He makes me laugh… What’s that about?
You know we all have biological imperatives and hormone markers for mating, square jaws for men, heart shaped faces for women. But what does humor have to with biology and why is it so important in the mating game?
I’ll throw out my own suggestion here as I don’t expect you to answer this.
I think it is a subtle yet accurate barometer of the psychological “fitness”
and fit of the potential mate.
Let’s take a look at two different kinds of humor here. Toilet humor. It is a lowest common denominator. Poo! No matter how smart or sophisticated, we all snigger at this once in a while. What about George Carlin and his 7 dirty words. Toilet humor? Heck no, this is deep comedy with a surface of vulgarity but a witty and socially profound statement beneath.
So, if your boyfriend finds toilet humor hysterical, all the time, what does that say about him? I suggest there is a lowest common denominator kind of look to his life and if you fit with that lifestyle and outlook on life, then you’ll probably get along, the magic of chemistry and pheromones not withstanding.
And Carlin? Boyfriend is probably a professional, maybe liberal and probably smarter than the average bear if he appreciates the underlying message of the routine. And you? If that’s the kind of life you’re in or looking for then you’ll jibe with the guy who is hip and striving to make his life above the average.
While these examples are trite and oversimplified I believe the concept is sound. If your partner, boyfriend, potential mate makes you laugh without even trying, that may be a signal of a deeper mental match.
Okay – so – what do you think about this? —
Steve Warwick Ph.D.
From Rori: Steve is my dear friend, certifiable genius webmaster and the brains behind the site LoveRomanceRelationship.com (also, he’s single and lives in a cute house in the woods outside Austin, Texas, not that I’m trying to matchmake or anything!) Take a look at the site, you can pick up free books and reports (good ones) and get interesting email from authors he’s featuring (Tinque’s there…). I’m an official “consultant” for him – reviewing what he publishes and making sure the content is not just good, but great; plus contributing my own articles to the other relationship experts on there.
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