From a man’s article on women:

OMG GIRLZZZZZZZZZZ! MUST READ!!! I found the popular site for men, askmen.com came up and I found several articles telling men to treat women COCKY, Split the tab (umm next please) and Not to compliment..

This is how they are telling men to pick us up.

((((The way I landed her was by being Cocky & Funny — extremely Cocky & Funny. I was always one step ahead of her. It was kind of like: “Don’t even try to challenge me, I’m already inside your head!”

Everything was cool, but to tell the truth (and no offense), I just kind of got tired of the constant effort. So I cooled it off a bit, not always seizing the opportunity to remind her just who it was she was dealing with. And I think I got screwed. Now I feel like I’ve turned into a Wuss, and I hate it! No, I loathe it!

When I turn on the macho act, she’s a pussy cat again.)))) The amount of power women give to me is overwhelming……….

Holy CRAP.. Can you beleive it???

And check this comment out from one of the dudes:

I have never been so confident around women. I stand as a security guard at the entrance of a retail store, and 8s, 9s and some 10s pass by me everyday. I used to turn my head and stare away. Now I know what they want from reading your book, and I can look at them, talk to them and bust their balls, even without ever meeting them.

I do have a problem though: I took this beautiful girl out on a first date, the Cocky & Funny technique worked so well all night from the movie to the dinner to the goodnight kiss (tongue included) that we both definitely wanted a second date. So, what’s the problem? She can’t stop thinking about me or leaving me alone. I’m getting 10 text messages a day from this girl whom I really only want to date a few times.

The authors advice to the guy –

I need to write a book called Cut Your Dating In Half: A Guide for Guys Who Are Too Successful with My Materials.

I think what you need to do is get together with her and say: “Look, you’re acting like we’re married, and you need to cool it. I think you’re great, but I’m not interested in a relationship right now. If you want to keep seeing me, then you’re going to need to chill.”

I realize that it sounds a little bit harsh, but it’s the truth, and you need to be direct in a situation like this one.

Well here is the comment I left on that article:

Hey Dudes!!!! I’ve dated guys from all walks of life.. Pro Athletes to Country Good ol’ Boyz… Yes, Every guy needs an edge and I like to mentally challenge guys for fun in a flirty way.. So YES on SENSE OF HUMOR rocks!!! BUT.. TAKE NOTE – any guys who ask ME OUT and offers to SPLIT the tab, should not bother to ask me out. Next in line please – I’ve had great dates at sandwich shops so this shouldn’t hurt the wallet. AND I FEEL REALLY GOOD, INSIDE when a guys says awesome things about my appearence or body. You never know what kind of girl your dealing with, she may be smoking hot but, girls are always comparing themselves to super models because of the media and men.. Trust ME A HOT CHICK.. Compliments makes us “warm”- inside!! And there can be a point where tooo coc-k–y gets rude!

- I see the authors point to a degree.. BUT now I can sit back and smile because I know what they are up to.. And just be more of a challenge and say how I feel.

And p.s.
My guy tried to pull the.. I think your great but, whatever (fill in the blank) line.. and I had to laugh cause he was literrally blowing up my phone when I pulled back and broke up with him.. Then when I leaned forward/ over functioned (shame, shame) I got that line delivered to me. And now I know exactly how to play my cards smart! Plus, recently he says I missed you soooo much.. lol. Guys are just as silly as girls… I am so about cirular dating. That article just lit me up.

I decided to post a note here under this category because I was not sure where my situation would fall under. I think I like the ‘notes from the universe” as I feel that maybe I need to see some signs from the universe but at this point I am not able to.

So here it goes, I have been circular dating for a while and met a man that is the least of what I call ‘my type’ physically. But I kept an open mind, we clicked right away, we have so many things in common, we are open, we have fun and we get along amazingly. But one day (very openly) he told me that he cross-dress on occasion. Well, that information shocked me, as I did not expect that in my dreams. Surprisingly, I have been open about it and understanding. We have an agreed to get to know one another but without intimacy until we both feel that I can accept this situation in my life. I really like him, but not sure how to deal with this and for some reason not prepared to let go yet.

