it hard to believe that there are men everywhere. I feel ashamed if I flirt with a guy and he responds. And then he turns out to be married or too young.

So maybe I just need to enjoy it and not become attached to any outcome? And not demean myself in anyway (as Rori says).

I’m quite interested in the concept of having a High Degree of Difficulty and not being the ‘Good Woman’. Wow, that’s what I’ve been all my life – the caring, listening, reasonable, flexible, therapist/doormat. It’s such a leap for me not to fall back into that pattern – the ‘carer’ and the fixer of his wounds.

Baby steps I suppose….

]]> By: Linda http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/breakup-divorce/healing-hearts-by-the-holidays/comment-page-2/#comment-16114 Linda Sat, 19 Sep 2009 21:15:14 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=760#comment-16114 Hi Paula The internet is something I have been dealing with. I got on 3 different sites at the beginning of the year in hopes to find someone. Now I just use one free site as a circular dating resourse. Circular dating is a great way to help us shake loose from old bonds. Free therapy , free messages, a close up look at men with the same hang ups and insecurities wounds and baggage that us women have! lol It helps you learn about yourself, set boundries that feel good, and occupies your mind. I will say one thing for sure. There is an endless supply of men out there. Use it a resorce and dont place your hope in it and dont let it control you. Keep it real, be real and focus on things that make you feel good and feel happy. You will find yourself unstuck real soon. Linda Hi Paula

The internet is something I have been dealing with. I got on 3 different sites at the beginning of the year in hopes to find someone. Now I just use one free site as a circular dating resourse.

Circular dating is a great way to help us shake loose from old bonds. Free therapy , free messages, a close up look at men with the same hang ups and insecurities wounds and baggage that us women have! lol It helps you learn about yourself, set boundries that feel good, and occupies your mind.

I will say one thing for sure. There is an endless supply of men out there. Use it a resorce and dont place your hope in it and dont let it control you. Keep it real, be real and focus on things that make you feel good and feel happy. You will find yourself unstuck real soon.

Linda

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