Comments on: Out of My Head and Into My Heart http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/feminine-energy/out-of-my-head-and-into-my-heart/ Marriage & Relationship Advice From Rori Raye Sat, 31 Jul 2010 00:37:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=9798 By: Heather http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/feminine-energy/out-of-my-head-and-into-my-heart/comment-page-3/#comment-20134 Heather Sat, 07 Nov 2009 18:29:10 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=809#comment-20134 Well I have to say that Rori these tools really work! Since "J" has asked to take a break and in the meantime I have been circular dating, working on my emotional issues, working with your program things have started to happen. I left a message on my messenger about finding a new job(which I didn't do to get his attention) He started to IM me and asking what was going on. I stayed cool(I am the tree, the ocean, the air). He said that he wants me to continue to do what I am doing. He just seems more attentive all of a sudden and I always leave the chat first. I want to buy all of your programs lol. Thanks Rori I will keep you and everyone updated on my progress. Heather Well I have to say that Rori these tools really work! Since “J” has asked to take a break and in the meantime I have been circular dating, working on my emotional issues, working with your program things have started to happen. I left a message on my messenger about finding a new job(which I didn’t do to get his attention) He started to IM me and asking what was going on. I stayed cool(I am the tree, the ocean, the air). He said that he wants me to continue to do what I am doing. He just seems more attentive all of a sudden and I always leave the chat first. I want to buy all of your programs lol. Thanks Rori I will keep you and everyone updated on my progress.

Heather

]]> By: Costumes http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/feminine-energy/out-of-my-head-and-into-my-heart/comment-page-3/#comment-19346 Costumes Fri, 30 Oct 2009 08:33:25 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=809#comment-19346 I've recently started a blog, the information you provide on this site has helped me tremendously. Thank you for all of your time & work. I’ve recently started a blog, the information you provide on this site has helped me tremendously. Thank you for all of your time & work.

