Have The Relationship You Want

Here’s a great comment from Jeannette that I want to jump off from:

“Thanks to all of you….however, I am still struggling with the same guy. I have cut back and for the most part let him call me, however, I am only hearing from him at odd times. Such as Sat. mornings or Sun. eve’s. We sort of cut off the relationship but we are trying to stay friends. I am lying to myself because I care VERY deeply for him. I have tried circular dating and so far have met up with duds. Then my long distance calls and there I am, stuck in the mud. Happy when he calls and More…

This comment felt so universal, I wanted to jump off into a post:

“Hi, Rori,

Well, I’ve about given up on dating websites; I’ve only had a few people contact me, on any website, in the last few weeks. It’s very discouraging, especially since most of them are younger men, and I’m not interested. Also, the guy from Arkansas wasn’t on that website for about a week, and then he came back. I’m just not going on them at all, unless someone contacts me.

I saw a guy I kind of liked (he was watching me, I was watching him, or so it seemed), in a meetup movie group I belong to, last night, but it turns out More…

In this age of internet and long-distance dating – this letter from Vickie struck me as powerful:

“Hello Rori,
Your dating advice has been AWESOME–so awesome that I’ve met someone who has all of the qualities I look for in a man. And the wonderful thing is that I’ve used your Circular Dating technique to help myself from falling head-over-heals and falling into the “instant relationship” mode, which was my past behavior. He is actually doing the pursuing, and I’m just sitting back and letting him! I’m amazed at how relaxed and carefree I’ve been in our “getting-to-know-each other” phase of the relationship. Now, however, I need your advice.

I’ve been chatting with him online now for about a month. He lives about 1000 miles away, and we will be meeting face-to-face for the first time More…

It always amazes me – but every single woman who comes to me and who I work with as a client is drop-dead gorgeous. Smart. Talented – many accomplished in their fields, as Alice, in this letter she sent me, is.

I often work with women who are very high-profile – who are actually on-stage and public, and yet do not value themselves at all.

They still find themselves crawling on the floor after a man.

How can this be? Here’s Alice’s letter:

“I guess I have to forget about him, hard as it is to do.

On Nov. 29th he was over here having a grand old time dining on the feast I prepared for his Thanksgiving time with me, he spoke of getting me a new TV for Xmas, about how we would look at a problem in my home next weekend when he was coming over, he said he was in love with me, and left with really nice vibes and food.

Next day he called to further rave about everything, and we told each other we were sweethearts. I asked him if he’d gotten any more weird emails (from the x gf who’d thrown him out a couple of times in the past, and had begun emailing things to him in effort to get him back “as a friend,” that they “had a bond”) and he said “no, that was nothing – ” regarding her having begun emailing more and more More…