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Miranda Kerr Talks About Circular Dating

targetingI was just sent this article from Harper’s – an interview with the lovely model, singer, organic cosmetic line mogul, and self-help author Miranda Kerr:

http://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a5460/miranda-kerr-interview-0215/?click=_lpTrnsprtr_

In it – Miranda sounds like me! She (or the interviewer from Harper’s) uses the term “circular dating” this way:

“Kerr cites the concept of circular dating: seeing a few men at a time and keeping all options open until you’re sure a man is worth it. The idea is about saving ladies from investing in unsuitable men. ”

Here’s more:

“Men don’t want to be disrespected, and women feel the best when they feel cherished,” she says. “So if a woman is feeling cherished, she will respect a man, and if a man’s feeling respected, he will cherish a woman. It doesn’t need to be complicated.” She continues: “You know, for a long time I had it the wrong way. I was constantly doing, doing. Giving, giving for my partner. But what works is not feeling like you have to be everything to everyone.”

And more:

“Miranda Kerr thinks it’s fine for a woman to date multiple men as long as they don’t sleep with any of them.

“The 31-year-old star – who split from Orlando Bloom in 2013 after three years of marriage – advises against having sex on a first date because she thinks it’s better to go out with a number of potential suitors to keep your options open.

“To the issues: How to prepare for a date? “What really works is to spend 15 minutes and focus on feelings and moments that have made you feel really good. Remember those moments so you can build up a positive force field around you.”

“Next, should a girl ever call a guy? “I don’t believe in that. I believe in the man chasing the girl, but that’s just me personally.” Texting? “I think a woman should respond but not reach out.”

“Which brings us to the timeless question of sex on the first date. Out comes the notepad. “My philosophy is that until you get to know them it’s better not to, because energetically as a woman you get attached. So you’re better off to go on a few dates and see if you want to get attached or not.”

From Rori: I think this is just a great article, and that Miranda Kerr is awesome. I’ve commented there to thank Harper’s for mentioning the term, and inviting them to the blog to check out more about “Circular Dating,” how it’s not really about “dating” at all (it’s more Free Therapy), and how you amazing Sirens are all using it…

If you have anything to say there as well – please feel free to comment! I feel very proud that Circular Dating was “coined” here on the blog (a google search confirms it!), intensely laid out in “Targeting Mr. Right,”  and that more women are now doing it.

Love, Rori

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For Your Holiday Season 2014

treeheartHere’s my favorite Holiday post….and happy everything to you…

Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, Winter Solstice, many more traditions both religious and secular – all together, all at once the mere thought of it fills me with feelings of dread.

Is it because I remember that winter in New York and how depressed that year was? Is it because there’s so much family at the holidays – and I feel not only obligated and exhausted, but adolescent again around so much of my history?

My family history is wonderful. I’m one of the very lucky ones. A not so dysfunctional home – perhaps not passion, but at least humor, affection and lots of support and attention for my brother and me.

Perhaps it just feels as if all the pain of the world comes into relief around the ever present pictures of joy at this time of year. I know it’s not about me at all.

It’s not personal. Do we all just notice, suddenly, all at the same time, that we’re all in this together? We go to church, go to synagogue, light candles, wrap More…

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Why Is “Girl Speak” So HARD?

maggiewaveSo many of us think of Girl Speak as “hard” – and often, my clients, readers and Love Forever Teleclass members start our conversations by beating themselves up about how hard they’re finding Feeling Messages and Poetry.

Here’s what I said to one of my clients, Darlene (after making sure she “Slathered Herself With Love” whenever she found herself “beating herself up…”:

We’ve ALL started like that!!!

It takes practice and practice to get good at something – and the language of the “head” is what More…

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Rori’s Novels – Download And Start Reading For Free Right Now!

tiltheadIf you’re looking for a new “read” – download my novels for free (Link fixed!)!

They’re both on Amazon in paperback and kindle (under my “pen names” Rori Gwynne and Kay Woods) at regular (high) prices…

…this is a special for my blog community…

Finding Sarah is my personal true story (warning: there’s violence, sex and inspiration), and The Dream Man is my contemporary romantic fantasy (romance and sex!)….

Finding Sarah

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Click here to download Finding Sarah–>>

The Dream Man

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Click here to read The Dream Man romance novel–>>

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Greta Hassel’s Night Of Love

Just wanted to let you know about this – Greta is SO amazing, and what she and Dennis have going together is SO worth “getting some of” – http://www.NightOfLove.com…Love, RorA Holiday Night of Lovei

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See Our New Dog Nell!

Go here to see Nell “before” – and follow her story, including video of her daring rescue over 7 months ago on the streets of Los Angeles! (as I type, she’s laying on the floor beneath my chair):

https://www.facebook.com/cause4pawsrescuecrew?ref=br_tf

We almost felt bad taking her from Liz, Nell’s amazing foster-mom of Cause 4 Paws – and now Liz will be able to foster another deserving dog, and Nell gets to settle into our family (even our cat, Boston, likes her!)

Love, Rori

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A Love Quote

031- 250“When life gets you down, improvise as if crawling was part of the choreography.” ― Iveta Cherneva

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Hysterical Saturday Night Live Take-Off On Relationship “Gurus”

I couldn’t figure out how to eliminate the ad – but wanted it to show up here on the page….

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Valentine’s Day Has Come And Gone…

I thought it would be interesting to completely ignore Valentine’s Day on this blog about Love! I got SO many emails about today from so many relationship writers (including mine…) – I just wanted to let it sit there and wind down, and see what you all made of the day for yourselves…

You are all so inspirational, and I feel so grateful for your willingness to tell your stories about your childhoods – and I’m just mouth-open, heart-open reading all the comments over the last two days.

So – now that the day’s come and gone, here’s my favorite Valentine’s Day post, and let’s do it together – I’ll love me and you love you, and we’ll not have expectations or ideas about the MEANING of this “occasion.” No man enters into this. It’s just between me and me and you and you, and let’s see how that works!

Okay – Valentine’s Day can thrill us or torture us. We can pretend we don’t care, or we can go into a funk, or we can enjoy what we have if we’re in a relationship or have a good date, or we can make Valentine’s Day a day of love for US.

We can make it a spa day or a manicure day, or a lunch with ourselves day, or a lunch or movie with our girlfriend’s day, or a sit home with a More…

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If He “Can’t” Get Married After 2.5 Years – What About The New Man Who Showed Up?

angerHere’s a great letter about men, money, and commitment:

“Hi Rori, I am in a difficult situation and hoping you could help on it. I have been in a relationship with a man for 2.5 years. Initially I intended it to be one of my circular dating people. But he told me he was serious about me and proposed a year ago. Since then we have been getting very close and have made the relationship really good.

In day to day life I have very little issues with him, do love him and feel that I have worked very hard and he has given as much as he can to the relationship. We hardly have any fights, and get on very well and spend a lot if time together.

The problem now is that he is not in a financial position to be married, and I agree with him on that. He says he doesn’t know when he will be financially ready to be married, but says he loves me, and comments about spending his life with me. Recently, a colleague of mine asked me out and I thought he meant it as going out as friends.

This man is very important and also a nice man. I have known him for 4 years on and off but never been friends or anything else with him. The problem is since I went to a party with him( with many more colleagues there), he seems to think I am now going out with him and keeps texting me. His texts come More…

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