Have The Relationship You Want

I absolutely love this comment, and just wanted to make sure everyone saw it:

“…just sent my power speech via message after a couple of attempts to tee up a time to talk face to face failed.

Basically said how I felt, what I wanted in a relationship, that he’s entitled to take as long as he wants to figure his things out but that I’d be putting my online dating profile back up and meeting other people.

I only did this because when we last met things were open ended and I said I’d take my profile down because I thought we were going to work things out.

I honestly felt like throwing up after sending it to him though, which really showed me how difficult it still is for me to put me first. But I was very honest with everything, didn’t accuse him of anything, and felt good writing it but just felt so scared of actually DOING it.

I feel sometimes like I need a little marker or badge like Alcoholics Anonymous when I do something like this because it is such a huge achievement. Or for More…

Here’s a letter from “Confused” I was able to answer live in my Love Forever program teleclass – and I thought the question and my answer would be helpful to everyone in many ways:

“Rori, I’m in your Love Forever teleclass program, and here’s my question for the class:

I really just went into complete masculine energy and totally pushed away a good man.

The more he withdrew, the more I panicked and went after him – I feel ashamed to admit it. I really can’t believe my own behavior. If I’m honest with myself, it terrified me how well he “got” me, that he just loved me for no reason at all, that he had the capacity to love my children, that he kept loving me for a long time of me maybe trying to prove that I could get him to stop (as sick as that sounds – I feel it’s true on some level), that he just wanted to take care of me and do everything – the complete and total opposite of my ex-husband.

I know he’s not the only man in the world, nor is he a perfect man. He’s made mistakes too. But I feel sick. I know I need to work on myself – I have, and I More…

I know it feels awful, but an emotional meltdown every once in a while is kind of essential to the process of moving toward feeling more alive.

If you can write it all out, journal it, speak it out loud to yourself – that says you have resources, skills, and that this part of the process is something you’re willing to move through.

You can’t go deep without encountering the “dark night of the soul.” It’s what makes us feel connected to the profound.

You can’t dance around what you need to say to a man. You can’t pretend you don’t want what you want.

Speaking the truth of what you feel and what you want is a totally different thing from “neediness” and “desperation.”

In fact, the sheer bravery of speaking out loud what’s already in your thoughts and heart is testament to your courage and confidence and comfort within More…

Dominique’s created a Goddess program! I love Dominique, she’s SO amazing, I so love her as a person and as a coach and teacher (her body-work techniques are just off-the charts original and mind-blowing, and I’m so grateful for what she shares and how she helps here on this blog and on her own website) – and now she’s sharing it all with us here:

by Dominique

As some of you know, I launched very first video program this week.

The Goddess Way ~ The Art of Embodying Your True Essence ~ Discover Your Feminine Power While Deepening Intimacy With Your Man

A REVOLUTIONARY and UNIQUE program, full of wonderful information, tips, meditations, and so much more on YOU and YOU IN RELATIONSHIP –

It’s been divided into eleven separate, more easily digestible sections including a very special additional section – a gift of a video recorded guided More…

As you know, I love and support Orna and Matthew – and so here’s a guest post from them with a notice of an upcoming event!

by Orna and Matthew Walters

We’ve heard from many people since we started relationship coaching asking us if it is too late for them to find love. The funny thing is these questions come from people in their 30’s all the way up to their 60’s. All of them believe that because they haven’t found lasting love yet, that it may not be in the cards for them. This is one myth we’d love to bust for all of you!

Love is so vast and limitless that it can be difficult to wrap our minds around it. Our brain attempts to make love tangible and therefore limited and this is not based in any universal law or truth. More…

If he’s blowing ‘”hot and cold” with his affection and attention for you – what can you do to help warm him up?

If you’re feeling resentful and confused and shut down – how can you keep from shutting HIM out, and – instead – invite him closer?

What we want here is to be able to stay WARM, connected, straightforward and always in “Feeling” mode – and you can DO that!

