Here’s a classic situation: Abigail’s man is withdrawing, there are arguments, she’s feeling lost without him…

“Rori, I’m having a few personal issues and hoping to get some honest feedback and advice. I’m 27 years old and I have been going with a guy who I met 17 months ago. The relationship was like a fairy tale story – we lived in different countries and we met at work when I interviewed him.

For the first 14 months everything was brilliant we were so in love and everyone knew it and could see how happy we were! Then I started being insecure in the relationship not through any fault from him but I let my past hurt in other relationships take over this one.

Anyways he went to his home for 3 weeks to see his family and during that time we continued to argue – and when he came back he decided he needed some time and space on his own. Not only were we arguing but his granny as also been diagnosed with cancer and he really wants to More…

As women – we can’t seem to say what we feel and what we mean without feeling like we have to backtrack the moment we make someone else unhappy.

This is your “sorry.”

Get rid of “sorry” and say “I feel bad.”  “I feel guilty.”

This is the Words part of all this that makes a huge difference, and this is what I mean by ORGANIC.

We’re talking authenticity here.  We’re talking truth.

Now – we need to talk more about WORDS, and how the words we use are either out of our masculine selves or our feminine selves, and this More…

Here’s a guest post from Orna and Matthew Walters – my amazing, lovely, fabulous interview for April in my Interviews With Relationship Experts series:

This week’s question comes from Sharrie:

“Hi there! Love your weekly notes! How about addressing love addiction? Very little is written or researched on this topic.”

Dear Sharrie,

Thanks for asking about love addiction. We feel that this statement in itself is an oxymoron – these two words just do not go together.

The LOVE we speak of and support people in creating cannot be connected to “Addiction” – there’s no room for it.

There certainly are many ways to avoid feeling our feelings and addiction is a way for a person to avoid feeling negative emotions.

Whether we’re talking about sex addiction or so-called love-addiction… this is all a faulty program for coping.

When we have sex, particularly when we orgasm, there are an enormous amount of “feel-good” chemicals that flood our entire system. It’s a rush that is very similar to the rush from many drugs and it is possible for a person to become addicted to this rush.

As with any addiction issue, a new way of dealing and coping with life must be created in order to live a balanced and harmonious life.

The help of a professional is very important so that one does not give up one addiction for another.

All of our behavior has positive intent – meaning that we all want to receive love, approval, and acceptance, as community and connection are our soul-based desires.

HOW we go about attempting to receive these feelings can become dysfunctional at a very young age, setting the stage for lifelong problems.

It is possible to exercise our free will and change these programs, just remember that a person does not stumble into them, this transformation requires dedication and commitment.

Love and Abundance,
Orna and Matthew

From Rori:

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Be SURE to absolutely watch their video when you get to the page – watch how they listen to each other, how attentive Matthew is, how still and simple and just THERE with him Orna is (you don’t see her wheels turning while she’s waiting to speak – she’s truly hearing him).

It’s as though they’re so in tune, really attentive, that they just know with “signals” when to listen and when to speak.

It’s all kind of effortless and, I think, magical. This is what you want to copy! And this is what they teach and talk about.

(You’ll see my testimonial and love letter to them on the page, and know this – I hardly EVER do that for anyone, friends or not. I really believe these two walk their talk.)

Having them in the same room during the interview – I could SEE how this works.

Not only do they have this amazing connection and real intimacy, rawness, truthfulness and attention with each other – there’s absolutely NO tension. The amazing thing about that, for me – is that they WORK together.

They live together, they work HARD together creating programs and doing interviews and running their business and coaching TOGETHER – and so they’re CONTINUALLY working things out – and what they’re doing with all this is creating DEEPER intimacy.

I watched them NOT shut down, NOT compete, NOT raise their hands or pushing against each other.  What I saw and felt was a true, organic TEAM.  You’ll love this interview, and Orna and Matthew…

Love, Rori

Here’s a long conversation with Esther….it’s a huge diary-like story, and there’s pieces and parts that are so universal…let me know if you can find yourself in some of it…

“Rori, I met him through an online dating service and we were both thrilled to see we actually live just 10 minute from each other. We went out on our first date and had a wonderful time, despite the fact that I was so nervous, I thought I may pee myself. I had never mislead him in this relationship, Stated clearly up front, I felt that I was ready for a life long romance, and that was what I was looking for.

He openly shared with me about his past. I must say it was ironic how similar our past where. I wasn’t sure whether to be excited we had so much in common, or run for the hills totally freaked out. We had both been married 23 yrs, and with that person for 25. After that divorce More…