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	<title>Have The Relationship You WANT</title>
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	<description>Marriage &#38; Relationship Advice From Rori Raye</description>
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		<title>The Highway Of Love</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Oh, my - it&#8217;s all getting away from me. Holidays, and now I&#8217;m jamming to get ready for the filming of my newest program around Circular Dating - I still don&#8217;t have a title for the program - but it&#8217;s all around being a &#8220;Diva&#8221; and so I&#8217;m renaming Circular Dating (and expanding what it&#8217;s [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/love-life/the-highway-of-love/</link>
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		<title>Having Sex WITHOUT Getting Hung Up On Him</title>
		<description><![CDATA[If you&#8217;ve ever felt &#8220;hung up&#8221; on any and every man you slept with - even though you KNEW he was a lost cause, even though you KNEW he wouldn&#8217;t call again, that he wasn&#8217;t marriage material, and that your heart would hurt very quickly - here&#8217;s some thoughts, jumped off of a comment by [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/sex-sensuality/having-sex-without-getting-hung-up-on-him/</link>
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		<title>If Low Self-Esteem Is Making You Chase Down A Man - Fix It Now</title>
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Sometimes, when I look back, I&#8217;m just amazed at how naive and &#8220;stupid&#8221; I was about men.  How I humiliated myself, chased after them, pined after them, and thought that was the way relationships went.
And so when I get a letter that makes my face red, and makes me want to stomp around, I know [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/dating/if-low-self-esteem-is-making-you-chase-down-a-man-fix-it-now/</link>
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		<title>The Truth Is Sexy</title>
		<description><![CDATA[ If you&#8217;ve ever felt torn in two directions with a man, and you&#8217;re struggling with following your heart or your own Boundary &#8220;Rules&#8221; - here&#8217;s a letter from Hannah we can work with:
&#8220;Hi Rori,  I am reading the ebook and doing the writing exercises. I already feel better. I decided that clenching my [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/communication/the-truth-is-sexy/</link>
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		<title>Holidays And Love</title>
		<description><![CDATA[The Holidays are slipping away from me. I’m buzzing, speeding, moving faster than sound waves. Brain on overdrive, pedal to the metal. It’s Hanukkah. It’s Christmas. It’s Kwanzaa. It’s New Year’s. All at once.
I see my entire life in rewind. My whole life crammed into two weeks. I remember my childhood and the Hanukkah candles, [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/love-life/holidays-and-love/</link>
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		<title>How To Move On From A Broken Engagement</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Here&#8217;s a heartbreaking letter from Leslie, who&#8217;s suffering the surprise and sudden end of her 6 year relationship:
&#8220;Rori, I thought I was in a wonderful relationship with a man I have been with off and on for 6 years. He had given my an engagement ring and we planned to get married next June. We [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/breakup-divorce/how-to-move-on-from-a-broken-engagement/</link>
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		<title>Look Confident Even When You&#8217;re Confused</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Here&#8217;s a letter from Rachel, and It&#8217;s so universal, I&#8217;m going to write a lot about the issue of &#8220;Confidence.&#8221;:
&#8220;Rori, Here&#8217;s my situation, I have been single for about a year, and can&#8217;t figure out why.  I&#8217;m quite attractive and at times confident (if I&#8217;m not interested in a man), but as soon as a [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/look-confident-even-when-youre-confused/</link>
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		<title>If You&#8217;re Addicted To Men - Do This</title>
		<description><![CDATA[ Allana Pratt, the Sexy Mom Expert (and I know her and love her and she truly is&#8230;) wrote a comment about my Circular Dating as Healing post - you can read the whole comment here-&#62; and basically, she deals with her clients a bit differently than I do in this one way&#8230;
For the most [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/dating/if-youre-addicted-to-men-do-this/</link>
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		<title>Should You Ignore Him Or Let Him In?</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Have you ever felt like a guy was hanging around you, but he just never asks for a regulation date?
And you don&#8217;t know how to behave?
Here&#8217;s a situation from Helene I think is pretty universal - especially if you live in a small town where everyone hangs out together and seems to know everyone else:
&#8220;Hi [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/dating/should-you-ignore-him-or-let-him-in/</link>
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		<title>Porn And Your Relationship</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Okay - this is a tough, tough topic - and I asked Tinque to guest post about it - because she&#8217;s dealt with it in her own life, becoming an amazing woman, an absolute expert and a great coach. Her take is completely the opposite of everything you&#8217;ll hear out there, and I&#8217;ll be asking [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/porn-and-your-man/porn-and-your-relationship/</link>
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		<title>What To Do With Your Rage - Bethany 6</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Bethany&#8217;s now moved from anguish - to anguish and RAGE, and though she&#8217;s trying to cork the rage, it just squeaks out - see if this will help you:
&#8220;Hi,  Rori,  I saw Carl in the computer lab today and I felt angry.  He was with a student and the three of us [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/uncategorized/what-to-do-with-your-rage/</link>
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		<title>When You&#8217;re In Anguish Over Him - Bethany 5</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Bethany is in the middle of a crisis.  The crisis began when she started dating Carl, and it goes on day after day, because, as much as she loves him, she feels awful with him, too:
&#8220;Dear Rori, I&#8217;m feeling jealous right now.  I got a text from Carl not understanding why this girl is [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/uncategorized/when-youre-in-anguish-over-him/</link>
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		<title>If He Wants To Be Friends - Get Your Energy Out Of There</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Have you ever pretended to the man who just turned you from a lover to a friend that you&#8217;re OKAY with that?