]]> By: Uschi http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/feminine-energy/out-of-my-head-and-into-my-heart/comment-page-3/#comment-17803 Uschi Sun, 11 Oct 2009 02:10:49 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=809#comment-17803 Daria there is no comparison between WOW and Mario Brothers or any other Nintendo game, WoW is very involved and has a really big story line. There are at least 3000 + quests. You have so many different characters and two sides Alliance and horde and each has several races human, elf dwarf gnomes, then classes - hunter, warlock, mage, paladin, warrior, shaman, rogue each can have 2 main and 3 secondary professions each with their own achievements - then achievements for the different dungeons, holidays etc etc etc etc you really would have to write me an email to MystiqueULH@aol.com for me to tell you more about it. I don't want to take up Rori's site to explain all this to you - but trust me this game is awesome - my daughter turned me on to it and at fist I figured yea what the heck and now I love the game, been playing it almost a year now - give it a try you can download it for free from blizzard.com and get a 10 day free trial after that it's like 12 bucks a month - rather cheap entertainment when you consider the price for going to see a movie. If you try go to Mok'Nathal realm and you can contact me there under Mystiquelady. I am an officer in my guild and we have over 250 guild members and quite a few lvl 80's and started raiding, but have enough lower lvl's to help with quests and dungeons etc. Email me and I can tell you more. Meanwhile I have come to the part in Rori's book about vulnerability and I am having a hard time with just trying to lay down on the bed and doing what she describes. I am having a hard time to empty my mind and "feel" the air or the sun - I just feel I am laying in the bed totally relaxed. No feelings come up - nutting nada, zilch, zero - no textures, smells (unless I burn a candle or use a room spray), and only hear the every day sounds- matter of fact I fell asleep. Taking that a step further by imagining having a man there (like she said in the e-book - movie star, BF, LI or whoever) I have no problem with that - I can vividly imagine how he would touch me look at me stroke me - in my imagination I can feel his skin etc etc etc. - that's when I also realized that when we did make love so long ago (hasn't happened in a while) that I was hiding - I call it hiding for the lack of another word for it - always self conscious about my body (after all I am 55 and don't look like 20 anymore especially after 3 kids) or my regular cotton underwear, or the pimple in my butt or whatever else I thought was not perfect at the time. Of course that does not come up in my fantasy cause there I am perfect - ha ha - and as in the fantasizing about how I would like for things to be and then try to get in touch with that and implement it in real life when the situation arises that is the hard part - cause reality just does not cooperate with the fantasy and to get reality to bend is yet another thing. Reading Rori's book I find myself remapping me and also see, looking over past incidents or arguments, where I have been wrong, said the wrong things, defended myself instead of expressing and/or communicating with feeling messages or saying no. I have also found that it is difficult to turn past behavior around in a day or too and I know I am still making those mistakes - old shoes worn well and still comfortable - I find it difficult to just wear that new pair of shoes and braking them in - getting to feel comfortable with the new ways. Being alone here at the moment I am looking over the past and maybe I shouldn't be doing that but find that that for the moment it is the only way to compare and see where I went wrong to hopefully do it the new way when he gets back. I feel that being apart for a while, we will be able to get some distance from what was and have like a new starting point when he gets back. I am hoping I am going to be ready to implement Rori's tools more confidently than before switching from one day to the next, having had the time and piece and quiet to really look it over and take it in and at least try to give it a chance to settle into my stubborn brain and make them part of me ;-). I feel positive :-) Daria there is no comparison between WOW and Mario Brothers or any other Nintendo game, WoW is very involved and has a really big story line. There are at least 3000 + quests. You have so many different characters and two sides Alliance and horde and each has several races human, elf dwarf gnomes, then classes – hunter, warlock, mage, paladin, warrior, shaman, rogue each can have 2 main and 3 secondary professions each with their own achievements – then achievements for the different dungeons, holidays etc etc etc etc you really would have to write me an email to MystiqueULH@aol.com for me to tell you more about it. I don’t want to take up Rori’s site to explain all this to you – but trust me this game is awesome – my daughter turned me on to it and at fist I figured yea what the heck and now I love the game, been playing it almost a year now – give it a try you can download it for free from blizzard.com and get a 10 day free trial after that it’s like 12 bucks a month – rather cheap entertainment when you consider the price for going to see a movie. If you try go to Mok’Nathal realm and you can contact me there under Mystiquelady. I am an officer in my guild and we have over 250 guild members and quite a few lvl 80′s and started raiding, but have enough lower lvl’s to help with quests and dungeons etc.
Email me and I can tell you more.

Meanwhile I have come to the part in Rori’s book about vulnerability and I am having a hard time with just trying to lay down on the bed and doing what she describes. I am having a hard time to empty my mind and “feel” the air or the sun – I just feel I am laying in the bed totally relaxed. No feelings come up – nutting nada, zilch, zero – no textures, smells (unless I burn a candle or use a room spray), and only hear the every day sounds- matter of fact I fell asleep. Taking that a step further by imagining having a man there (like she said in the e-book – movie star, BF, LI or whoever) I have no problem with that – I can vividly imagine how he would touch me look at me stroke me – in my imagination I can feel his skin etc etc etc. – that’s when I also realized that when we did make love so long ago (hasn’t happened in a while) that I was hiding – I call it hiding for the lack of another word for it – always self conscious about my body (after all I am 55 and don’t look like 20 anymore especially after 3 kids) or my regular cotton underwear, or the pimple in my butt or whatever else I thought was not perfect at the time. Of course that does not come up in my fantasy cause there I am perfect – ha ha – and as in the fantasizing about how I would like for things to be and then try to get in touch with that and implement it in real life when the situation arises that is the hard part – cause reality just does not cooperate with the fantasy and to get reality to bend is yet another thing.
Reading Rori’s book I find myself remapping me and also see, looking over past incidents or arguments, where I have been wrong, said the wrong things, defended myself instead of expressing and/or communicating with feeling messages or saying no.
I have also found that it is difficult to turn past behavior around in a day or too and I know I am still making those mistakes – old shoes worn well and still comfortable – I find it difficult to just wear that new pair of shoes and braking them in – getting to feel comfortable with the new ways.
Being alone here at the moment I am looking over the past and maybe I shouldn’t be doing that but find that that for the moment it is the only way to compare and see where I went wrong to hopefully do it the new way when he gets back. I feel that being apart for a while, we will be able to get some distance from what was and have like a new starting point when he gets back. I am hoping I am going to be ready to implement Rori’s tools more confidently than before switching from one day to the next, having had the time and piece and quiet to really look it over and take it in and at least try to give it a chance to settle into my stubborn brain and make them part of me ;-) . I feel positive :-)

