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Strong On the Inside and Soft On the Outside – How it Works

flowerheartJust got this letter from Cami – who’s having a great experience:

“Hi Rori,
Just wanted to check in with you. So last night we had a very good night for the most part. But a lot of it I have to attribute to where I am right now. I feel more centered and strong.

I have also started doing yoga again more regularly and just taking care of ME more. I know I have a looong way to go to get to where I want to be, but I am working on it.

I am finding the leaning back tool to be very very helpful. We met after my yoga class at my favorite sushi restaurant and sat at the bar. It was so nice to just sit next to him and talk and enjoy. But there More…

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Some Basic Dating Tips…

intimacyIf you’re dating, practice being absolutely authentic from the moment you first speak.

This means listening, not trying to control your anxiety by talking so much, actually tolerating anxiety until you get used to the feeling of connecting with someone, and speaking in feeling terms.

Talk about how you feel about things – the food, the restaurant, the weather, your job, your dog – rather than stating the facts – or your opinions about them.

Instead of saying this is a nice restaurant – say how it makes you feel to be there – how the lighting More…

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When A Man “Opens” With Sex Talk…

cutefrogThe Question:

“Rori, Don’t get me wrong… I love men… love what they are about and how their differences are so …. different…

…the question that came up with my girl friends and I is when a man  just starts chatting… and the meeting has not even taken place and he makes a casual reference to … now this has happened on two separate occasions recently with friends… sex…as in .. he has had no problems having his needs met when he needs to and all of the encounters were healthy adult consenting ones…and the other was a reference to the type of woman a More…

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Good Man vs. Sexy One

maninredHere’s a great letter re: A Good Man vs. A Sexy One” from Gina with a terrific outcome:

Hi and I have an answer for this one!

YES and yes….well, a maybe!

I was also attracted to the bad boy vibes and as it turned out, also that he was so very good at sending these out to so many OTHER women, at the same time!!! No discretion and no discerning one from another, it seemed at the end.

Ever wonder what it feels like to see another woman’s hair in his hairbrush?…tampons under the sink?…car in his driveway?…

Well, enough drama. After a brief mourning, I said YES to dating a really nice man who was interested More…

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Last Chance – Siren Mom Live Teleclass Tomorrow

10-6 love yourselfHi Sirens,

Today is the last day you can sign up to ask me specific questions about love and relationships in my live teleclass “Dating Secrets For The Siren Mom” – and thank you SO much for your help and input addressing one of the key, crucial issues.

I’ll be focusing on the specific logistical, emotional and psychological high-stakes challenges of dating and relationships when you have kids.

If you join me on Wednesday, you’ll learn:

  • How to heal your anger, frustration and hurt from past relationships using my “Two Trains” Tool
  • The best way to manage your time that reduces stress and makes you feel like you’ve “Got all the time in the world…”
  • How to create your “New Love Story” with my new Circular Dating Tool: Stir The Pot
  • Easy ways to create the family environment that invites the right man IN, instead of pushing him away
  • How to stop the Mom “Quicksand of Overfunctioning” with your kids so you’ll never again overfunction with a man

Yes! Sign Me Up!

I truly hope you’ll join me on June 25th at either 11am or 5:30 pm PST (you can choose which call once you sign up), and learn how to reconnect to your irresistible, feminine, magnetic self again.

It’s time you took care of yourself the way you take care of others, and get the loving, connected, romantic relationship you deserve.

Love, Rori

Note: Remember, if you come to the teleclass, you’ll get a discount to the full audio program once it’s completed this fall. 

Yes! Sign Me Up!

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Live Teleclass Next Week For Siren Moms!

desertmomI’m in the process of creating a new program – my first in over 2 years – and I’m doing a teleclass next week to preview its contents and get your feedback.

My program will be called “Dating Secrets For The Siren Mom,” and it’s in response to your letters and questions about how to manage your family as a single mom – and STILL Circular Date and bring in a new, romantic, gorgeous relationship to your life and your family.

There are limited spaces available, so reserve your spot now–>>

Dating when you have kids has much higher stakes. Logistically, it’s so much tougher – finding the time, not “nurturing” your dates and instead being your glorious, feminine self, healing your heart from your earlier heartbreak, what to do differently the second time around, and how to know if this man is worthy of your love, and of your children.

