Look at this comment – from a MAN!:
I found your site after watching one of David D’s programs. I find it much better to read than most men’s columns which are mostly how to pick-up women at the grocery store.
Anyways, I find if I’m feeling “bad,” it also needs to be dug into a bit deeper. “Bad” is a label, to me not much different than “angry.”
What I have found useful is to actually notice the feeling, the PHYSICAL feeling.
How do you feel?
My stomach is tight, my face feels hot, and I feel a tightness in my upper chest. I feel some energy inside me, in my upper chest, and it feels like a heavy weight.
I find this is a good start usually. It gets me away from labels/abstractions and into the real, and I find it works great with women I talk to also.
We get so caught up in labels that we forget what the actual experience is!
Thanks for writing as you do, I only found the site 3 days ago and it’s a daily read now.
Hi, Matt, I wanted to thank you personally for your comment, and hope you’ll continue to contribute – it’s inestimably valuable to have a man’s input here.
If you like my Feeling Message work – look at the Power & Self Esteem category on the blog, and follow from the first post as I walk you through “The Riff” – it’s exactly what you’re talking about.