Here&#8217;s a comment from Mariah (here&#8217;s the whole comment-&#62;) - (I&#8217;m working with it here because I think it&#8217;s a universal situation that will help you, too):
&#8220;Rori, I wrote to you while back about [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/from-lovers-to-friends-and-back-again/if-he-wants-to-be-friends-get-your-energy-out-of-there/</link>
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		<title>Your Logo For Love</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Here&#8217;s a great idea from Clara, and I&#8217;m turning it into a Tool:
&#8220;Dear Rori,
An Idea I had - it is a bit silly but who knows you might like it…
Why not make yourself a LOGO, or a Trade Mark Symbol in the Figure of a Siren or a Goddess or Mermaid ? And also a [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/your-logo-for-love/</link>
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		<title>Speed Dating Tips For Free Therapy</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Here&#8217;s a quick tip for a specific situation.  See if you can use this the next time you go to a party - perhaps your office Holiday party - or anywhere where there are men:
&#8220;Hey Rori, I&#8217;m going to a speed dating event tomorrow night - Any last minute tips????? I&#8217;m really nervous and almost [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/speed-dating-tips-for-free-therapy/</link>
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		<title>What To  Do If You Can&#8217;t Get Over Him</title>
		<description><![CDATA[What is it about getting over a man?  Letting go?  Leaving it be, even without &#8220;Closure&#8221;?
Here&#8217;s part of a comment from Clare - the whole comment is right here-&#62;:
&#8220;Rori, Is it possible to not be able to get over your first love? It has been 4 years and still I can’t get over the guy [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/love-life/if-you-cant-get-over-him/</link>
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		<title>Is He Really Claiming You For Ever After?</title>
		<description><![CDATA[So - what do you do when it seems he&#8217;s &#8220;claimed&#8221; you - and then he&#8217;s gone?
This is a jump-off from Jon&#8217;s comment/post (find it here) and a comment from Linda about what Jon said - and, to me, this is one of the most frustrating and common situations I hear about (and, yes, I&#8217;ve [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/love-life/claiming-you-forever/</link>
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		<title>The Truth From A Man</title>
		<description><![CDATA[So what does a MAN think about all these Tools, and everything we&#8217;re saying here?
Pretty much exactly what I say - and it sounds so clear (and pretty harsh, too) coming from a man - it sort of wipes all the cobwebs off the table, dissolves the confusions, the misconceptions.
The only thing is - understanding [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/love-life/the-truth-from-a-man/</link>
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		<title>If He&#8217;s Gone From Friend To Lover And Now He&#8217;s Confused</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Here&#8217;s a letter from Sheri - and as I read it I nearly jumped out of my chair in recognition of how I&#8217;ve done in my own life exactly what Sheri&#8217;s doing, and then started pounding the keyboard with frustration - for her, for me in the past, and for any of you who are [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/from-lovers-to-friends-and-back-again/if-hes-gone-from-friend-to-lover/</link>
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		<title>Celebrate Everything - Even HIM</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I really liked this article:
http://theoldoakswing.blogspot.com/2008/11/my-marriage-part-2-Celebrate.html - but it doesn&#8217;t exist anymore! I&#8217;ll try to get in touch with her and see if I can get it back&#8230;
Basically, the article is about Celebrating marriage, Celebrating life - Celebrating yourself, him, sharing time, thinking up ways to Celebrate everything.
Okay - the article clearly refers to a marriage [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/marriage/celebrate-everything-even-him/</link>
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		<title>Romance Yourself And Bring Him IN</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Romance is a skill and a talent - and it requires effort - so Romance is a &#8220;boy&#8221; thing.  That&#8217;s why it feels so awful to us when it&#8217;s not coming at us, and we&#8217;re left to try to think of how to do romance ourselves.
So - try this - write out and imagine what [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/romance-yourself-and-bring-him-in/</link>
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		<title>Thank Yourself In Advance</title>
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Happy Thanksgiving!
***If you get my free eLetters, you&#8217;ve already received this&#8230;and I&#8217;d like you to print it out from here (if you haven&#8217;t already) and put it up where you can see it and DO it, and make it one of your Thanksgiving presents for yourself&#8230;)
Ever wondered if things could really turn around &#8220;on-a-dime&#8221; for [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/power-self-esteem/thank-yourself-in-advance/</link>
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		<title>Joy And Gratitude</title>
		<description><![CDATA[When my daughter was small, Thanksgiving at school was about the Native American experience, about the Pilgrims, and about all the conflicting stories of that time. With just a tiny bit of research, I&#8217;ve found Thanksgiving to be a very, very old tradition, a celebration of the Harvest, and much more applicable to what we [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/love-life/joy-and-gratitude/</link>
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		<title>Why A Man Does What He Does</title>
		<description><![CDATA[This is in answer to a comment by sifsgoldwig - (here&#8217;s the comment-&#62;) after a break up, and I thought my comment might help you, too:
I thank you, sifsgoldwig, for your heartfelt story and the great questions it brings up.  I can&#8217;t help you specifically to understand this situation - because spending ANY time, energy [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/why-a-man-does-what-he-does/</link>
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		<title>The Art Of Attracting Him</title>
		<description><![CDATA[So - what possible link can there be between drawing and attracting men?
