So if you have sex with a guy “too soon” is the relationship ultimately doomed?
Can you turn things around and have him want something more from you?
My feelings about sex are quite different from a lot of other thoughts and feelings I read about and hear from my clients and readers.
I am SO about us learning to trust ourselves, to follow our feelings, and so NOT into rules made up by anyone else (even if they make good sense) – that, to me – sex is about your heart and your patterns that aren’t working.
In other words, if you’re shying away from sex, thinking it’s your “weapon” and you need to withhold – then I say experiment with putting less importance on sex and see how it feels (there’s sex without full intercourse – and that’s always an option) if you go against your normal pattern.
And if you’re using sex to “get close” to a man – and habitually getting involved and investing in him way too soon because you’re having sex with him – then I say stop doing that and see what happens.
Sex has, in my opinion – absolutely NOTHING to do (for a man) with whether or not a relationship goes forward or succeeds (unless it’s not good and satisfying, and you’re tense, uncomfortable with yourself and your body).
It’s all about how it feels to YOU!
If you’re a woman who’s working through changing her results in love – changing the way you normally do things is most always a great idea.
Yeah, sometimes the results won’t be what you want – but I truly believe you can’t mess up a relationship with the right man by sleeping with him – even if it feels a bit messy and confusing.