Here’s a great guest post from Virginia Feingold Clark:
Do you daydream about reconnecting with a boyfriend from the past? Do you search Facebook and the internet looking for any piece of information you can find out about him? Are you obsessed with the idea of meeting him again and rekindling your love?
It can be painful and frustrating to long for some one who isn’t there with you and it can make you feel depressed and unhappy with your life.
There are reasons why your mind will keep “defaulting” to a past relationship and it’s important for you figure out why so you begin to find peace in the present.
Are you’re simply lonely and feeling discouraged about your chances of meeting a man you can love?
Is it easier for you to think about a man you know rather than going out and finding one?
Maybe you’re going through a hard time with your current boyfriend and you start to feel anxious and worried that he may not be “the one.”
When You’re Unhappy In The Present, It’s Not Uncommon For Your Mind To Begin To Reminisce About The Good Times You’ve Had With Someone In The Past.
It gives your hurting ego a boost as you remember the “good ole days” when you felt loved. You remember the good times and forget the bad. It seems that the same loving feelings are still there and they are attached to that man.
You tell yourself that he was the right man for you all along.
You wonder what it would be like to see him again, how he would look, what you would wear, how good it will feel.
But ultimately, all this going back to the past is very unsatisfying and will leave you feeling helpless.
Spending your time and energy thinking about someone who in reality you don’t know anymore is one way to AVOID the present moment and your relationship problems.
Ask yourself if you are being realistic in wanting to go back to someone who has now moved on and is pretty much of a stranger.
If it was meant to be, you would still be with him!
There was a reason the two of you didn’t stay together, and if you saw him again, that same reason would probably still be there.
Men will come and go out of your life and it will sometimes be painful.
But there will come a time when you find the one who sticks and he will be the one who is right for you.
I love Virginia, and I love her book – “It’s Never Too Late To Marry.” You can get her free newsletters and even talk with her at her site www.ItsNeverTooLateToMarry.com