Comments on: How Feeling Messages Work http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/communication/how-feeling-messages-work/ Marriage & Relationship Advice From Rori Raye Sat, 31 Jul 2010 00:37:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=8069 By: Anny http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/communication/how-feeling-messages-work/comment-page-3/#comment-30546 Anny Sat, 27 Feb 2010 00:50:44 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=299#comment-30546 Thanks Rori, yes I think I am starting to actually feel what I feel. It's like I have been frozen for many years for fear of getting hurt by a man again. And what I meant in my previous comment was that when I'm in some kind of relationship with a man I feel like I have to pretend to be all fine, for him to like me. And instead of them liking me, they leave anyway because I come across too cold and 'fake'....I feel scared to show to them who I really am because subconsciously I believe they wouldn't love me for who I am, so I make up some kind of Weird Wonder Woman play, but I end up exactly with what I was afraid to start with..They leave. Thanks Rori, yes I think I am starting to actually feel what I feel. It’s like I have been frozen for many years for fear of getting hurt by a man again. And what I meant in my previous comment was that when I’m in some kind of relationship with a man I feel like I have to pretend to be all fine, for him to like me. And instead of them liking me, they leave anyway because I come across too cold and ‘fake’….I feel scared to show to them who I really am because subconsciously I believe they wouldn’t love me for who I am, so I make up some kind of Weird Wonder Woman play, but I end up exactly with what I was afraid to start with..They leave.

]]> By: Rori Raye http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/communication/how-feeling-messages-work/comment-page-3/#comment-30512 Rori Raye Fri, 26 Feb 2010 18:54:24 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=299#comment-30512 Anny - Welcome, and the words of Feeling Messages are meant to keep you from pretending ever, at all. The goal here is total authenticity - which means you have to discover how you actually feel, what you actually want - and then express that. Don't try to pull words out of a hat or from a post here without understanding the whole method behind it - read everything! Love, Rori Anny – Welcome, and the words of Feeling Messages are meant to keep you from pretending ever, at all. The goal here is total authenticity – which means you have to discover how you actually feel, what you actually want – and then express that. Don’t try to pull words out of a hat or from a post here without understanding the whole method behind it – read everything! Love, Rori

]]> By: Anny http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/communication/how-feeling-messages-work/comment-page-3/#comment-30399 Anny Thu, 25 Feb 2010 00:51:52 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=299#comment-30399 Hi Rori, this is not really clear for me.. I mean if I say to the guy I like 'I missed you when we didnt talk', is a feeling message or something we should avoid saying. I feel like I cant say anything that comes up naturally and that I have to pretend I' m all fine...even when I'm not.. Hi Rori, this is not really clear for me.. I mean if I say to the guy I like ‘I missed you when we didnt talk’, is a feeling message or something we should avoid saying. I feel like I cant say anything that comes up naturally and that I have to pretend I’ m all fine…even when I’m not..

]]> By: Rori Raye http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/communication/how-feeling-messages-work/comment-page-3/#comment-21371 Rori Raye Tue, 24 Nov 2009 00:05:49 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=299#comment-21371 Sheila - good catch. "Ignored" - like "hurt" - implies that a man has done something wrong. It says that' he's DONE something to you....The way to go about this is to dig down further --how does being "ignored" make you feel? Could be lonely, distant, unheard, weird, uncomfortable, sad, angry, untouched. Try this on as a speech: "I feel bad when we don't talk. Is there something I should know? I'm just a girl here, and I don't feel good being in an exclusive relationship without affection and attention. What do you think?" But, basically - if a man is ignoring you - what signal is he sending you? That he's not interested. Please stop being exclusive. Start flirting and Circular Dating. This is the best way to shift your 'vibe." Being with a man who is not fulfilling your basic needs for attention and affection is boring and silly and unnecessary. Sheila – good catch. “Ignored” – like “hurt” – implies that a man has done something wrong. It says that’ he’s DONE something to you….The way to go about this is to dig down further –how does being “ignored” make you feel? Could be lonely, distant, unheard, weird, uncomfortable, sad, angry, untouched. Try this on as a speech: “I feel bad when we don’t talk. Is there something I should know? I’m just a girl here, and I don’t feel good being in an exclusive relationship without affection and attention. What do you think?” But, basically – if a man is ignoring you – what signal is he sending you? That he’s not interested. Please stop being exclusive. Start flirting and Circular Dating. This is the best way to shift your ‘vibe.” Being with a man who is not fulfilling your basic needs for attention and affection is boring and silly and unnecessary.

