I like Rori’s response. I imagine it was a challenge to process.

So – this is how I worked through it. Woman Who Cares, first I wrote you a long personal email – and when I read it, it sounded like I was defending myself. So, I rewrote. And this time it felt a bit over the top “Nice.”

I ended up with something to use here as a comment, but if I’d worked it through even more, I know it would have ended up even more peaceful-feeling.

Basically, I thank you, WWC, for letting me know about the technical snafu, and I’ve taken care of that. Please let me know if you still are receiving my letters into next week (sometimes channels take a bit of time – technology is far from perfect…)

Then, I appreciate your strong and passionate voice and the time you took to express yourself here.

Then, I know you were looking for improvement in your love life when you signed up for my newsletter and read my 5 Free Tools, and if, after reading through this site and all my letters again (perhaps even my ebook) you feel I might be able to help you, it would be great to have you join the discussion.

Now – to jump off for all of us: Whenever someone isn’t happy with us, we’re triggered. It’s a big deal. We feel bad, then we get angry, then we try to make sense and talk people out of their opinions and feelings so we can regain our view of ourselves that we’re comfortable with- and the truth is – life is SO much better if we can let all that go.

I appreciate you all and how much you’re contributing here and to each other – every single time we put ourselves out there, we chance drawing in a negative word and energy – and this is so a part of life for us to learn to accept.

I saw, on the Huffington Post about a month ago, a letter from Deepak Chopra in response to a slam he’d gotten from some well-known writer in a well-known magazine. I was pretty shocked – not because of anything he said, but because he even BOTHERED to answer this woman publicly.

Here was Deepak Chopra – DEFENDING himself!

So – when I saw that, I realized we are, none of us, ever going to get rid of that first bad feeling and impulse to defend ourselves when someone doesn’t like something we’ve done or said. It’s how we notice our reactions, and what we do that determines where we go from there – to another level of accepting ourselves and peace, or back a few steps into letting our Nasty Voice have its way with us.

For WWC – I pretty much believe that your letter was meant for someone else, because we all agree with everything you believe about the strength of women, boundaries, and self-esteem.

Where we differ is in the feeling of “judgment” that flows throughout your letter. I believe the only way to “help” anyone else is to love ourselves, love them, have compassion for ourselves, and compassion for them, and meet other human beings wherever they are – not where WE think they SHOULD be.

We are all on our own paths and all starting from different places – and so many of us are starting from difficult places with tons of baggage on our Horses and our bodies and hearts.

So – love to you on your path, and I wish you well.

Love, Rori

Rori may I ask why this was let through? I know this is your blog and it’s your choice what is allowed on it, but I don’t appreciate anyone calling me stupid.

As for what the “woman who cares” said…I do not know how she came upon this site or Rori’s materials. I do not know what circumstances in her life led her here. I do know what circumstances led me here. I was desperately looking for a way to a relationship that meant everything to me. Tactics and trickery, manipulation here? I think that is harsh. Like anything we encounter in life, everything has good and bad in it and we can learn from anything if we have an willingness to. Do I agree with everything that I read here and adopt it into my life. Did I find ways listed here to manipulate things to keep the relationship I desperatly wanted to hold on to? Nope absolutely not! However… I what I did find was help for me personally. I found topics here that challanged me to explore within myself . I have come face to face and learned how to deal with things that have hindered me for a long time. I have been able to identify things within me that needed changing as a result of my reading here. For example… painting myself in Love… I never did that before. I always overfunctioned, put myself last did very little for just me. Her topic on that challanged me and I have changed my attitude toward myself as a result….I am a happier woman because it too. Oh a biggie with this was self esteem it sky rocketed.

The concept of Leaning Forward, Leaning back, listening so you can be in touch with how you feel when you are with someone…they are not avenues of manipulation.. but rather tools to be use so that we can make better decisions in all our relationships. There are many more but I will stop.

I am in a better place today because of many of the things I have read here than I was 6 months ago. Are their things I have read here that disagree with, absolutely, beyond that though there are many more that I do agree with because they have challanged me and I am the better for it.

Linda

i feel unsettled about extreme hostility directed at other human beings over something such as a computer glitch or human error regarding unsubscribing to a newsletter. i unsubscribed months ago (i had gotten in a fuss and was mad at everyone) and it was IMMEDIATELY unsubscribed. so i feel confident if WWC (woman who cares) make another request it will be taken care of promptly.

i feel shut down to people who are so harshly critical of something else. i feel suspicious that perhaps they have some work to do in dealing with their anger and wrath and judgements about something going on OUTSIDE them.

i feel compassion. if rori’s work does not resonate with you wwc then once you are unsubscribed you will have nothing to worry about as you will no longer be exposed to something that triggers you into such an angry state of being.

i feel wary of people who want to impose their moral code on EVERYBODY. people can choose for themselves. i don’t believe in many things but i am not out to abolish them . even killing. i am very against killing other people but abolishing hasn’t stopped it.

teaching people self love and self esteem might irradicate it though. which is what rori has personally helped me with. i am very grateful someone who does not know me or what i need didn’t have the power to shut her down just bc it didn’t agrre with them.

to each his own. good luck wwc. take care.

i love rori!

I’m feeling all funny about this. I feel it’s strange that this got past the moderator, but if that is not a mistake, I feel it demonstrates the intellectual honesty of the program that doesn’t fear criticism.