Maybe a second opinion would help me clarify my thoughts.

thank you,

Angelica

This blog really hit home for me on so many levels. Everything from the world spectrum all the way to my relationship.

Thank you

Yes. I didn’t feel much respect the man after that, and in fact he kinda disappeared on me. But i didn’t “care” as much about the man, because it’s easy for me to deal with that. He just drops status in my eyes.

I did feel very affected by the woman’s behaviour and my (triggered) response though. That’s a repeat thing for me and something I want to clear and heal for myself.

I dunno. Just something that occurred to me this morning that might give you a different perspective. Shannon

I wish I found your wealth of Godess wisdom 25 years ago. I cannot begin to express how I feel about myself since reading the ebook and watching Modern Siren. The feeling messages have worked miracles for me even with a man that has serious health concerns and the treatments have caused depression, memory and mental confusion and it is long distance. This is a man I closed myself off from 25 years ago when I was going through a long and ugly divorce.

Communication with him has gone from a week to 10 days to every couple of days.

Reading your email today, this hit home.

“Being there for a man” is a great thing – but
it depends on what you’re “there” for.

If you’re there when HE wants to talk, and you
hear him and give him the emotional support he
asks for, that’s great.

All I could think was YES, I am getting it and it works. Tony doesn’t like complaining especially from himself. I have let him know the mood he is in does not affect me I don’t feel dump on, I feel taken into his trust. I can even listen to his anger over events and not feel I have to jump in and fix. Instead I just let him know anger is a natural reaction to such events. Why be so hard on yourself? I feel so relaxed by just leaning back and let him row the boat. Opening myself and being vulnerable on the outside and a rock on the inside. Is seems every time I use the phrase what I feel in my heart, he gets softer, mushier and more open with me. I ran a feeling message by you about setting a boundary on sending reminder emails to keep in contact before I knew how undermined his memory was. I softened it a little, but kept the feeling that it made me feel unimportant in. He just dropped the request with no comment. At first I felt rejected by his not addressing it, then I realized he just accepted it and understood from the change I have seen.

Thanks so much for all you do. Rori Rocks! Love Eileen

PS I have a friend going through a divorce and depressed. I bring in front of a mirror and have her hug herself. She loves it.

and then i might have also said ‘excuse me. i feel c*ckblocking. i feel amused and also like i am not being treated as the goddess i am.’ then maybe turn to him. ’should i leave you two alone? what do you think?’

and then see if he cared for my feelings or not.

hehehehheeeeehheeeeeee.

heeeee.>>>

hahahahaha. Alias Girl: I LOVE THIS.

I feel guilty also, but for the opposite reason, not writing, sharing feelings, and experiences enough.

Please keep writing, it is bring up feelings I share and have been overcoming, but I don’t want to forget that bad place completely so I never let it happen to me again.

I can really feel for you on a personal level as I have been in a 10 year relationship that has gone from the best thing he ever had in his life to he no longer has a sexual interest in me, He’s wrong he is going to counseling to save our relationship, to finally when I realized he is the product of a very toxic family and just does not have the emotional bandwidth I need. I am in a better place of control of my feelings since he lives in my house, but for many years with him I felt like I was going crazy, worthless, unappreciated, unlovable. I spent far too much time trying to figure him out and not myself. Now he is building himself a studio apartment in his rented house and will be moving in a couple of months. He wants us to be friends and even asked if he paid me would I do laundry for him. LOL I stopped caring about what he thought and don’t want him back. Now he is just my boarder and sleeps on a footon in my living room for the past two years. I just couldn’t stand the feeling of someone who did not care about my feelings sharing the same bed with me.

If you are not sure what you should do and there seem to be a number of practical concerns you have, do nothing until you are sure you have a plan that suits your needs. Even while there you can take a page from his book and do what you want, when you want. Make believe he is not there and his feelings do not come into you making any decisions.

As far as sleeping arrangements try a footon in the living room. Don’t know how old your children are, but moving in their room could be a stressor for both of you. Besides you sleeping in the living room will impress anyone he may want to bring home. Most of all find appreciation for yourself, you can either save the relationship, if that is really what you want, but you will save yourself.

Giving you a great big hug. Eileen

the Focus of my attention is on me now…