]]> By: Sheila http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/communication/how-feeling-messages-work/comment-page-3/#comment-21002 Sheila Wed, 18 Nov 2009 05:36:23 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=299#comment-21002 I told my man who now lives in another state there for a year, that I feel ignored, now after reading the feeling message, I thinking that was not the right feeling word-ignored, he withdraw even more. I told my man who now lives in another state there for a year, that I feel ignored, now after reading the feeling message, I thinking that was not the right feeling word-ignored, he withdraw even more.

]]> By: Rori Raye http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/communication/how-feeling-messages-work/comment-page-3/#comment-17176 Rori Raye Fri, 02 Oct 2009 17:19:29 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=299#comment-17176 Welcome Caroline...Try the "Speeches" category here...and the ebook will help you actually start from the beginning and write these out for yourself to use everywhere...Love, Rori Welcome Caroline…Try the “Speeches” category here…and the ebook will help you actually start from the beginning and write these out for yourself to use everywhere…Love, Rori

]]> By: Caroline http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/communication/how-feeling-messages-work/comment-page-3/#comment-17174 Caroline Fri, 02 Oct 2009 17:03:38 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=299#comment-17174 Hi Rori, Can you give some examples of feeling messages? I'm having some difficulty. Thanks, Caroline Hi Rori,

Can you give some examples of feeling messages? I’m having some difficulty.

Thanks,
Caroline

]]> By: self esteem http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/communication/how-feeling-messages-work/comment-page-3/#comment-6223 self esteem Mon, 23 Feb 2009 01:29:39 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=299#comment-6223 Cassandra and Lin, thank you any advise will help. This is the first time being in a relationship with a guy who has a child. The child is five years old and the cutest sweetest little girl! At first into the relationship, now having five months together, I did not mind anything or nothing bothered me. I did not mind the fact that he has to keep contact with his ex and spend time with his daughter, but now i have felt...i guess you can call it jealous??? I have accepted the way he is and the fact that he comes with baggage but for some reason lately it bothers me when his ex calls him or texts him. MOST of the time it has to do with their daughter but sometimes she will text him little jokes here and there and they will kind of joke with each other and that seriously bothers me!!! I have even lately felt jealous when he gives his daughter affection or does things for her and takes her places. I dont know why it bothers me i should be happy he invites me to all the places he goes with his daughter because he wants us to bond, but yet there are times that i just get jealous. Is that normal??? I really want this relationship to work I love him and his little girl what can i do to STOP acting like this?? help! Cassandra and Lin, thank you any advise will help. This is the first time being in a relationship with a guy who has a child. The child is five years old and the cutest sweetest little girl! At first into the relationship, now having five months together, I did not mind anything or nothing bothered me. I did not mind the fact that he has to keep contact with his ex and spend time with his daughter, but now i have felt…i guess you can call it jealous??? I have accepted the way he is and the fact that he comes with baggage but for some reason lately it bothers me when his ex calls him or texts him. MOST of the time it has to do with their daughter but sometimes she will text him little jokes here and there and they will kind of joke with each other and that seriously bothers me!!! I have even lately felt jealous when he gives his daughter affection or does things for her and takes her places. I dont know why it bothers me i should be happy he invites me to all the places he goes with his daughter because he wants us to bond, but yet there are times that i just get jealous. Is that normal??? I really want this relationship to work I love him and his little girl what can i do to STOP acting like this?? help!

]]> By: Lin http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/communication/how-feeling-messages-work/comment-page-3/#comment-5829 Lin Thu, 19 Feb 2009 03:40:33 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=299#comment-5829 self esteme. welcome . I have a child and I am dating a man who has 2 older children.... what is your question. Lin self esteme.
welcome . I have a child and I am dating a man who has 2 older children…. what is your question.
Lin

]]> By: Cassandra http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/communication/how-feeling-messages-work/comment-page-3/#comment-5814 Cassandra Wed, 18 Feb 2009 23:02:22 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=299#comment-5814 ABC....thank you! Your post gave me clarity on things that I have been feeling fuzzy about. I appreciate your input! I send you a huge hug. XOXO Cassandra ABC….thank you! Your post gave me clarity on things that I have been feeling fuzzy about. I appreciate your input! I send you a huge hug.
XOXO
Cassandra

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