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	<title>Have The Relationship You Want &#187; Overfunctioning</title>
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	<description>Marriage &#38; Relationship Advice From Rori Raye</description>
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		<title>Why We Overfunction for Love and How Change GETS You Love</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 21 May 2010 19:19:25 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Rori Raye</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I recently re-read Harriet Lerner&#8217;s book The Dance of Intimacy, and got her personal permission to give you some of the passages I found to be incredibly powerful for us. Here, Harriet is talking about overfunctioning, and she&#8217;s used several real-life situations women with their families and with the men in their relationships. This passage [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Why Playing “Small” Pushes Your Man Away, And Allowing Him To See Your “Weakness” Brings Him Closer</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 02 Aug 2008 18:04:01 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Rori Raye</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[And, of course, we women have all been taught the exact OPPOSITE! I was taught that if you dream big, if you laugh loud, if you want success in all areas of your life – and you’re a WOMAN – you’ll scare a man away. And that playing “small” and “girly” would make him want [...]]]></description>
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		<title>How To Say What You Feel &amp; Stop The “Intensity” That Pushes Men Away</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 31 Jul 2008 02:54:47 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Rori Raye</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I know the whole idea of “saying what you feel” sounds wrong. Men are supposed to HATE feelings, aren’t they? A man gets really uncomfortable around “drama” and the kind of emotional intensity we’ve been talking about in this series of posts – where your energy is all bound up in a kind of “push-pull” [...]]]></description>
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		<title>How To Turn Sadness Around In Seconds</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 07 Jul 2008 22:07:46 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Rori Raye</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Overfunctioning]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[Have you ever felt like your heart was just – lumpy, heavy, small? Not depressed, not angry, not “down,” just more like an “ache”? When that happens to me, it’s like all I’m sewed up – like an embroidery or needlepoint. It feels like everything’s tight, nothing’s loose, and there’s an edge to every thought. [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Why Ignoring Your Man Can Open Him Up</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 01 Jul 2008 02:30:57 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Rori Raye</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Overfunctioning]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[arguments]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[My husband once seemed like a mystery I couldn’t solve, like a puzzle with missing pieces, and with a brick wall where his heart should be. He seemed impossible to get to know – and more important – impossible for me to show my real, true self to. A minute ago, he walked by me [...]]]></description>
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