In my teleclass, I’m going to give you a sneak peak of the program content, AND (here’s the best part!) answer your questions about this topic directly.

There are so many nuts-and-bolts involved here – a true “juggling” of so many needs from work, children, and often ex-husband or partner – it’s often YOUR needs that get short-shrift.

In this teleclass, I’ll give you many new Tools to help you create a harmonious, romantic and inviting family environment that will be so alluring as a “package” – you’ll attract the right man for you simply, effortlessly and as permanently (or fling-y) as you want.

This teleclass is not only to answer your questions and help you on-the-spot to get the most out your life, as it is right now – it will help me to listen to your needs and add them to the Siren Mom program.

Here’s how it will work:

The teleclass will be only $69, and I’m holding two separate classes on June 25th to give you options for your busy schedules. I know you may live anywhere in the world – and so I’ll hold one call at 11am PDT (Pacific Time) – and one at 5:30pm PDT. (Plus, there will be a recording available after the call is finished, in case you miss anything.)

Once you sign up, you’ll receive the call in information via email. From there, you’ll select which call (11am or 5:30 pm PDT) you want to attend.

Anyone who comes to the teleclass will get a discount to the full program once it’s completed (I’ll probably be releasing it sometime in September – October), so you can consider this teleclass a “downpayment” on the future program.

SPACES ARE LIMITED – The phone lines only accommodate a small number of attendees, so you’ll need to act soon to make sure you get a spot before I sell out. You are one of the first to hear about this opportunity, but I’ll be telling my blog audience and Facebook community over the next few days.

Dating Secrets for the Siren Mom” will NOT be included in My Complete Collection for at least a year, so if you are a single mom who wants to make sure you get it right this time around, you’ll want to sign up for this teleclass asap.

I know you may have suffered real heartbreak, and I want to do everything I can to help you heal your heart and create an even better relationship this time around. Moms in particular often forget about their own needs, and this program will help you reconnect to your wonderful feminine self, and give the tools to feel irresistible once again.

I look forward to “seeing” you on the June 25th call. The button below will take you directly to the shopping cart to sign up for this new event.

Love, Rori

 

 

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I Need Your Help On My New Program for Moms

desertmomIf you’re a single mom, please comment for me here (or email me privately) and let me know how you manage to Circular Date – or even to date the traditional,  one-man-at-a-time way.

How you handle baby-sitting, when and how you let a man interact with your children, how you manage your time, what’s the best kind of date – time, place, activity, etc. …

I have many ideas about unusual and non-traditional ways things can go – one is about the possibility of a much more casual kind of Circular Dating, where you let a man meet your kids not necessarily because he’s a “keeper,” but because he might be “fun” – and I want More…

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A Safe Man vs. A Dangerous/Sexy Man

closedeyemanA man who is by nature emotionally safe to be with can LEARN to become more dangerous and sexy if we’re willing to go there and “teach” and “inspire” by example.

His hormonal makeup is different from the high-testosterone “dangerous/sexy” man – so it’s not instinctive.

And a dangerous/sexy man can learn to be “safe” – through healing his “trust” mechanism.

Though hormones may make that more difficult than it is for the “nice” man to develop an “edge.”

The level of a man’s ability to see you as “not about HIM” (I’m not talking about the healing, spiritual concept of “we’re all one”), and desire, instinctively, to make you feel good and happy, is what makes it possible for him to learn.

Basically, it’s about the “size” of a man’s heart, and the “depth” of his character…

Love, Rori

 

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How Can YOU Use “Tinder”?

locketI tell ALL the women I KNOW to go out for breakfast, lunch and dinner if possible – to coffee houses and comfy restaurants with COUNTERS – and to just get used to being in public ALONE.

Then go to mixers and meetups and classes where you can just get to know people as friends.

This starts the ball rolling, along with online dating.

I’m also now telling women to try Tinder.

Okay – it sounds horrible – it has a bad rep…it’s just for “young” women… More…

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Happy It’s Over And More…

stopHere’s a great letter and some gems of advice…

From “Happy It’s Over”:

“Rori,

I was in the similar situation I read about in one of your newsletters: He may have well been sleeping over his ex’s house because he was there frequently (for help, of course!) and couldn’t stop talking about her.

He said “Two adults can do whatever they want to.”  Hmmmn, rule for HIM and not for me, apparently. He liked it both ways. My devotion and his freedom. And when it wasn’t his EX he More…

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