I was just sent this article from Harper’s – an interview with the lovely model, singer, organic cosmetic line mogul, and self-help author Miranda Kerr:
In it – Miranda sounds like me! She (or the interviewer from Harper’s) uses the term “circular dating” this way:
“Kerr cites the concept of circular dating: seeing a few men at a time and keeping all options open until you’re sure a man is worth it. The idea is about saving ladies from investing in unsuitable men. ”
“Men don’t want to be disrespected, and women feel the best when they feel cherished,” she says. “So if a woman is feeling cherished, she will respect a man, and if a man’s feeling respected, he will cherish a woman. It doesn’t need to be complicated.” She continues: “You know, for a long time I had it the wrong way. I was constantly doing, doing. Giving, giving for my partner. But what works is not feeling like you have to be everything to everyone.”
“Miranda Kerr thinks it’s fine for a woman to date multiple men as long as they don’t sleep with any of them.
“The 31-year-old star – who split from Orlando Bloom in 2013 after three years of marriage – advises against having sex on a first date because she thinks it’s better to go out with a number of potential suitors to keep your options open.
“To the issues: How to prepare for a date? “What really works is to spend 15 minutes and focus on feelings and moments that have made you feel really good. Remember those moments so you can build up a positive force field around you.”
“Next, should a girl ever call a guy? “I don’t believe in that. I believe in the man chasing the girl, but that’s just me personally.” Texting? “I think a woman should respond but not reach out.”
“Which brings us to the timeless question of sex on the first date. Out comes the notepad. “My philosophy is that until you get to know them it’s better not to, because energetically as a woman you get attached. So you’re better off to go on a few dates and see if you want to get attached or not.”
From Rori: I think this is just a great article, and that Miranda Kerr is awesome. I’ve commented there to thank Harper’s for mentioning the term, and inviting them to the blog to check out more about “Circular Dating,” how it’s not really about “dating” at all (it’s more Free Therapy), and how you amazing Sirens are all using it…
If you have anything to say there as well – please feel free to comment! I feel very proud that Circular Dating was “coined” here on the blog (a google search confirms it!), intensely laid out in “Targeting Mr. Right,” and that more women are now doing it.