Lots of links, actually, and I&#8217;m working with them myself.  I&#8217;m taking an art class once a week - I&#8217;ve always loved drawing and painting - but never had any real &#8220;technique&#8221; so I&#8217;d get frustrated with what I was doing and then [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/art-of-attracting-him/</link>
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		<title>If He&#8217;s Going From Passionate To Friendly</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Thank you for your brilliant comments and stories and testimonials, and I realize the only way I can answer you in a meaningful way is here in actual posts (please forgive me in advance for replying to some, and not all of your comments - it would be overwhelming for me to even try, so [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/if-hes-going-from-passionate-to-friendly/</link>
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		<title>How To Believe You&#8217;re ENOUGH For Him</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;m not pretty enough. I&#8217;m not sexy enough. I&#8217;m not smart enough. I&#8217;m not (fill in the blank) enough. I&#8217;m not enough. Sound familiar?
You may have read some of Tinque&#8217;s comments here, and some of her articles that I&#8217;ve posted.  Her real name is Dominique, and she&#8217;s a former client of mine who&#8217;s just leapt [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/sex-sensuality/how-to-believe-youre-enough-for-him/</link>
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		<title>Managing The Ups And Downs Of Love</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Today&#8230;I just wanted to be MOTIVATIONAL!
There are going to be ups and downs, bouncing around, feelings going from good to bad to good again, and things will happen you don&#8217;t expect.
AND you will continually be moving forward ANYWAY!
This is the whole thing I want you to know, even if it feels weird - if you&#8217;re [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/managing-the-ups-and-downs/</link>
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		<title>Holiday Man-Catching Secrets</title>
		<description><![CDATA[My friend Keri Newell (you may have heard the interview she did with me in my Interview Series, and she&#8217;ll be appearing and doing live demonstrations on my new program about Circular Dating) is doing a one-time free teleclass tomorrow evening (Wednesday) at 5pm Pacific Time, 8pm Eastern (and wherever you may be in-between), called [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/holiday-man-catching-secrets/</link>
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		<title>What To Say To Him When You&#8217;re Dating Other Men</title>
		<description><![CDATA[So - what do you say to him - especially if he says he &#8220;doesn&#8217;t want to date a woman who&#8217;s dating multiple men?&#8221;
Here&#8217;s a letter from Mary, who&#8217;s trying to get away from a &#8220;friends with benefits&#8221; situation:
&#8220;Rori, I have been reading your letters over the past few weeks and they have really helped [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/dating/what-to-say-to-him-when-youre-dating-other-men/</link>
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		<title>Relationship Tool Of The Week - Paint Yourself In Love</title>
		<description><![CDATA[So many of you have told me that this Tool - Paint Yourself - has created a breakthrough for you. And so I wanted to reprint it here in case you&#8217;re new to me and aren&#8217;t getting my eLetters yet (be sure to sign up to get them, they&#8217;re free, and once they&#8217;ve gone out [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/relationship-tool-of-the-week-paint-yourself-in-love/</link>
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		<title>What Does Circular Dating Do For You?</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Here&#8217;s a comment-question from TW, and to show you how fast and amazingly you can catch on to all this and change your life, see how brilliantly here Alias Girl, Daria and JP answered! (You can see all the comments here-&#62;)
The question - from TW: &#8220;What exactly is circular dating and what purpose does it [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/dating/what-does-circular-dating-do-for-you/</link>
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		<title>Turning Around Disappointment</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Ever stood in your living room, in your kitchen, looked at your man, or your empty &#8220;dance card&#8221; of fun things you&#8217;d like to do and wish you&#8217;d done, felt the disappointment well up in you and the words come into your brain &#8220;How&#8217;d I get here?&#8221;
I don&#8217;t think there&#8217;s one of us that hasn&#8217;t [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/power-self-esteem/turning-around-disappointment/</link>
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		<title>Why Is My Ex Showing Up Everywhere?</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Andrea is suffering with the fact that her ex seems to be showing up everywhere in her life - just as she&#8217;s trying to make huge changes&#8230; (here&#8217;s the whole series of comments, back and forth, from Andrea and JP)-&#62;
&#8220;Rori, I feel like there is a force trying to connect us. For example, I am [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/breakup-divorce/why-is-my-ex-showing-up-everywhere/</link>
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		<title>Let Me Know What You Need For My Next Program On Circular Dating</title>
		<description><![CDATA[My next program will be about Circular Dating - What it is, Why it works no matter what situation you&#8217;re in (even if you&#8217;re married, with some adjustments), and exactly How to do it in all kinds of situations.
Would you let me know what you&#8217;d like me cover?  I&#8217;m going to use many scenarios and [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/love-life/new-circular-dating-program/</link>
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		<title>Embrace Your Change</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Yaaay!  The election&#8217;s over, and it feels like things are moving in an orderly, methodical, well-thought out and yet passionate way.
However you voted, I hope you will now gather the entire world together in your mind and heart as a peaceful world - accepting and loving all the pieces of it that are painful and [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/in-the-newscelebrities/embrace-your-change/</link>
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		<title>Relationship Chemistry - True Or False?</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I posted some of my thoughts about &#8220;Chemistry&#8221; in relationships at www.Alphawomen.com, and got a huge response.  Freda Mooncotch, the owner of Alphawomen, asked me this:
&#8220;Rori,  Do you think you can create chemistry between two  people who don&#8217;t have it?
I was watching Sex and the City where Carrie meets Aiden and although there  [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/relationship-chemistry/</link>
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		<title>Sex And Obsession - Bethany Session 4</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Sex is a delicate negotiation - even when you&#8217;re long married.
How to get it started, how to make sure it&#8217;s good, how to end it and move on to the next moment of being in a relationship.