]]> By: Daria http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/feminine-energy/out-of-my-head-and-into-my-heart/comment-page-3/#comment-17748 Daria Sat, 10 Oct 2009 00:27:34 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=809#comment-17748 Uschi I also got recommended the game Dragonica. Have you heard of it? it's supposed to be similar but with more jumping around action too a la Mario, which I like Uschi I also got recommended the game Dragonica. Have you heard of it? it’s supposed to be similar but with more jumping around action too a la Mario, which I like

]]> By: Uschi http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/feminine-energy/out-of-my-head-and-into-my-heart/comment-page-3/#comment-17746 Uschi Fri, 09 Oct 2009 22:39:33 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=809#comment-17746 Daria, thanks I found it :-) and btw got some more achievements in wow since we last talked about it - this game is really so cool - hope you consider taking it up. Daria,
thanks I found it :-) and btw got some more achievements in wow since we last talked about it – this game is really so cool – hope you consider taking it up.

]]> By: Daria http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/feminine-energy/out-of-my-head-and-into-my-heart/comment-page-3/#comment-17693 Daria Fri, 09 Oct 2009 06:02:23 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=809#comment-17693 Uschi - Go to the Power and Self Esteem section on the side bar. Start with the oldest post and go through each of them. That's where Riffing is described. Uschi – Go to the Power and Self Esteem section on the side bar. Start with the oldest post and go through each of them. That’s where Riffing is described.

]]> By: Uschi http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/feminine-energy/out-of-my-head-and-into-my-heart/comment-page-3/#comment-17677 Uschi Fri, 09 Oct 2009 01:50:23 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=809#comment-17677 I am puzzled the word riffing - I tried to look it up but couldn't find a reference to it - what does it mean? I am puzzled the word riffing – I tried to look it up but couldn’t find a reference to it – what does it mean?

]]> By: Linda http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/feminine-energy/out-of-my-head-and-into-my-heart/comment-page-3/#comment-17674 Linda Fri, 09 Oct 2009 00:41:17 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=809#comment-17674 Hi Goddesses! Janune... your riffing is fabulous. Reading your posts is like having venom sucked out of me. I have been reading and re reading them. It makes me aware of how much control I have.. emotional connection, andrelationship is what I want with lots of yummy intimacy.... I have more work to do on me. Simply Shannon... girl you are I are on the same wave right now. There is a song I have been listenting to...the words in the chorus are, " girl, put your records on, tell me your favorite song... you go ahead let your hair down, saphire and faded jeans, you know just what I mean... you go ahead let your hair down!... Carry that into your dates.... be that girl all the time. No pressure just be you. Uschi... I did use the tools. I did what I could. He has issues he has to work on. I have not let go but I am in no contact mode. I can not allow that toxic behavior in my life anymore soooo until I have clear indication that he has gotten himself together... I remain still. I never closed the door, just waiting for the man to "man up" and if that does not happen to my satisfaction then I keep moving. He signed an email. Your friend... my energy is out of there... my heart feels a positive shift in things between us.... even without contact. It is weird things I cant really explain. I am waiting and watching and practicing in the meantime. There are things in me that need fine tuning and yet others that I still need an overhaul in. Its all good. I am going out tomorrow with a repeat circular date. I am just going to have fun and be me. Practice and just being who I am is such good therapy. Alias Girl.... your one line in your I feel post.... "I feel like kicking you in the gut"........ I had a great belly laugh over that one. You girls all help me get in touch with me in a more real way. and again Janjune... your lists are simply inspiring!..... a woman after my own heart! Hugs Linda Hi Goddesses!

