Anyway, the law of attraction list of your ideal relationship, and I used to read mine to myself at least 3x a day (am, lunch, pm), actually seems to work, as unlikely as it seems. My perception of it is a) that it puts you into an attractive, happy state, and b) that regardless, it definitely takes you out of any negative things going on, because you are putting yourself into awesome-feeling states 3x a day, which starts to leak into your reality, and you end up -feeling- great then, too.

When you can hold yourself back, it does bring men toward you. It IS hard, at least for me, but when I do it, it works. I remember when I first heard it, and didn’t call back if they’d not asked me to, thinking, well, I’ll never hear from them again, and yet… they call again, and over and over. So, just try [hard] to change your approach, and if you can stick to it, when you do, it works. It IS HARD! For me anyway.

*I feel like there should be some sort of an online 24/7 support group, so encourage you to hold back if / when you are tempted! But good luck. And, circular dating, when you get into it, is just enjoyable. Men are trying to impress you, and you can just enjoy the times, laughing, and yes, they like to take you out and treat you to nice times. When I get going, it’s pretty easy to have several dates a week. I’m too busy currently, but maybe my summer will turn into that again. If you try, it is easy to get that going, tons of dates, and just enjoying seeing who is out there, and laughing and taking it easy.

I’m coming in late on this post, but I’ve also just about given up on dating on line or on dating period. The only thing it seems like guys want are to find someone who they can sleep with or they want someone younger. I’m sorry I’ve put myself out there after breaking up with my boyfriend because he didn’t exactly give me what I wanted at the time and now I’m single and he’s getting married in a couple of weeks.

What is anyone’s advice on dating when you feel like everyone you go out with is looking for someone younger, skinnier, slutier. I don’t think any of the advice that I’ve read here or in books really works in the real world. I’d like to see posts from women that have actually met their husbands or are in relationship because of advice they have gotten here or somewhere else. I know so many wonderful, attractive women that continue to be single.

Thank you!
Jen

What a lovely name Lovely is. Thanks so much for your comment

Yeah, we had a big storm here, I’m actually in the mountains, near Squaw Valley. Skiing is one of my big time passions because of how it makes me feel. Free, light, full of endorphins and fresh mountain air, among the trees, and with snow purifying everything. I really love it.

And the house, well, the house could be an amazing spiritual retreat, everything is so soft here, with a view into the trees and snow in the back yard. With high ceilings so you can breathe and feel spacious. A cappuccino maker for the mornings. And a hot tub for soaking and sipping a glass of wine under the trees in the evening.

Wow, it would be so fun to have a Goddess retreat here

I am curious what kind of school you are in, what you are studying, if you enjoy it? Sounds like you feel a little trapped in your city though.

To answer your questions, yes, I am the EFT Erika. I’ve actually created a new system, called Holistic Belief Reprogramming, and EFT is just one of the tools. If you click on my name at the top of my comments, you can see my website and sign up for the free 7-day video course. It’s a nice complement to everything Rori’s teaching because it helps all the changes women are making to feel more natural and organic. And accelerates results dramatically.

It also greatly enhances intuition, so that you will be much better able to read the deeper emotional mettle of the men who show up.

Feel free to email me also.

cheers,
Erika

What I feel like right now is wanting to it right. Wondering what my plan of action should be to get what I want. On the other hand, if I do or say anything, I will not mence any words, nor walk on eggshells either. I will even use the word YOU when discussing “issues” I am tired of being diplomatic and responsible and mature in my responses to life.

Wow, I did that on the dating website, told some men in email reponses to their emails, what I thought. It felt good. It felt good to not be diplomatic, just honest. I dont think I will ever just tromp around with my cleated army boots all over somebody as a normal mode of operating, but I might do it once in a while when necessary.

I got some stuff welling up inside me, It is gonna burst. It feels like its gonna be messy too.

So…. you cant say the wrong thing to the right person?…. I am gonna test that theroy out! just so I know for sure. Yep gonna do it.

Linda

So it’s snowing there… you must be on the east coast? It’s so nice to live in a beautiful place. Where I live, big midwest city, while my yard itself can be beautiful, the city is not, not in my neighborhood anyway. I’ve got getting out of here on my list, though am in school (ms degree, going [way] back to school right now). Are you the Erick who is an EFT person? I am actually fascinated to hear that you can pick up people’s issues/things easily, specifically because I am so bad at that. I always look [too hard?] for the good, and so end up buying into whatever is being sold. Works poorly in dealing with men, though here, for me anyway, at least figuring out what I’m feeling can help steer me where my intuition and just how I think of people doesn’t help me avoid bad things, typically (re all things, people I hire, jobs, lots of places/things/people).

I’d love to hear more about your coaching things, if you aren’t sick of it that is. I’d also love to hear how your house is so lovely and peaceful… so I can envision a new place for me once this school is finished.