1. Since I began Rori Raye Relationship Coach Training, I’ve fallen more and more in love with the idea of helping women start, work at, make thrive, make money at their own businesses – coaching or otherwise.
So – as I hand off my coaching practice to my Certified Coaches – I’m thinking up new ways to mentor them and other coaches. So – if you see some “boy” stuff around business, and how to be business-like without forgetting you’re a “girl” – you’ll know why.
I seem to be able to convince my Trainees and clients that they can be successful – even if they don’t feel confident right now…
This is exactly the same thing as Circular Dating!
You need your “boy” to get you out of the house. Then you need your boy to put you in the room, or the restaurant chair or the barstool, or the party, or the meetup, or the coffee shop for a first online date “get to know.”
You need your “boy” to get you where a man can find you.
You need your “boy” to keep your schedule straight so you don’t lose track or lose hope.
You need your inner “boy” to give your inner “girl” the room to just BE.
You need your inner “boy” to show a good example to the men out there of what you require.
The confidence to love yourself – wherever you are or however you’re feeling – is what being a girl is all about.
And it’s harder to get there without giving your inner “boy” some room to stretch.
So – doing “business” is a GREAT way of giving your “boy” something to do.
He gets to do the “business” of dating and relationship – so that your girl can be free to feel.
2. I push. I push and shove, actually.
I’m tough love, I’m firm, I’m no nonsense.
I won’t let you punish yourself, or beat up on yourself – AND, I won’t even let you get mad at yourself for punishing yourself or beating yourself up! I won’t even let you feel bad when you get mad…
And on and on. I’m about helping you to love every single moment of your life, no matter what:
Every single expression on your face, every single word out of your mouth, every single thought that crosses your mind, every single feeling that comes through your heart, and every bit of stardust of your soul.
3. I get asked a lot about my “trauma” Tools – partly because I’ve personally done all kinds of Trauma Resolution work: from Reichian Therapy (I was a “Rebirther”) to Peter Levine’s great Somatic Experiencing, partly because I’m a trauma survivor myself (rape and assault 35 years ago), and partly because I created and teach “Riffing” in my Targeting Mr. Right program.
I’ve done so many trauma clearing modalities (and I can teach many of them to you for your own use) – AND I don’t think any of them are anywhere near as positive or powerful as touted – compared to the Tools I created and use around Being Aware, Being Present, and Loving Everything No Matter What.
Perhaps the most important reason I’m approached about working with trauma is that, because of my own past and path – at least you’ll know I have some idea of the enormity of everything you’re feeling and experiencing and can hear you fully.
I basically “leapfrog” over “trauma” by staying in the present, doing “Being Present” Tools I’ve created, and also bringing something “bigger” into the picture: All religious and spiritual views of God, the Universe, “What Is…” – whatever my client most resonates with.
4. It is SO easy to define ourselves by what’s happened to us.
The trick is to start fresh, while still doing the work to drop old “cellular memory” and old “beliefs” about life, love, the world, the universe…
It’s sort of a self-awareness project.
Everything we work on will center around that.
8. I don’t think there’s ANYONE who comes near a goal after a lifetime of making “getting to that goal” their focus who doesn’t feel “lost” as they approach that goal.
It could be the last 10 pounds of weight loss, the relationship getting closer, the business starting to turn a profit.
In a way – we “identify” ourselves as this person on this “path.” On this “search.”
We are so goal oriented, we forget who we are and how we are right now.
Our “self” BECOMES that “search.” We become our “Journey.”
So, when we’re so close we feel like the Journey is going to be over (think the last few games of a champion tennis match, the last strides of a foot race, the last triple ice-skating jump, the end of an illness…) – we feel lost.
It’s like losing yourself – the self that was “striving.”
Like “choking” in a tennis match – You fight and fight, then get near the end and can’t “finish.”
It’s classic – it’s human.
The trick is to “fall in love” with the whole experience.
This is where I push – like a coach.