Bethany is working her way through all that - getting to orgasm in an organic, easy, fulfilling and self-responsible [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/bethanys-story/sex-and-obsession/</link>
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		<title>Are You Punishing Yourself Because You Want To Punish HIM?</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Reshi asked a great question - after doing some amazing work to get to the bottom of her feelings - the feelings and thoughts she found there were frightening (to read Reshi&#8217;s entire comment, go here-&#62;)
Here&#8217;s a bit of her comment:
&#8220;So I did a little Riff on that and came out with about the scariest [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/communication/are-you-punishing-yourself/</link>
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		<title>Forget The 4 Man Dating Plan - Try The 10 Man Dating Plan</title>
		<description><![CDATA[
Every time I sit to write about Circular Dating, I feel as if it&#8217;s so obvious.  So natural, so logical.  Exactly the way we women should always be thinking in terms of men, and dating&#8230;and then I look at my emails and the comments to this blog, and all the articles I read out there [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/dating/10-man-dating-plan/</link>
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		<title>Vote Today For Yourself</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Be in your Masculine Energy today - to get yourself to the polls to vote, and to make sure you have a book with you, your journal and a pen, so you can be a girl and have something fun to do while you&#8217;re waiting in line!
Sink into your Rori Raye work - feel what [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/in-the-newscelebrities/vote-today/</link>
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		<title>Recover Your Joy</title>
		<description><![CDATA[
I got a comment from Clara a few days ago, and I wanted to do more for her -  Clara is seriously obsessed and addicted to a man who is no good for her, who&#8217;s been in and out of her life for years and years, and even though she&#8217;s only 42 and married, she [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/heal-your-heart/recover-your-joy/</link>
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		<title>How To Make Him Propose At Last</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I found this while surfing around, it&#8217;s by Pamela Tames, at www.SeasonedSex.com, and I thought it was great - she titled it &#8220;How To Make Him Propose. At Last&#8221;:
&#8220;You’re a woman. You’ve probably read, what, 8,702 relationship books about how to make men crazy with lust and glue them to you until death do you [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/how-to-make-him-propose-at-last/</link>
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		<title>Relationship Hanging On Only Because Of Your Kids?</title>
		<description><![CDATA[
Here&#8217;s a letter from Lena, who&#8217;s struggling with confusion and feeling trapped:
&#8220;Rori, I feel my relationship is hanging on only because of my kids. My partner says he loves me but His actions aren&#8217;t showing that. To get to the point I am extremely insecure - I compare myself to every woman we see/come into [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/difficult-situations/relationship-hanging-on-only-because-of-your-kids/</link>
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		<title>Sex, Feeling And Attraction - What To Say - Bethany #3</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Here&#8217;s the next step in Bethany&#8217;s work - completely overhauling and reversing her opinion of herself, taking herself out of &#8220;doormat&#8221; mode and putting herself into &#8220;goddess&#8221; mode, having Boundaries and yet being soft, open, warm and inviting, advocating for herself and her ENTIRE life - not just the part of it she shares with [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/bethanys-story/sex-and-feeling-what-to-say/</link>
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		<title>How Dating And Flirting - Even If You&#8217;re IN A Relationship - Help You Stop Hurting</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Allana Pratt, the Sexy Mom Expert (and I know her and love her and she truly is a wonderful coach&#8230;) wrote a comment about my Circular Dating as Healing post - you can read her whole comment here-&#62;
Allana asked me a question - basically about the concept of taking a &#8220;break&#8221; from dating to heal&#8230;
For [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/dating-stops-relationship-hurt/</link>
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		<title>Should You Have Sex?</title>
		<description><![CDATA[
This is a jump off from Ashley&#8217;s comment - here-&#62; about how to date and handle sex and being a &#8216;Girlfriend.&#8221;
Ashley, here&#8217;s my take - when you&#8217;re young - say not yet within three to five years of wanting to have a child - though you really don&#8217;t want to fall into the &#8220;Girlfriend&#8221; trap [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/sex-sensuality/should-you-have-sex/</link>
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		<title>Great Speed Dating Tips</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Every once in awhile I find an article or a post out there that I KNOW will be really helpful to you - and here&#8217;s one, from &#8220;AdviceMaven&#8221; at http://luvem-leavem.blogspot.com/.  It&#8217;s about &#8220;New Trends in Speed Dating,&#8221; - the tips here are wonderful all by themselves, and I&#8217;m going to add a way to [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/dating/great-speed-dating-tips/</link>
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		<title>Dating Heals Your Heartache</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;m writing this as a &#8220;jump-off&#8221; from a letter I received from &#8220;Jeanne.&#8221; I don&#8217;t want to print the letter itself, because I&#8217;m going to say something unfavorable about the therapist in the letter - so, here goes:
In the letter, &#8220;Jeanne&#8221; has a horrible-feeling pattern of getting involved with men who are Toxic, who are [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/dating/dating-heals-your-heartache/</link>
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		<title>He Calls But Bethany Finds Her Anger - Post 2</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Here&#8217;s the next letter from Bethany - You can see how she&#8217;s working the Tools, feeling so much more, expressing herself in Feeling Messages, doing the Tools from the Power &#38; Self-Esteem category on this blog and getting much better results with her men:
&#8220;Rori,
 
Okay, well, I&#8217;m going away with him for the weekend!  I felt [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/bethanys-story/he-calls-but-bethany-finds-her-anger-post-2/</link>
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		<title>New Tool To Attract Love</title>
		<description><![CDATA[This Tool is from Reshi&#8217;s comment - here&#8217;s what she wrote:
&#8220;This is completely random and off-topic but I just made up a Tool today that might help some women. I don&#8217;t know about most people, but I believe that the music you listen to has a huge subconscious effect on your emotional and mental programming. [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/new-tool-to-attract-love/</link>
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		<title>How To Negotiate Being A &#8220;Girlfriend&#8221;</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Here&#8217;s my answer for Baby Blue Eyes - First - the question:
&#8220;Hi Rori, I have a question for you about the ‘Girlfriend Trap.’ I love the concept, but if a man officially asks a lady to be his ‘girlfriend,’ how does one decline - without putting him ‘off’?&#8221;
And here&#8217;s my answer:
Blue Eyes - If he [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/your-story-questions-for-rori/how-to-negotiate-being-a-girlfriend/</link>
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		<title>If You&#8217;re Pregnant And In Love - But He&#8217;s Not Sure Anymore</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Here&#8217;s a problem from Emma I&#8217;d like to put out for your wonderful comments.  I&#8217;ll let Emma speak for herself:
&#8220;Dear Rori, I have been going out with my boyfriend for 3 months, but we really get on well. A few weeks ago, he asked me to marry him. That weekend, we had sex without protection, [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/difficult-situations/if-youre-pregnant-and-in-love-but-hes-not-sure-anymore/</link>
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		<title>He’s Still Around In My Dreams - Teaching Me About Love</title>
		<description><![CDATA[This is a personal story about a man who didn&#8217;t &#8220;work out&#8221; but who still shows up from time to time in my dreams&#8230;.
