Here’s a great guest post from my best friend and amazing relationship coach Virginia Clark of http://www.itsnevertoolatetomarry.com
by Virginia Clark
It makes sense that if you exist so does your perfect partner.
If you don’t believe this maybe you’re making excuses for being single because you’ve become discouraged and you’ve lost hope over time.
When you give up on your dream of finding a good man it can be a form of self-sabotage. Let’s face it; it’s hard to keep believing in your dream of marriage when it’s taking longer than you had hoped.
So you may find yourself making excuses as to why you just can’t find the right man.
One of the most common excuses I hear women make revolve around where they live.
Do any of these sound familiar?
“In Los Angeles there are no good men, they are all superficial and all they want is a beautiful woman on their arm” or “I live in such a small town, there’s no one here I can relate to or who has my interests” or “In New York City women out-number men so men have so many women to choose from, they don’t want to commit.
As soon as you blame your singleness on circumstances outside of yourself you end up giving away your power and creating a frame of mind that will keep love away.
Another common lament I hear is “men just want a younger woman and not someone their own age.”
If this is what you’re telling yourself, you are making what you’re thinking a self-fulfilling prophecy and keeping love away. I admit, there is some truth in all these statements and there are men that fit all these complaints, but those are not the men who are right for you!
If you exist, so does he! You just haven’t met him yet.
So don’t make your search for your man that much harder on yourself. You will meet him faster if you believe he’s there.
Here’s the truth: you are responsible for putting out the “vibe” that will attract the right man to you.
If you believe he’s out there, you will have that “vibe” and you’ll be much more available and open to him when he shows up. If you don’t believe he’s there, you could miss him completely.
Ultimately you are the one who needs to recognize him when he shows up, and expecting him is like opening the door.
“There is no remedy for love but to love more.”
~Henry David Thoreau