Comments on: Dating Heals Your Heartache

By: Bill Bartmann

Bill Bartmann — Thu, 03 Sep 2009 23:19:42 +0000

Cool site, love the info.

By: susan

susan — Thu, 16 Apr 2009 11:19:44 +0000

Hi Rori,
I almost feel as though this post were written for me. I have a question though, you say: “Old trauma is made up of memories of the bad-feeling things, ..”

I am finding that I cannot tolerate the good memories of my ex either. We were in a relationship for over 8 years and thinking about the good times makes me realize how empty and hollow my life is now. What should I do to overcome this?

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Thu, 30 Oct 2008 21:14:11 +0000

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By: Rori Raye

Rori Raye — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 05:06:15 +0000

Thank you, Carmela, and Welcome. Look forward to your lists and to knowing you. Love, Rori

By: Carmela

Carmela — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 21:58:22 +0000

I am going to try that power and sel-esteem section and see what happens. This was a great post, Rori. Thank you so much.

By: Daria

Daria — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 19:11:33 +0000

Hi maya… try the power and self esteem section of the blog and start from the beginning and making lists…

I know that Rori would probably recommend that…

hugs…

By: Daria

Daria — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 18:34:26 +0000

Oh you guys I feel so sad… even you have disappeared… I feel like I am sinking in a lukewarm puddle of sadness… gross… I feel disgusted… that feels like tightening the back of my throat and heaviness… It feels like hunched shoulders and warm body and no spark… I love my feelings… and I feel outraged that I would say that… That I would love my feelings when I feel so gross feels shameful… and I love that… It feels like heaviness and hotness in my upper teeth… I am so lonely… my friends are not calling me… my life is so boring right now… I feel heavy… my mouth feels like its holding a soft heavy energy… that is so heavy it’s dragging my face down… I want to feel Unlonely… too bad there’s not postive side to lonely… I meant an atonym… but maybe there is a positive side to lonely… maybe being lonely gives me a chance to recharge myself… to grow… well growing sux… I don’t want to grow if it feels this way… I don’t like this feeling… I want to feel happy and full of energy… I want to feel like a kid with life just pounding through my veins… this feels like heavyness in my upper stomach… it feels like too much to even picture this right now… that feels like a sigh… it feels like giving up… oh i feel so helpless… that feels like my throat pressing against the front and choking my air… it feels like my side of my nose tightening… like my upper mouth heavy… like my stomach making gurgly noises… I want to love my feelings because I know it’s the way to go… and that feels like smiling a little… and I love my feelings… and that feels like smiling stronger… which feels like more nausea and more pressing in my throat and stomach… and I love these feelings even… I love that I feel lonely even though I feel OUTRAGED that I feel this way… I love that part of me and the part of me that feels it has no energy to love… oh I feel like my stranger Ayla right now… dragging through the swamp mud, sad, dirty, alone, gross, helpless and hopeless… and that feels so endearing… I am going to hug her… and she stares at me blankly and continues to shuffle on… and I just sneezed and already I feel more powerful and I feel some tingles going through my veins to my arms hands and fingers… and now my throat is tightening again and my right forehead is getting heavy… I feel like I cannot breathe well and a part of me is Demanding that I stop typing because it is a waste of time… and I love that part of me… I love all these parts of me that are coming up… who knows how long they have been unacknowledged and unloved… but what I would love most of all is for one of my friends to call me… so I can borrow some of their energy or just share mine… LOL I feel like an addict and I probably am… and I love that about me and it feels like laughing a little and smiling… and my brain is thinking of things that may make me feel better but they are not what I want to do right now… right now I want the universe to prove to me that I am worthy by having the people I want call me… and I feel ashamed and irritated with myself… and I love my shame and irritation… I love my longing and holding on and trying to control the outcome… I love my lonely hopeless feeling… I love my fear… I love my terrifying aloneness… that I will just lose more and more energy into this aloneness until I am nothing… until all I am is a puddle that can not move… lol… maybe that is like Rori’s pond… and I feel angry I do not want to be a puddle and right now I also don’t want to be a pond… I want to be a roaring river and at the same time I so do want to attract men so I suppose I am going to practice being a pond… or maybe I just don’t like ponds and I can practice being a goddess…I can use my roaring energy to direct myself back to practicing… and I see my phone and it is not ringing and again I feel discouraged… I must not be very good at this letting go and raising my vibe thing because I have practiced for Awhile now and I;m still not doing it right… and I love that about myself and how hard I am on myself but I also want to not beat myself up and I love that about me too… and I am smiling now and yawning… I feel compelled to pick up the phone and look at it… maybe I should go put it in the other room… I have been trying to put it farther away from me to demonstrate that I don’t need it… that I can make myself happy but now I feel that I can’t… and that feels like sinking deep into a well in my stomach… like freefalling down a tunnel that seems to have no end and it feels like throwing up and like my stomach tightening and my head getting dizzy… and now I am thinking that maybe I should not have a cell phone at all… I should cut myself off from the world… that will be a punishment to the world and to myself for not attracting people… and that feels like smiling but something also feels attractive about that like I would have lots of goddess time to myself and be more sensual… and that feels powerful… it feels like I am cool and very goddesslike and radiant… and at the same time I really love communicating and sharing and I feel sad that I am not getting a chance to… and I feel angry because the calls I have been getting are not from the people that I want, that would increase my energy… I feel so bored with this exercise right now and I love my boredom… I love my sadness… and I love my power… I feel I have been neglecting myself and my body and I feel empowered to realize that there are things I can do for myself, like workout and shower and eat … that may make me feel better… too bad I am not sure that they will make me feel better because they are not the outcome I want… that is people to call me… hmmm… i love my feeling of being fixed on this outcome… I love my longing and frustration… that feels like yawning… and it feels like heavy in my lower tummy and tension in the sides of my neck… I love my heaviness and my tension… I love the icky feeling in the back of my throat… I love the burning in my eyes… I love the health issue I am having… I want to be healed and free and I love that about me… I love that I feel I don’t have enough money, I love the tightness inside my chest… I love my sighing… I love my esophagus tightening… I love my laughter… I love me I love my smile and I am feeling lighter and I love that…I am feeling stronger and my mom wants to use the computer and I love that I feel better and love the fear I have about writing the letter to my VP and am going to do that now… =)

