Have The Relationship You Want

Here’s a simple question with a huge answer – to reframe the entire notion of “dating” for you…

Rori, Ive done circular dating in the past 3 or 4 men at a time …but i ended up feeling tired an hopeless when nothing good showed up …i felt defeated…Marika

Yeah – but Circular Dating isn’t about meeting good men.

It’s about USING every interaction with any man – at the market – anywhere – no matter who they are or what they look like – to raise your self esteem and start finding and sorting through and healing these patterns of being attracted to unavailable men and men who just can’t do the job of relationship.

If you interact with 100 men in a week – you’re going to learn more and heal More…

Victoria is my client – and I got her permission to reprint some of our email conversations…really, really helpful:

First – from Rori: Victoria – it was great to talk with you – I hope it’s okay with you that I was so firm and tough on you ..this is where “coaching” is so different from therapy…imagine you’re an elite sports player out there with the ball – as your coach…I keep pushing you…

I do not like to see you repeating your old patterns that you came to me to eradicate just because you’re resisting doing the work so hard.

Some clients resist Circular Dating so much, and I sense their emotional fragility and I don’t push them, but instead try to ease them out of depression or into a better frame of mind…with you…I don’t feel fragility as much as other things that I can more easily push you past. I just feel More…

Here’s such a perfect example of our fear of intimacy from Janice…she makes it all so totally clear to US, but it’s also clear that from inside the way she feels – she can’t see what’s really going on:

“Hi Rori
Since I wrote to you last I have been seeing Michael on a weekly basis as we go jogging around the local reservoir. This came about  after I contacted him to look around another business venture i was looking into. When i dropped him off  at his home he suggested that we go for a coffee when I was off work. So i text him a couple of Weeks later thinking that he would have forgotten but he not only agreed to going for coffee but also suggested going for a walk around the local reservoir. which we did. Then at his suggestion we started going every week and he paid for the coffees most of the time. I really enjoyed our time together and last week he suggested that I go around to his house on the Sunday to have a go at his weights, he also asked if i could collect some paint for him as he was decorating his lounge. He was going to call around to collect the paint on the Saturday if he needed it but because I was going to be around his way I agreed to take the paint around to him and ring him on the Sunday after I had returned from taking my daughter to singing lessons.

I text him when I had got the paint to which he text back thanking me. Then on the Saturday More…

Modern Siren and Targeting Mr. Right are getting a one-week special packaging together! – Here’s the information from the promotion that’s going out for the launch today – so if you were thinking of getting these two programs – this “summer special” is a great opportunity…

“From now until June 6th, you can try my Modern Siren and Targeting Mr. Right programs together for one special, summer-only price:”

www.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/m/special/100601_specialoffer.asp

It’s totally risk-free (like all my programs always are) – I really thought these two belonged together – Targeting gives you the nuts-and-bolts of Circular Dating so you can USE the Modern Siren tools constantly  with real men out in the field, and get even faster results.

Let me know how they work for you together.

Love, Rori