I was 12 years older than him, but we didn&#8217;t know it. It was a long time ago, and I&#8217;ll always think I almost married him - white picket fence and all.
I [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/love-life/he%e2%80%99s-still-around-in-my-dreams-teaching-me-about-love/</link>
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		<title>Support For You If You Have Health Issues</title>
		<description><![CDATA[So many of the women I talk with are dealing with serious health issues like chronic illness, chronic fatigue, cancer, heart problems - so many other physical issues that take up all your time and energy, and make everything else in life so much more challenging.
I just read a comment here from Caroline, and wanted her, and [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/physical-health-and-chronic-illness/support-for-you-if-you-have-health-issues/</link>
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		<title>How To Glide Through Scary Dating</title>
		<description><![CDATA[This post is in answer to Alias Girl - who&#8217;s working with Circular Dating and how to deal with men she doesn&#8217;t like, who offend her, who only want sex, or who are boring to her and who she no longer wants to date.  You can see the back and forth comments here-&#62;
This is going [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/dating/how-to-glide-through-scary-dating/</link>
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		<title>Turn Yourself On All Day Long</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Sex and sexuality and sensuality - all together - is such a powerful topic, and we hardly ever discuss it. It&#8217;s SO easy to get comfortable in the &#8220;companionship&#8221; part of any relationship (not only in a marriage), and just let the &#8220;juice&#8221; fade out.
And &#8220;scheduled&#8221; sex feels like such a chore&#8230;we&#8217;re all overworked and [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/sex-sensuality/turn-yourself-on-all-day-long/</link>
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		<title>Madonna&#8217;s Divorce And Your Love Life</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Although no one can even pretend to know what exactly happened between Madonna and Guy Richie after all these years of being together in a rare, successful marriage - my own best guess would be that Madonna is not a woman willing to &#8220;work&#8221; on a relationship that doesn&#8217;t feel good to her.
Perhaps this is [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/in-the-newscelebrities/madonnas-divorce-and-your-love-life/</link>
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		<title>Revive Sex In Your Relationship</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Okay - we&#8217;re going to start talking about sex, and how to bring it back in a relationship or marriage that&#8217;s been going without.
I&#8217;m jumping off a comment by Reshi - who&#8217;s been in a nearly sexless marriage for a long time.  She says &#8220;&#8230;He sleeps in the guest room, won&#8217;t have sex with me, [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/sex-sensuality/revive-sex-in-your-relationship/</link>
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		<title>Channel Your Feminine Power Into The Next Step</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;m jumping off into some next steps after your wonderful Riffing and turning things around.
I totally don&#8217;t want to move too fast here. You have to really get into the steps we&#8217;ve done - they have to become automatic in order for you to take this next step - so make sure you can riff [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/power-self-esteem/channel-your-feminine-power-into-the-next-step/</link>
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		<title>What To Do When You Feel Rejected</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;m going to tackle &#8220;Rejection&#8221; here.
So many of us have stayed a long time in a relationship where we&#8217;ve been rowing the boat, carrying the water, doing EVERYTHING imaginable to keep the boat AFLOAT and it&#8217;s just falling apart.  He&#8217;s just so careless about us we don&#8217;t know what to do next. (Yes, I know, [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/breakup-divorce/what-to-do-when-you-feel-rejected/</link>
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		<title>When Your Boyfriend Wants Space - Focus on YOU</title>
		<description><![CDATA[This is from Maria&#8217;s comment:
&#8220;My boyfriend and I for almost 2 years now are often more off than on. (On and Off) Of course I’ve done all the things should not do. However he told me he needed some space away from me. Has stopped calling me. I know we love each other, but how [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/your-story-questions-for-rori/when-your-boyfriend-wants-space-focus-on-you/</link>
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		<title>How To Manage The Men Who Show Up</title>
		<description><![CDATA[
There were so many brilliant comments and questions to my post on what to do if you&#8217;re Attracting Low Quality Men&#8230;so check out the comments, and I&#8217;ll answer them here&#8230;
First - Daria...about going to see this man.  A platonic male friend is one thing (When I&#8217;ve had those in my life - it was clear [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/how-to-manage-the-men-who-show-up/</link>
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		<title>If You&#8217;re Attracting Low-Quality Men - Try This</title>
		<description><![CDATA[This is fantastic! I&#8217;m truly starting to get a fuller idea of who you are and what your situation is - and yet I&#8217;m going to answer just off of each comment, as if I don&#8217;t know you, to give a better answer&#8230;
FIRST - it&#8217;s important that you know we are all DIFFERENT. Our personalities [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/your-story-questions-for-rori/if-youre-attracting-low-quality-men-try-this/</link>
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		<title>How To Deal With A Depressed Man</title>
		<description><![CDATA[We&#8217;re talking about attracting and then rejecting &#8220;low-quality&#8221; men - or just men YOU don&#8217;t feel are good quality. And we&#8217;re talking about what to do with those men for PRACTICE (and perhaps even TRANSFORMING them) instead of passing on them and shutting them out the moment their bad qualities show up.