Next Wednesday at 5:30 PST/8:30 EST, I’ll be coaching you in my newest teleclass in my Love Forever program (it’s just for clients and members of the Love Forever program…if you’d like to find out more about it and get your own questions answered and your unique situation addressed personally by me next Wednesday evening, check out Love Forever right here–>>

http://www.coachrori.com/love-forever-program/

Warmth is something a man can’t do without.

Yes, he’ll be momentarily intrigued by you as an “ice princess,” and (especially if he’s a player or a man with low self-esteem) he may be temporarily attracted to your coldness and aloofness (does this sound familiar?) – but after awhile, when he can’t break through your defenses and get his hidden needs for closeness met – he’ll disappear. And you won’t know “why.”

We women are often hooked by a man who blows hot and cold – but men don’t stick around for long when they don’t feel good and warm with a woman. And it isn’t just about sex.

In my next Love Forever teleclass on Wednesday January 30th (next week) at 5:30 PST/8:30EST – you’ll have a step-by-step process to help you, as we talk more and more about how all this works.

If you’re not already a member of my Love Forever client membership program (it’s just for my clients, and for you, because you’ve found your way to my private “event” list) – you’ll want to find out how to join in the next teleclass (once you join – every new teleclass in the program is free…) and instantly start working with all of Love Forever’s 14 recorded hours (so far).

These are new Tools that ONLY my clients and Love Forever members get – to find out how it can help you quickly, just go here==>>

http://www.coachrori.com/love-forever-program/

Love, Rori

My Have The Relationship You Want eBook is THE foundation for everything I teach – the work that started it all, and the first place I send my clients to find the secrets they need to attract and keep the love they deserve. And now I want to share it with you more than ever.

Because my eBook has been completely updated for 2013! This isn’t just a few tweaks here and there – it’s A WHOLE NEW EXPERIENCE FOR YOU: more in-depth advice, simplified Tools to start using today, with additional formats and a beautiful new design.

This second edition comes after 5+ years of hearing feedback from women all over the world, developing my programs, and learning in my own marriage.

New For 2013: My Bigger, Better eBook

Read it and discover:

* A complete how-to manual for connecting to his heart

* My 5-step action plan for having your dream relationship

* 50+ more pages of content, Tools & Exercises

* 7-day risk-free trial: Read it all before you buy

It comes from seeing how my teachings and coaching have changed women’s lives and how times are changing – from dating and flirting to commitment and beyond.

I originally wrote the eBook to show you how I turned my own failing marriage around, but now the book is so much more! It’s a complete manual for relating to a man and creating the love and romance you dream of with him – and every woman should own it.

With this new edition, you’ll get ALL my core concepts PLUS fresh content all packaged together into a real, actionable plan to get you the relationship you want.

Introducing My Completely Revised eBook

Here’s what you’ll get with my new second edition:

A Self-Help Book That Really Works

In the 200+ pages of my eBook, you’ll learn not only how and why a man will connect and be completely devoted to you – but I also give you page after page of Tools and exercises that MAKE IT HAPPEN. Best of all, the Tools are easy and become second nature so that you completely change your vibe: Bring out your most attractive, alluring you and making it easier than ever to create the relationship you want.

Advice And Tools For The Way We Love Now

Is it okay to ask a man out? What about online dating? In today’s day and age, gender lines are blurred. Men aren’t quite sure what we want from them, and we women don’t know how to give it to them! My eBook sets it all straight – telling you exactly what you should know so you don’t accidentally push a good man away… and instead you’ll be sure HE’S the one doing the pursuing.

A Digital-Friendly Format (And New Design) That Makes Reading A Breeze

PC, Mac, phone, tablet, Kindle – however and whenever you want my advice (even in the middle of a date or the middle of the night!), you’ll have all of it right at your fingertips. And I know you’ll love the new design as much as I do. Not only is it beautiful to look at, but it makes finding what you need easier than ever – with Tools and exercises clearly marked for you.