Janune… your riffing is fabulous. Reading your posts is like having venom sucked out of me. I have been reading and re reading them. It makes me aware of how much control I have.. emotional connection, andrelationship is what I want with lots of yummy intimacy…. I have more work to do on me.

Simply Shannon… girl you are I are on the same wave right now. There is a song I have been listenting to…the words in the chorus are, ” girl, put your records on, tell me your favorite song… you go ahead let your hair down, saphire and faded jeans, you know just what I mean… you go ahead let your hair down!… Carry that into your dates…. be that girl all the time. No pressure just be you.

Uschi… I did use the tools. I did what I could. He has issues he has to work on. I have not let go but I am in no contact mode. I can not allow that toxic behavior in my life anymore soooo until I have clear indication that he has gotten himself together… I remain still. I never closed the door, just waiting for the man to “man up” and if that does not happen to my satisfaction then I keep moving. He signed an email. Your friend… my energy is out of there… my heart feels a positive shift in things between us…. even without contact. It is weird things I cant really explain. I am waiting and watching and practicing in the meantime.

There are things in me that need fine tuning and yet others that I still need an overhaul in. Its all good. I am going out tomorrow with a repeat circular date. I am just going to have fun and be me. Practice and just being who I am is such good therapy.

Alias Girl…. your one line in your I feel post…. “I feel like kicking you in the gut”…….. I had a great belly laugh over that one.

You girls all help me get in touch with me in a more real way. and again Janjune… your lists are simply inspiring!….. a woman after my own heart!

Hugs
Linda

]]> By: Chaudemaman http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/feminine-energy/out-of-my-head-and-into-my-heart/comment-page-3/#comment-17659 Chaudemaman Thu, 08 Oct 2009 21:19:43 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=809#comment-17659 janjune... I feel now looking at my post that I was cold in choosing my words. I feel dismayed that I didn't catch it before I submitted it. I feel that I learn from whatever someone has to say even though I may not agree. As for your riffing it wasn't until I internalized and mulled it over did I feel that something was amiss. But the most important thing is that you have discovered it as well. hugs all around, chaudemaman janjune…
I feel now looking at my post that I was cold in choosing my words. I feel dismayed that I didn’t catch it before I submitted it.
I feel that I learn from whatever someone has to say even though I may not agree. As for your riffing it wasn’t until I internalized and mulled it over did I feel that something was amiss.
But the most important thing is that you have discovered it as well.
hugs all around, chaudemaman

]]> By: janjune http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/feminine-energy/out-of-my-head-and-into-my-heart/comment-page-3/#comment-17654 janjune Thu, 08 Oct 2009 20:52:27 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=809#comment-17654 thanks for your expressions Chaudemaman. I feel surprised that you didn't just skip my riffing comments if they made you feel uncomfortable. I do that if Im not connecting with what someone is saying. I didn't know where the riffing was going myself!! Ha! I think that's the point. Just let it go.........and riff *through*!!!! This is a brilliant Tool Rori. Thanku for sharing your Riffing Tool with the goddesses on Siren Island. love, janjune thanks for your expressions Chaudemaman. I feel surprised that you didn’t just skip my riffing comments if they made you feel uncomfortable. I do that if Im not connecting with what someone is saying.
I didn’t know where the riffing was going myself!! Ha! I think that’s the point. Just let it go………and riff *through*!!!!
This is a brilliant Tool Rori. Thanku for sharing your Riffing Tool with the goddesses on Siren Island.
love, janjune

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