This answer is for [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/your-story-questions-for-rori/how-to-deal-with-a-depressed-man/</link>
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		<title>Ask Your Questions Here - And I&#8217;ll Answer In New Posts</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I so want to answer every single question I get from you, so want to hear every single step you take and every story you so graciously write me about -
I thought it might make it easier and faster for me to give you the most help I can by simply working my answers to [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/your-story-questions-for-rori/ask-your-questions-here-and-ill-answer-in-new-posts/</link>
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		<title>He&#8217;ll Feel Safe To Open Up With You When YOU Feel Safe With You</title>
		<description><![CDATA[A man CANNOT feel SAFE with us until we feel SAFE with OURSELVES.
In order for him to entrust you with his full self (and almost all men think they&#8217;re horrible somewhere deep inside, with horrible impulses and terrible guilt, and all the same bad training we women have endured our whole lives) - he has [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/hell-feel-safe-to-open-up-with-you-when-you-feel-safe-with-you/</link>
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		<title>If He&#8217;s Keeping You Off Balance, Do This</title>
		<description><![CDATA[If you&#8217;ve been putting up with confusing behavior from a man, and it doesn&#8217;t feel good, I know how you feel.
You know many of my most embarrassing, humiliating stories, and how I stopped allowing that kind of &#8220;man who feels good but makes me feel bad&#8221; into my life - and I want to help [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/love-life/if-hes-keeping-you-off-balance-do-this/</link>
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		<title>Love The Sensations In Your Body</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Here&#8217;s a Tweak for the last step we did in this series, about going into the SENSATIONS in your body that come up as you&#8217;re RIFFING through these Tools.
In step one, you listed your &#8220;problems.&#8221; then we Flipped them into WANTS, then we went into how wanting something feels, then to how HAVING what you [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/power-self-esteem/love-the-sensations-in-your-body/</link>
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		<title>Is Fear About The Economy Affecting Your Relationship?</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Fear is the enemy of love. No doubt about it.
Our fear of losing ourselves, and his fear of losing himself. Our fear of being hurt, and his fear of being hurt. Our fear of being disrespected, his fear of being disrespected. Our fear of being alone, his fear of being committed forever and trapped.
And money [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/in-the-newscelebrities/is-fear-about-the-economy-affecting-your-relationship/</link>
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		<title>Imagine HAVING What You Want</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Okay - I want a NEW list, now - (This is getting more and more fun&#8230;)
Now that you have your list of &#8220;problems&#8221; and you&#8217;ve Flipped them to WANTS, and you&#8217;ve loved and adored and accepted those wants and worries and fears - I want you to -
Imagine what it would FEEL like to HAVE [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/power-self-esteem/imagine-having-what-you-want/</link>
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		<title>Getting More Love By Giving Up Control - Session 1</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Have you ever felt like you were stuck in a hole with your relationship, and that everything you do, say and think is digging you in deeper and making you feel more scared, upset, angry and miserable?
Not only have I felt like that, so many of my clients start out like that. In my newsletters, [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/bethanys-story/getting-more-love-by-giving-up-control-session-1/</link>
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		<title>He&#8217;s Staying Over At His Ex-Girlfriend&#8217;s House - What To Do&#8230;</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Here&#8217;s a piece of a comment from Roxanne  (you can read her whole comment here: )
&#8220;Rori, I have been in a relationship for over 2 yrs now. He loves me, treats me like a queen. Made commitments to me but continues to sleep over at his x girlfriends saying she is just a x and [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/other-women-in-his-life/hes-staying-over-at-his-ex-girlfriends-house-what-to-do/</link>
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		<title>Coaching Yourself To Power And Self-Esteem</title>
		<description><![CDATA[This is blowing me away. What you&#8217;re doing here is taking the Tools in this blog, and then Coaching YOURSELF! And then, by sharing everything you feel and everything that&#8217;s happening, so many of us can learn so much.
And then I reply and Tweak - and you can see, just by looking at the dialogues [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/power-self-esteem/coaching-yourself-to-power-and-self-esteem/</link>
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		<title>Manifesting Your Desires Without Trying</title>
		<description><![CDATA[This is some gorgeous stuff here - following your feelings and your thoughts around your body - and loving and accepting every single one of them&#8230;
Stacy made another wonderful comment, and I&#8217;d like to jump off from it:
I&#8217;m going to &#8220;Tweak&#8221; this - so I&#8217;ll let you know what I mean by &#8220;Tweak.&#8221; The way [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/power-self-esteem/manifesting-your-desires-without-trying/</link>
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		<title>Stop Solving Problems - Love Your Fear, Rage, And Desire</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I was going to move on after the Themes and the Problem Lists and the Flip - but I wanted to go deeper into Themes - and wanted to jump off of a comment from Stacy - where she wrote out these &#8220;Themes&#8221;:
&#8220;i feel selfish for wanting to be happy.
i feel undeserving and selfish to [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/power-self-esteem/stop-solving-problems-love-your-fear-rage-and-desire/</link>
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		<title>Getting Away From Spousal Abuse</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Have you ever let your self-esteem get so low that you tolerate bad treatment from a man?