A Book Of Real Hope – No Matter What Your Situation

When was the last time you read something that made you feel really good about your life and your chances for feeling love? Because from the very beginning of my eBook, you’re going to feel uplifted. Inspired. Convinced that the love you want is out there for you. You’ll read all about my story (including the embarrassing details), and you’ll hear about other women who went from “It’s never going to happen to me” to “I never thought love could be this good!”

Turn Your Love Life Around Today

My eBook isn’t just a book: It’s over two decades of what I’ve learned in my marriage, hours upon hours with my clients, and everything that went into my programs, teleclasses, newsletters and blog posts.

I wanted to create something that would be a complete go-to manual for you – whether you’re dating or you’ve been with a man for years.

And this is it. Please don’t miss it. I’ll show you how to inspire a man’s devotion so he falls more and more in love with you every day… and only with a few simple changes on your part:

I know you’ll be talking about this with friends over dinner, calling them in the middle of a chapter, keeping it at your fingertips, and referring to it again and again.

And I can’t wait to hear how it has turned everything around for you.

Love, Rori

I just got this newsletter from Susie Collins. She and her husband Otto have been at this relationship advice business for a LONG time, and because I like to read everything out there, I came across them a few years ago. I’m amazed – but I haven’t unsubscribed from their free newsletters in all this time. They focus on jealousy, and on communication skills – and I’ve actually bought several of their books and found them extremely helpful.

For me – the “strategy” of knowing what to say is great – ONLY as a “starter” to help you FEEL where it is YOU’RE coming from INSIDE. In other words – I’m only interested in the OUTSIDE results you get when you speak in certain ways, and interpret what others say and do in certain ways because it gives you clues to what’s going on INSIDE you.

I’m interested in helping you feel good and feel whole and feel powerful and feel beautiful and lovely and loveable on your INSIDE. I’m interested in helping you create a softness on your outside that comes from a feeling of peace and trust and faith inside you.

So I see great value in learning to use words in ways that are the most authentic for you – that match your outside to your inside.

I loved this story, and got permission to reprint it from my friend Steve at LoveRomanceRelationship.com, who’s an affiliate for them (so I’ll have to include his link at the bottom – you can get their free newsletters there if you like…)

by Susie Collins

Happy holidays to you and your family!

I want you to know how grateful I am for you and that you invite me into your inbox every week!

I don’t have to tell you how stressful the holidays can be–if you let them.

So take a moment right now–take a deep breath and read about what happened recently between my friend and her mother that’s something we can all More…

Okay – I really, really like Michael Fiore, and I really liked this letter.  I have his permission to post it with a link to his products at the end….

Hey, it’s Mike . . .

Since it’s (insert holiday of choice) today and I’m spending the week on the frigid East Coast with my family (and finally getting to meet my nephew) I didn’t have time to write you a full-on newsletter this week. BUT I did want to get SOMETHING to you today, so . . .

A. Happy (Insert Holiday of Your Choice) . . .

B. Thanks for a great 2012. We get a ton of emails every single day from men and women thanking us for our programs, Facebook wall, podcast and all that other stuff, but I don’t get to say thank you to YOU often enough. Doing this work has changed my life in ways I never thought possible and there’s nothing More…

Here’s my favorite Holiday post….and happy everything to you…

Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, Winter Solstice, many more traditions both religious and secular – all together, all at once the mere thought of it fills me with feelings of dread.

Is it because I remember that winter in New York and how depressed that year was? Is it because there’s so much family at the holidays – and I feel not only obligated and exhausted, but adolescent again around so much of my history?

My family history is wonderful. I’m one of the very lucky ones. A not so dysfunctional home – perhaps not passion, but at least humor, affection and lots of support and attention for my brother and me.

Perhaps it just feels as if all the pain of the world comes into relief around the ever present pictures of joy at this time of year. I know it’s not about me at all.

It’s not personal. Do we all just notice, suddenly, all at the same time, that we’re all in this together? We go to church, go to synagogue, light candles, wrap More…