By: maya

maya — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 18:28:52 +0000

This sounds good, but sometimes we don’t feel like doing much on the first days. He dumped me a couple of days ago without explaining anything, just started to act weird and away from me. I tried the lean back, didn’t do much honestly (probably it was too late). Then he sent me an email for my Birthday just saying ‘Happy Birthday’. I didn’t thank him, I am not contacting him in any way or letting him know about me, as I feel that will only put me in a unconfortable position if he does not answer.
It’s so frustrating. Feeling he does no longer think about me, or like me, and I have been deleted from his life.
Moving on seems difficult.

By: Daria

Daria — Tue, 28 Oct 2008 20:25:58 +0000

Im feeling so mad! I have been passed up for a much overdue and earned promotion at work! No wonder I have been feeling so icky about going to work lately… I don’t have any new cute dates lined up… my life seems so boring!!! I feel trapped! I want to love my feelings and I don’t want to feel trapped! AARGH! I am going to quit my job if they do not redress this situation because I do not want to be taken advantage of. And I have about 100 dollars to my name! I feel so frustrated I even just called this guy that likes me always feel like I’m receiving with him although I don’t feel attracted to him… I even tried calling a guy I used to like (his phone was off – probably for the best). I just feel so frustrated and fed up!!!! I love myself and that feels like a lie I feel like screaming!!! I don’t want to feel better it seems like and that’s ok… that feeels funny and sad at the same time like a smirk… and I feel like I just want to be rescued and not do anything… I feel like I want to forget about not calling and call every guy in my phone!! LOL… what is up with me and this rebellion against not overfunctioning the past week?

Is this expected… Rori you said this is my fear and yes it feels like fear but it also feels like being trapped and feeling angry and defiant like throwing a tantrum…

I feel tightness in my throat and my stomach… I love you tightness… and I feel tightness in my mouth… I do NOT WANT TO LOVE MY FEEELINGS RIGHT NOW!!! and that is ok… because I love that feeling… hahaha… that feels like laughing out loud and smiling… I still feel angry in my mouth like there is a pebble I am holding between my bottom teeth and my lip… and that is pretty cool… and I feel like a hurricane is going on in my lower stomach and that is ok… along with the my left jaw tightening and now my right jaw…

I just want to have fun! I want to go and party and I want to call these 2 particular guyfriends that I LIKE and that are not calling me… hmmm….. is that a trap or what!!!

LOL! I love myself for wanting to overfunction. I love myself for wanting their energy. I forgive myself and promise myself I am here for myself. Even if myself is screaming that I am not good enough, that it wants their love not mine… I appreciate my honesty… and I feel happy to see this pattern right here on virtual paper…

I do not know what to do with this pattern but I’m going to send love to it… I love myself for having this pattern… and part of me wants to let go of this pattern and really have love… and I love that part of me too… and part of me feels scared of feeling lonely… and I love that part too… And I’m feeling like smiling… and yawning… And part of me doesn’t want to even go to work this week but I have decided to write the VP and go to work until the end of the week to wait on his response…

So help and tips please… anyone ladies…

thank you…
am going to look up vp’s address online…