OMG – I LOVED this movie!
You don’t need me if you’re in this situation – just do what Meryl Street does!
She lays it all on the line, lays her heart out there, says the truth, doesn’t blame him…and won’t settle for less than she wants – a whole, real marriage.
Go see it, or rent it as soon as it comes out.
Some things I got from this:
My mother called me several times after she saw it to ask me what I thought. After I saw it and talked to her about it, her comments were nothing near what I expected. She said…
“He’s an ignoramous! What would she want with him? How could he reject her like that? He’s stupid?”
And I realized that this is what we all think…
That men are somehow on “automatic sexual” – and we’re so surprised when they don’t want to have sex (this is reaching epidemic proportions these days) and think it has to do with our attractiveness.
When, actually, it has to do with emotional intimacy.
And that has to do with emotional safety.
Once someone closes down the doors to their heart, we close down our doors in reaction. And pretty soon, things freeze.
The longer things are frozen, the harder it is to thaw them, because the more denial we have about what’s staring us in the face, the more fear and defense and armor and excuses and reasonings we’ve placed around the doors so that they become nearly immovable.
We have to go first.
No matter how scary it is. No matter how risky it feels. No matter what our brains are telling us and our friends are telling us – we need to expose our hearts and tell the truth.
And then – if a man still wants to keep his doors locked, we have to stop pounding on them and simply move away.
We can’t force a man to open his doors. We can only invite him.
And you have SO much more power in your invitation (and in your walking away) than you think you have!