Comments on: Jason Mesnick As The Bachelor – Understanding What Happened

By: Linda

Linda — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 20:45:58 +0000

I am sure there is something to learn here. I hate drama. It is bad enough to have to deal with in, but to deal with it with millions of people watching. O MY goodness!… I could not bare it. The TV producers are all about ratings, that drama creates and elevates it, but what in the world… those are real people. Do they get any compensation for being humiliated on national television. I am not a big fan of reality shows.. give me The Carol Burnett Show any day. lol

Linda

By: alias girl

alias girl — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 08:18:57 +0000

daria i feel glad you got out of there once you realized you felt triggered and not great. and i feel very happy to hear of your roses for you and your mom.

i feel very calmly moved by the progress we are all making. i feel so grateful.

i feel scared to start meeting these guys online but finally i have some men actually asking me out for coffee rather than just wanting to IM. i don’t do IM. i don’t like it. i do phone calls and real life.

i’ve gone through alot (alot!) of online men. i feel like i’ve done alot of work. i feel ready for it to be easier and more enjoyable now. i feel scared though. my fear is coming up. i love my fear. my fear is trying to protect me. i love and give thanks for my intense fears which have kept me safe all these years. phew. i feel like there is a flood in my ears. i feel a racing heart. i love my fear.

By: alias girl

alias girl — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 07:12:11 +0000

i’m feeling much less concerned about rejection. i can email any man now. which feels great. i mean i don’t email all of them but i don’t feel less than like i used to. i feel grateful that online is opening me up to men in my real life that i see out and about. but i don’t feel much faith that i will actually meet my man online. i mean maybe but i really just view it as practice. i feel bad that some men i did not let down easy. i was not mean but i was honest. like one guy contacted me forgetting that he had contacted me way back and just dropped off. no telling me he was going offline. no ending the conversation. so when he contacted me again i told him i didn’t want a man who carelessly disposed of women. i felt angry and didn’t care if i hurt him. which i doubt it did.

i still have alot of anger i guess when men treat women as sex objects. and i also have alot of fear of actually settling down with someone. the idea makes me feel naseouis. nice spelling.

but i’m not just going to move in with someone. i can take it slow. i feel weird. i feel sad today. is ok. i love my sadness. i love my confusion. i feel isolated. i feel scared of forming relationships with people. i love my fears and sadness. i feel weird. like i’m weird. is ok. i love my weirdness.

By: Linmayu

Linmayu — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 05:53:01 +0000

I’ve had something open up in me with my volunteer army. I’m finding it easier and easier to write to them, to go with the flow of the conversations, really express my feelings in the moment, and just not care whether they ever write back. I’m finding it easier and easier to let a man down easy, to tell him when I’m feeling uncomfortable with him, or to tell him when I’m feeling delighted with him! It feels amazing.

By: Daria

Daria — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 01:28:48 +0000

I feel good too… Alias girl what you have said sounds inspiring… I felt really weird after going to “kick it” with one of my exes today and I felt like cuddling and he was into something else, I felt triggered and icky and got out of there…

BUT… what I want to say is a feel good thing… I bought a dozen roses, some white some pink… for me and my mom for Women’s Day today ! Yay. I feel glad.

By: alias girl

alias girl — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 01:20:00 +0000

i have come to the conclusion that it is critical for me to have mercy and compassion with my army of men. they are crashing on my shore for a reason. they want to be kings. there is no man who has come to me who i have not felt that strongly. if any man enters my sphere it is because he is searching for himself, god, his king self. and lucky them. they have come to just the right woman. i will tell my truth. i will speak my feelings. i will not accept sub par behavior.

and they just want to keep crashing on my shore. i feel good about that. i feel dedicated to my goddess self. i feel compassion for mankind.

By: Maria

Maria — Sun, 08 Mar 2009 20:06:13 +0000

Did you know, guys that Jason was the dumpee in earlier series of Bachelorette, by DeAnna. From what l understood, he was among the last 2, and DeAnna did break his heart tremendously.
l had this silly thought came across my mind…..maybe tiny little part in Jason still has not get over the fact that DeAnna dumped him, and maybe some parts still loves her, who knows. So on that shadow, we can understand Jason better, also his motives and desicions.

By: Rori Raye

Rori Raye — Sun, 08 Mar 2009 17:22:31 +0000

Welcome, Seafox, and thank you for your comment. Since we can’t really KNOW anything – guessing around this, using our feelings and intuition is still helpful to us personally, because it brings up our own stuff to look at and heal.

Go ahead and imagine speaking about yourself in the third person, as Melissa did. Isn’t that an interesting view into the way a person sees herself?

Love, Rori

By: cookie

cookie — Sun, 08 Mar 2009 13:51:08 +0000

Sorry I meant power speeches!

By: cookie

cookie — Sun, 08 Mar 2009 13:49:31 +0000

Question; in which of roris programs does she talk explicitly about power messages. Like how and when to use them? I really need to learn so if anyone knows let me know, thanks