For me - it was words.  It was clever jabs, humorous remarks - all funny (other people laughed, so I did, too) words.  But those words were about my weight, my double chin, my this, my that - they [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/emotional-and-physical-abuse/getting-away-from-spousal-abuse/</link>
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		<title>From Problem Solving To More Love - Step 3</title>
		<description><![CDATA[If problem-solving is stressing you out - if it&#8217;s making you feel angry and triggering your need to control everything (we all have this going on&#8230;) then here&#8217;s the next step to helping yourself. 
You&#8217;re going to KEEP A LOG.
Often, in the flurry of the energy we spend trying to solve a problem so it&#8217;ll turn [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/power-self-esteem/from-problem-solving-to-more-love-step-3/</link>
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		<title>Are You In An Imaginary Relationship?</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Have you ever focused all your attention on one man, and still felt completely unsure about where things stand?
Even after a year or two?
Where you just don&#8217;t feel like he&#8217;s committed to you, or that you have a future together, but you talk yourself OUT of that feeling and just keep going on hope?
I used [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/love-life/are-you-in-an-imaginary-relationship/</link>
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		<title>Get The Love You Want Instead Of Solving Problems - The FLIP</title>
		<description><![CDATA[If your mind, your heart, and your energy are filled to the brim with &#8220;problems&#8221; to solve, you are so not alone&#8230;
&#8230;not only am I working with my own instincts around problem-solving, I&#8217;ve received beautiful lists of &#8220;problems from lovely women like you (please send more - this is not only incredibly helpful for us [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/power-self-esteem/get-what-you-want-instead-of-solving-problems-the-flip/</link>
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		<title>Stop Solving Problems And Get More Love</title>
		<description><![CDATA[
It&#8217;s so easy to feel angry and push a man away.
Whenever my husband forgets to do something, or isn&#8217;t there when I need him or just WANT him, or one of us gets sick and so we go too long without sex, it&#8217;s so easy for me to go through my old patterns of feelings [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/power-self-esteem/stop-solving-problems-and-get-love-instead/</link>
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		<title>How To Use Dating To Find Out Who He Is And What He&#8217;s Really Made Of&#8230;</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Dating is your ultimate opportunity to learn how to be soft, open, warm and truthful on the outside, and strong, fully Boundaried and secure on the inside.
Here&#8217;s a great question from &#8220;J&#8221; about how to do this - I love this question because If we can tweak the way J is going about talking to [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/how-to-use-dating-to-find-out-who-he-is-and-what-hes-really-made-of/</link>
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		<title>What To Do If He&#8217;s Stationed Overseas in the Armed Forces - And He Isn&#8217;t Interested In Your Life At Home&#8230;</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Andrea made such a powerful, frustrating comment on this blog, I wanted to do a whole post - perhaps a whole series of posts - on her situation.
Andrea&#8217;s at home, 6 months pregnant, while her husband is stationed overseas. She&#8217;s feeling emotional, needy, and missing him terribly.
She calls him several times a day and wants [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/long-distance-relationships/what-to-do-if-hes-stationed-overseas-in-the-armed-forces-and-he-isnt-interested-in-your-life-at-home/</link>
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		<title>How To Be Curious Without Getting All Involved In His Business&#8230;</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Daria asked this:
&#8220;Rori, I remember you talking about being curious about the man… would this mean we can ask questions to find out what we’re curious about? I also remember that things about him are &#8220;his business.&#8221; So how do these two concepts work?&#8221;
Here&#8217;s my answer:
1. Being curious is in the moment, and it&#8217;s about [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/communication/how-to-be-curious-without-getting-all-involved-in-his-business/</link>
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		<title>A Tool To Make Your Romantic Desires Powerful - Register To Vote</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;m going to use voting as a Tool to feel more powerful - so let&#8217;s look at it just from the personal perspective of your love life.
Let&#8217;s say that voting isn&#8217;t about politics - it&#8217;s about empowerment. It&#8217;s about believing that you count. Just you, one person, one woman.
We get so caught up in feeling like part of [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/power-self-esteem/a-tool-to-make-your-romantic-desires-powerful-register-to-vote/</link>
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		<title>Outgirl Him And Get The Love You Want</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Here&#8217;s a comment from Linda about Leaning Back that I wanted to turn into a follow-up post:
&#8220;Thank you Rori, This is just good stuff. I have always leaned forward. I can&#8217;t wait to try this (Leaning Back). My boyfriend always always leans back. so if we both lean back&#8230;Can that work.. ? I look back [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/outgirl-him-and-get-the-love-you-want/</link>
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		<title>What To Do If Your Man Still Feels Emotional About Another Woman</title>
		<description><![CDATA[A man can betray us in many ways.
He can betray us sexually.  He can simply lie to us about how he feels.  He can have an emotional connection with another woman that takes him away from us. He can have a fantasy life that keeps him from committing fully to a deep relationship with us.
Mimi [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/other-women-in-his-life/what-to-do-if-your-man-still-feels-emotional-about-another-woman/</link>
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		<title>Love Spell - Oxytocin Spray For Him?</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I just saw an article for a product - Oxytocin in a spray bottle.
Oxytocin is a hormone we women make plenty of that makes us feel good, makes us feel connected and loving, and makes us feel loved. It makes us feel bonded to ourselves, and it makes us feel bonded to a man.
