“Rori, On the blog, I read a great quote from a “Siren” about the heart being a conductor and how every part of your body can feel your feelings, and how it can be felt from 5 ft away from you – and it’s SO true!
My fiance will say things to me when we’re sitting next to each other like, “I can feel how stressed-out you are, what’s going on?” or “I can feel that you really like this/are happy/are upset, etc.” even when I HAVEN’T SAID ANY FEELING MESSAGES to him AT ALL.
I’m always shocked when I hear him say that to me b/c I’ll be like, “How did you KNOW?! I was just feeling that right now.” It’s so fast how quickly he can feel what I feel! All I did was drop into my body and feel my heart, and it’s when I do this he’ll tell me (and apparently the feelings he can feel are pretty strong).
I’ve been a long-time follower of Rori’s (since 2006 when I broke-up with my ex before I met my current Fiance) but it was only around 2009-2010 her programs around feeling messages, circular dating, and high degree of difficulty really clicked for me. At the point where I am now, my FI (“Fiance”) not only understands what I say to him, but he’s starting to really feel and see what I also feel and see when I talk to him.
I still use feeling messages to him, but these days my communication with him has gotten “simpler” and I find I don’t have to always say “I feel….” in every other sentence because he “feels my heart” when I say something to him.
It sounds a little cheesy I know, but I don’t know a better way to state it. I’d be very interested to hear from other women who’ve been through Rori’s programs for awhile, how their use of the tools have evolved, changed, and grown over time as they’ve mastered it. Please do share!
I didn’t mean to make this so long, but “IamHis” comment about how people around us can feel our hearts rang a bell with me. As I said, communication with my FI has grown deeper, simpler, easier, and also more FUN & connected now that he really feels my heart & feelings when I speak to him.
I do have to say though, when I’m anxious, angry, and generally drained/low energy, not feeling good, etc. I tend to go into my head and am disconnected from my body/feelings (my normal response when I don’t feel good).
So in this state (when I’m in my head and not connected to my heart & body), if I try to communicate with my FI it’s like banging my head against a brick wall! He’ll tend to “forget” more often (not purposely) what I tell him, not as responsive when I talk to him, and I feel frustrated and like he’s the “typical male” whose a horrible listener and doesn’t “get me” at all!
But I’ve definitely learned instead of lashing out at him for being insensitive and being an a$$ when I need him to listen, if I take a self time-out and get back into my heart/body and take a few min. to check-in to see what’s going on with me first, and when I try to communicate again, but this time being connected with my heart, it’s like the clouds get lifted and communicating with my FI becomes SO much more connected and I experience ease.
For anybody whose stressed about what exact “words” or “phrases” to say to a man (esp for feeling messages), I say stop stressing! I think someone else mentioned this before, but what what you actually say to a man doesn’t matter as much as what’s going on inside your heart.
Just the same way we can tell someone is feeling really insecure/upset/happy/not happy but they say otherwise and try to act differently (hence the term “he/she is being fake”), I’ve found out that men are reaaalllllyy sensitive to women they are romantically interested in, in this way.
So to all the beautiful Sirens out there, here’s to staying connected to our hearts, bodies, and lovely/not so lovely feelings! Thanks for letting me share :)”
***From Rori – Lois – Thank you so much for this….