Have The Relationship You Want

This is from Linda Landon – a most wonderful life coach who is featured in this month’s Interview With a Relationship Expert, my CD interview series.  Linda is an amazing woman, with a totally compelling personal story, a huge client success rate, and she’s worked alongside powerful, celebrated, transformative teachers like Miguel Ruiz.

Her interview is like a guidebook for how to be happy and create the kind of relationship we dream about. Her new book is called “The Power of Pause” – and so she’s giving us a piece of what that’s all about and real tips on how to do it:

Recently someone asked me to name one of the most valuable tools I offer my clients. I took a breath and waited for an answer. In that moment, without thinking, I became the answer. I replied “I teach the power of the pause.”

People choose coaching to help them address a myriad of personal and professional issues, such as overwhelm, stress, challenging relationships, lack of focus, procrastination, and overall life balance. Together we often discover that underlying these presenting issues is a deep desire for authenticity: “I just want to be myself.” And …“If I were myself, I would feel free, purposeful, and happy.”

Coaching can then become a wonderful kind of excavation. Using a process called DreamShifting, we dig down through layers of unconscious beliefs, habits, More…

Here’s a great question around a recent guest post by Margaret Paul that will take us in an inner direction:

“Rori, Would this be Core Sadness that turned into Wounded Sadness?
My Mom & Dad died withing a few months of each other. I was obviously sad (Core Sad). Afterward my husband was cold and unconsoling. He was angry because I was “depressed” and wouldn’t just “get over it”. I was no fun anymore. This made my depression even worse. I expected, wanted and needed him to be there for me emotionally. I needed him to console me and have some empathy for what I was going through. I wanted him to make me feel better.

He was all I had now and I was losing him. The more he withheld, the more I felt I needed. So, I guess, essentially the Core sadness turned into Wounded sadness – I started feeling sorry for myself.

I think maybe my husband saw it as (wounded sadness) from the beginning. He thought I just wanted attention and I felt sorry for myself from the beginning, but that’s not what happened. When your parents die, you’re sad. I don’t understand why he never understood that.

His abandoning me emotionally (and then physically – he left) when I was grieving More…

I know you’re likely getting these yourself now, but I just loved this Note from the Universe from wwwTut.com

“What if (put your name here…) the coolest person on the planet didn’t know they were the coolest person on the planet?

Just because of a few self doubts, a few trace fears, or the occasional twang of inadequacy.

Or because they somehow thought fame, or wealth, or popularity mattered. Or because they just didn’t know the effect they had on others.

It would be a pity, huh? An absolute travesty. And of course, telling them wouldn’t achieve More…

Just got this in my inbox from Arielle Ford at soulmatesecret.com:

Dear Soulmate Manifesters,

I am thrilled to share with you this very insightful piece on: Instructions for Installing Love on the Human Computer.

Tech Support: Yes, how can I help you?

Customer: Well, after much consideration, I’ve decided to install Love. Can you guide me through the process?

Tech Support: Yes. I can help you. Are you ready to proceed?

Customer: Well, I’m not very technical, but I think I’m ready. What do I do first?

Tech Support: The first step is to open your Heart. Have you located your Heart?

Customer: Yes, but there are several other programs running now. Is it okay to install Love while they are running?

Tech Support: What programs are running?

Customer: Let’s see, I have Past Hurt, Low Self-Esteem, Grudge and Resentment running right now.

Tech Support: No problem, Love will gradually erase Past Hurt from your current operating system. It may remain in your permanent memory but it will no longer disrupt other programs. Love will eventually override Low Self-Esteem with a module of its own called High Self-Esteem. However, you have to completely turn off Grudge and Resentment. Those programs prevent Love from being properly installed. Can you turn those off?

Customer: I don’t know how to. Can you tell me how?

Tech Support: With pleasure. Go to your start menu and invoke Forgiveness. Do this as many times as necessary until Grudge and Resentment have been completely erased.

Customer: Okay, done! Love has started installing itself. Is that normal?

Tech Support: Yes, but remember that you have only the base program. You need to begin connecting to other Hearts in order to get the upgrades.

Customer: Oops! I have an error message already. It says, “Error – Program not run on external components.” What should I do?

Tech Support: Don’t worry. It means that the Love program is set up to run on Internal Hearts, but has not yet been run on your Heart. In non-technical terms, it simply means you have to Love yourself before you can Love others.

Customer: So, what should I do?

Tech Support: Pull down Self-Acceptance; then click on the following files: Forgive-Self; Realize Your Worth; and Acknowledge your Limitations.

Customer: Okay, done.

Tech Support: Now, copy them to the “My Heart” directory. The system will overwrite any conflicting files and begin patching faulty programming. Also, you need to delete Verbose Self-Criticism from all directories and empty your Recycle Bin to make sure it is completely gone and never comes back.

Customer: Got it. Hey! My heart is filling up with new files. Smile is playing on my monitor and Peace and Contentment are copying themselves all over My Heart. Is this normal?

Tech Support: Sometimes. For others it takes awhile, but eventually everything gets it at the proper time. So Love is installed and running.
One more thing before we hang up.
Love is Freeware.
Be sure to give it and its various modules to everyone you meet. They will in turn share it with others and return some cool modules back to you.

Customer: Thank you, God.

CREATOR, aka, Tech Support: You’re Welcome, Anytime.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

p.s. Special thanks to the unknown author who wrote this and to Monte and Amy, authors of The Soulmate Path for sending this beautiful piece of wisdom to me. Visit them at TheEnchantedWorld.com.

Arielle is very cool…she’s all over TV, radio, the news, and she speaks all over…her focus is on finding your soulmate…you can find her at soulmatesecret.com

Love, Rori