A short message for Nancy who feels in despair about her future love life….
What we think we want doesn’t always serve us.
I spent much of my romantic life, and my “best” years chasing after men who simply weren’t right for me.
Yes – there was AMAZING chemistry and sex, yes, I felt a soul-deep connection (one in particular I can name and have written about – and that lasted 7 years), yes there was intense deep feeling…..but still, they weren’t right for me.
And letting go of them was excruciating. (Yes – there was more than one, or two, or even 3 or 4, maybe MORE!)
And so, please use my Tools to talk yourself out any defeatist attitude you’re harboring.
The truth is – we don’t know ANYTHING. You don’t know who is or isn’t out there for you – but if you choose to decide now that there’s no one, imagine how much harder it’s going to be for him to find you.
This despair is coming from your subconscious.
Please don’t let it run you.
Talk to it, love it, embrace it, make friends with it, offer it new food, new thoughts, new attitudes, and reassurance that you’re in this for the best of yourself as a WHOLE – all these parts that want you to despair included.