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A Schoolgirl Crush, Or The Real Thing?

maninbottleHere’s a letter from Alice that may sound very extreme to you – and it’s a common, everyday experience that so many women are having.

It may seem like the height of “being taken for a ride.”

And yet, to Alice, it feels like love and potential.

It feels like “he’s afraid of commitment.”

The truth, for me, is more like:

There is no one and nothing to blame – AND – there’s nothing here for you.

“Hi Rori,

I have read the blog, the emails, I am working through some of the programs and learning some things, but I still have trouble figuring out what to do about my current situation. Since I emailed you last, things have gotten a lot worse, and my heart is breaking.

I met this man online at the beginning of March, and the connection was instant. We More…

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Did He Go Back To His Ex Because You Didn’t Pursue Him?

10-6 love yourselfThe Question:

“Rori, I had this great guy in my life, when we first met he said he is separated and likes to make a family.

We went out on few dates, in the last one he said I think you deserve a better man than me, then he started not to call so much then stopped calling. I used the Circular Dating advice.

Then I did not contact him for 5 weeks , then I called him and we started talking again, I felt he got better.
a two weeks later I found out that he got back to his old lady and he said I think we better become friends… More…

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Circular Dating When Your Man’s Got Job Problems

targetingThe Question:

Have dated Brian for 14 months. He lost his job due to a take over (not his fault all upper management lost their jobs) and was unemployed for 5 months which caused havoc with his finances as he pays hefty child support. We survived this period and I did not lend him money, but helped him extensively (probably too much) to get another high paying job.

Unfortunately due to his type of position and high income needed the best job is in another state. We have continued long distance, speak several times a day and he either flies me to him or comes here More…

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Does Plenty Of Fish Work For Anyone? Or Is It All “Booty Calls”?

carvingHere’s a letter about www.PlentyOfFish.com – a dating site (free – and known often as POF) that some women I’ve spoken with have great personal stories around, and others see this way:

“Dear Rori,

I feel that I so so need to correct you on this Plenty Of Fish website, You are very seriously jeopardizing your Reputation on referring this website!!!!!

I have been on this website 2 separate times, I gave it enough time to literally hang itself….

I shall explain it to you briefly. I am a good and true Christian LADY, even with what my profile says, I still got men that only wanted a booty call.

Everyone knows this except for you.

I Love your emails you send me, and they are right on when it comes to meeting a GOOD and true More…

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More On Circular Dating

moviedateJust to clarify – Circular Dating is not about dating.

It doesn’t even need to INCLUDE “dating.”

Circular Dating is a therapeutic tool for interacting with men out in the world and using my tools.

Period.

That can look like an encounter with the butcher at the market. A short conversation with a man at Starbucks. Or an actual date.

It’s about learning to open your heart, feel steady when your heart is open, trust yourself and stay sane.

Targeting Mr. Right – my program on Circular Dating – explores ALL possibilities of CDing – from More…

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Strong On the Inside and Soft On the Outside – How it Works

flowerheartJust got this letter from Cami – who’s having a great experience:

“Hi Rori,
Just wanted to check in with you. So last night we had a very good night for the most part. But a lot of it I have to attribute to where I am right now. I feel more centered and strong.

I have also started doing yoga again more regularly and just taking care of ME more. I know I have a looong way to go to get to where I want to be, but I am working on it.

I am finding the leaning back tool to be very very helpful. We met after my yoga class at my favorite sushi restaurant and sat at the bar. It was so nice to just sit next to him and talk and enjoy. But there More…

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Some Basic Dating Tips…

intimacyIf you’re dating, practice being absolutely authentic from the moment you first speak.

This means listening, not trying to control your anxiety by talking so much, actually tolerating anxiety until you get used to the feeling of connecting with someone, and speaking in feeling terms.

Talk about how you feel about things – the food, the restaurant, the weather, your job, your dog – rather than stating the facts – or your opinions about them.

Instead of saying this is a nice restaurant – say how it makes you feel to be there – how the lighting More…

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When A Man “Opens” With Sex Talk…

cutefrogThe Question:

“Rori, Don’t get me wrong… I love men… love what they are about and how their differences are so …. different…

…the question that came up with my girl friends and I is when a man  just starts chatting… and the meeting has not even taken place and he makes a casual reference to … now this has happened on two separate occasions recently with friends… sex…as in .. he has had no problems having his needs met when he needs to and all of the encounters were healthy adult consenting ones…and the other was a reference to the type of woman a More…

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Good Man vs. Sexy One

maninredHere’s a great letter re: A Good Man vs. A Sexy One” from Gina with a terrific outcome:

Hi and I have an answer for this one!

YES and yes….well, a maybe!

I was also attracted to the bad boy vibes and as it turned out, also that he was so very good at sending these out to so many OTHER women, at the same time!!! No discretion and no discerning one from another, it seemed at the end.

Ever wonder what it feels like to see another woman’s hair in his hairbrush?…tampons under the sink?…car in his driveway?…

Well, enough drama. After a brief mourning, I said YES to dating a really nice man who was interested More…

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Last Chance – Siren Mom Live Teleclass Tomorrow

10-6 love yourselfHi Sirens,

Today is the last day you can sign up to ask me specific questions about love and relationships in my live teleclass “Dating Secrets For The Siren Mom” – and thank you SO much for your help and input addressing one of the key, crucial issues.

I’ll be focusing on the specific logistical, emotional and psychological high-stakes challenges of dating and relationships when you have kids.

If you join me on Wednesday, you’ll learn:

  • How to heal your anger, frustration and hurt from past relationships using my “Two Trains” Tool
  • The best way to manage your time that reduces stress and makes you feel like you’ve “Got all the time in the world…”
  • How to create your “New Love Story” with my new Circular Dating Tool: Stir The Pot
  • Easy ways to create the family environment that invites the right man IN, instead of pushing him away
  • How to stop the Mom “Quicksand of Overfunctioning” with your kids so you’ll never again overfunction with a man

Yes! Sign Me Up!

I truly hope you’ll join me on June 25th at either 11am or 5:30 pm PST (you can choose which call once you sign up), and learn how to reconnect to your irresistible, feminine, magnetic self again.

It’s time you took care of yourself the way you take care of others, and get the loving, connected, romantic relationship you deserve.

Love, Rori

Note: Remember, if you come to the teleclass, you’ll get a discount to the full audio program once it’s completed this fall. 

Yes! Sign Me Up!

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