Oxytocin is [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/love-spell-oxytocin-spray-for-him/</link>
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		<title>Communication Crisis - So You Want To Change Your Man?</title>
		<description><![CDATA[He&#8217;s overweight.  He doesn&#8217;t eat right.  His hygiene isn&#8217;t perfect.  His teeth could use a cleaning.  His skin could use some cleanser and over-the-counter-acne-formulation.  His breath needs help.  What do you do?  How do you tell him without making him feel bad?
When I read this letter from Andie, [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/communication/communication-crisis-so-you-want-to-change-your-man/</link>
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		<title>How To Breed Happiness, Even If You Feel Hurt&#8230;</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Have you ever been in pain over a relationship, and a friend comes along and tells you to &#8220;relax&#8221; - and that just sounds to you like &#8220;suck it up&#8221; - or some other dismissive, easy thing for them to say?
I&#8217;ve always felt even worse when someone says something like that, and so my work [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/heal-your-heart/how-to-breed-happiness-even-if-you-feel-hurt/</link>
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		<title>How Loving Being Vulnerable Gets You More Love - No Matter What</title>
		<description><![CDATA[ When you&#8217;re sick, you feel Vulnerable.
I&#8217;ve had a cold for a few days, and though it&#8217;s slowed me down some, there&#8217;s something about being &#8220;under the weather&#8221; that can really work for us, here.
This is what usually happens to us when we get a cold or flu: We don&#8217;t have the energy we need to [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/vulnerability/how-loving-being-vulnerable-gets-you-more-love-no-matter-what/</link>
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		<title>How To Attract A Man &#038; Let Him Take Care Of You - Even In A Parking Lot</title>
		<description><![CDATA[So I&#8217;m at Trader Joes.  I&#8217;m in the parking lot, I&#8217;ve just load the groceries into my trunk, and I&#8217;m deciding what to do with the empty cart. 
I really want to just leave it there, I&#8217;m tired, but I take the handle and start across the lot to put it with the other carts.  Out [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/how-to-let-a-man-take-care-of-you-even-in-a-parking-lot/</link>
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		<title>If He&#8217;s Betrayed Your Marriage&#8230;Start Here&#8230;</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Here&#8217;s a letter from Helene, who&#8217;s been devastated by her husband&#8217;s behavior:
&#8220;Dear Rori, My husband of twelve years wants to end our marriage.
We bought two acres together and built our dream house on it. It took two and half years of labor, and basically living our lives apart except for weekends. We agreed to live [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/marriage/if-hes-betrayed-your-marriagestart-here/</link>
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		<title>Talk To Your Man And Bring Him Closer</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I was taught to hold it all in, and then resent what&#8217;s going on around me.
And it&#8217;s taken all the Tools I&#8217;ve created for myself and a fierce desire to be IN my body, to know my own heart, and to connect with people I love to turn that around for myself.
Every moment of every [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/communication/talk-to-him-to-bring-him-closer/</link>
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		<title>Name Your Happy, Dreamy Journal  - And Let&#8217;s Get What We Want</title>
		<description><![CDATA[
I have several journals - some I claimed when I was out shopping for journals for gifts for friends, some were gifts to me, and they each have bits written in them. Each has a name of it&#8217;s own that I didn&#8217;t think up, it just sort of arrived with the journal. One has a [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/heal-your-heart/name-your-happy-dreamy-journal-and-lets-get-what-we-want/</link>
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		<title>Sarah Palin - The Working Mother Debate</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I was growing up during the Feminist movement, when it all seemed weird that a woman wanted equal pay for equal work, and that we all wanted to be able to run companies and work our way up the company ladder without talking a back-seat or deferring to men. 
And now we have a vice-presidential nominee who&#8217;s [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/in-the-newscelebrities/sarah-palin-the-working-mother-debate/</link>
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		<title>Dealing With Jealousy&#8230;</title>
		<description><![CDATA[
I don&#8217;t like jealousy.
I don&#8217;t like feeling that way.
And if you&#8217;re like me, you were brought up to feel jealous.  I was taught and told pretty much that if someone else had something, then I couldn&#8217;t have it.  It was either them or me.
And at the same time, we women have been slammed from birth for [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/jealousy/dealing-with-jealousy/</link>
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		<title>How To Save Your Long-Distance Relationship</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Sometimes the hardest thing about long-distance relationships is when the long-distance part is over. Here&#8217;s a letter from Sarah, who&#8217;s struggling with just that:
&#8220;Dear Rori, I am Sarah. I have this wonderful guy, we are engaged, almost getting married but things went wrong and now I don&#8217;t even know the status of my relationship.
Like many other [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/long-distance-relationships/how-to-go-from-long-distance-to-together-forever/</link>
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		<title>Don&#8217;t Give Up On Love And Relationship!</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;m writing to tell you to not give up on your dream of having the man and the relationship you truly want and so deserve.
No matter what.
Every woman I talk to thinks there&#8217;s something wrong with her and that it&#8217;s &#8220;too late.&#8221;
And I&#8217;m here to tell you that&#8217;s just not true.  That&#8217;s just a load [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/dont-give-up/</link>
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		<title>Get Your Man to Come To YOU&#8230;</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Leaning Forward and Leaning Back are Tools that help you &#8220;get&#8221; - in your BODY - what the &#8220;energy flow&#8221; between you and a man feels like.
And most of us are ALWAYS Leaning Forward.  Because Leaning Forward is the same as &#8220;giving, serving, offering, doing&#8230;&#8221; all the Masculine Energy things we&#8217;re taught to do with [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/feminine-energy/what-leaning-forward-looks-like-2/</link>
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