Have The Relationship You Want

If you’re holding onto a man – most likely it’s because he’s withdrawing.  And the weird and terrible thing is that – he’s likely withdrawing because you’re Holding On To him!

So in order to stop him from withdrawing, you have to stop Holding On.

And I know that sounds completely counter-intuitive.

We all want to grab, stop, and hold onto ANYTHING that feels like it’s running away from us. That’s why people end up with all sorts of things they don’t really want at auctions – they just get caught up in not letting something slip away.

The way to KEEP a man is to Let Go of him.  This is completely different from Letting HIM go, remember – this is about letting YOURSELF go.

Think of it this way: You are Letting Go without even CONSIDERING what HE’S doing.  You are REFUSING to HOLD ON to anything about this man.

The truth is – when we’re holding onto a man, it’s us who’re stopped cold.  It’s like he’s dragging us along wherever he goes (in my Commitment Blueprint program, this is how we’ll follow a man off our own Bridge to our Happy Ever After.  We’ll follow him even into the pits, because that’s what we’ve all been trained and taught to do our whole lives.  The “Blueprint” teaches you how to STAY on your own Bridge, and simply keep going no matter WHAT he does.)

So it’s not a matter of watching him go off somewhere when he withdraws – it’s not about LETTING him go, it’s about letting go of something – anything – that’s moving away from you, so you can go in your OWN direction – so you can keep doing what you need to do to take care of yourself.

And what happens when you do that?  All of a sudden a man turns around and has to be with you.  All of a sudden you completely lose that aura of clinginess and desperation – and you look CONFIDENT – and that changes everything.

So – I want you to imagine that at this moment, your holding onto a man – his shirt, his leg, his shoulders, his thoughts, his hair, his eyes.

Now – just Open Your Hands.  Let go.  Now turn around. Focus on something else in front of you.

Every time you even think about a man who’s not right in front of you or on the phone with you, try this Tool for starters – just Open Your Hands, and let me know what happens…

Love, Rori