Comments on: How To Save Your Long-Distance Relationship http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/long-distance-relationships/how-to-go-from-long-distance-to-together-forever/ Marriage & Relationship Advice From Rori Raye Sat, 21 Nov 2009 00:20:21 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: Ginggi http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/long-distance-relationships/how-to-go-from-long-distance-to-together-forever/comment-page-1/#comment-14312 Ginggi Fri, 14 Aug 2009 10:28:35 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=54#comment-14312 Dear Rory, I do the lean back girlfriend..and he said he wants to have a serious relationship with me..we both planning to met on january 2010and planning to get married. But now we are not as close as before. He talk to me once a week and said that he was busy. I don't know what to do now. I feel that our relationship is getting down to fall apart now..i need your help pls. Dear Rory,

I do the lean back girlfriend..and he said he wants to have a serious relationship with me..we both planning to met on january 2010and planning to get married.
But now we are not as close as before. He talk to me once a week and said that he was busy. I don’t know what to do now. I feel that our relationship is getting down to fall apart now..i need your help pls.

]]> By: Catherine http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/long-distance-relationships/how-to-go-from-long-distance-to-together-forever/comment-page-1/#comment-221 Catherine Wed, 08 Oct 2008 23:28:58 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=54#comment-221 Also I can't seem to wrap my mind around how it's possible for a man to love a woman, yet be so okay with not being in contact with her either verbally or in person/sexually.....Don't they worry about us finding other men who will pay attention to us and possibly ruin all chances of a reconciliation??? Also I can’t seem to wrap my mind around how it’s possible for a man to love a woman, yet be so okay with not being in contact with her either verbally or in person/sexually…..Don’t they worry about us finding other men who will pay attention to us and possibly ruin all chances of a reconciliation???

]]> By: Catherine Sutter http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/long-distance-relationships/how-to-go-from-long-distance-to-together-forever/comment-page-1/#comment-183 Catherine Sutter Mon, 06 Oct 2008 22:39:26 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=54#comment-183 Rori, as the other ladies her have posted I'm in the exact same position. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year. He persued me relentlesy right from the beginning, telling me he wanted to marry me and spend every night with me. I hardly did any work, but I kept my guard up to a point afraid to lose him if I let my guard down. When I did start to move closer to him he grew sullen, cold, and distant. What a shock when he said he needed to take time away from the relationship to get his life in order, and that he was depressed. I have mailed back his keys, wrote him a heartfelt emial, and have cut off all contact after that. It's been a nightmare, even though it's only been a few weeks it feels like an eternity. I am dating other guys as you have advised. What I'm curious to know is how to I lovingly accept text messages and emails which are the only things I occasionally get from him? Do I wait for a phone call or grand gesture? Thank you so much Rori Rori, as the other ladies her have posted I’m in the exact same position. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year. He persued me relentlesy right from the beginning, telling me he wanted to marry me and spend every night with me. I hardly did any work, but I kept my guard up to a point afraid to lose him if I let my guard down. When I did start to move closer to him he grew sullen, cold, and distant. What a shock when he said he needed to take time away from the relationship to get his life in order, and that he was depressed. I have mailed back his keys, wrote him a heartfelt emial, and have cut off all contact after that. It’s been a nightmare, even though it’s only been a few weeks it feels like an eternity. I am dating other guys as you have advised. What I’m curious to know is how to I lovingly accept text messages and emails which are the only things I occasionally get from him? Do I wait for a phone call or grand gesture?
Thank you so much Rori

]]> By: Gudrun http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/long-distance-relationships/how-to-go-from-long-distance-to-together-forever/comment-page-1/#comment-42 Gudrun Tue, 16 Sep 2008 15:22:55 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=54#comment-42 Thank you Rori, you put a big smile on my face. Your message is so encouraging. Currently I feel like a sponge, sucking all your tools in. It's time to reinvent myself. Much Love, Gudrun Thank you Rori, you put a big smile on my face. Your message is so encouraging. Currently I feel like a sponge, sucking all your tools in. It’s time to reinvent myself. Much Love, Gudrun

]]> By: Christine http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/long-distance-relationships/how-to-go-from-long-distance-to-together-forever/comment-page-1/#comment-41 Christine Tue, 16 Sep 2008 15:17:19 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=54#comment-41 So, what if you do the whole "lean back thing" and he comes towards you, my guy for example, made me dinner, romantic evening, candles (hasn't done that in 2 years) told me he "missed me" because we hadn't seen each other in a week (I've been busy with 2 jobs and school-all recent developments). Wonderful evening, I thought the old romantic guy was back. That morning we discussed what would be for dinner-we don't live together so this meant we would be seeing each other. The next night, I called after work - he asked me to call him when I got off. He said he was thinking about making plans with friends to go out for a while until I came over later, my plan was to come over earlier. Why did he pull away within 12 hours of getting close? So, what if you do the whole “lean back thing” and he comes towards you, my guy for example, made me dinner, romantic evening, candles (hasn’t done that in 2 years) told me he “missed me” because we hadn’t seen each other in a week (I’ve been busy with 2 jobs and school-all recent developments). Wonderful evening, I thought the old romantic guy was back. That morning we discussed what would be for dinner-we don’t live together so this meant we would be seeing each other. The next night, I called after work - he asked me to call him when I got off. He said he was thinking about making plans with friends to go out for a while until I came over later, my plan was to come over earlier. Why did he pull away within 12 hours of getting close?

]]> By: Rori Raye http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/long-distance-relationships/how-to-go-from-long-distance-to-together-forever/comment-page-1/#comment-32 Rori Raye Mon, 15 Sep 2008 07:28:00 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=54#comment-32 Gudrun, Thank you so much for telling me your story. You are very brave, and I know that sharing your feelings with your boyfriend will help you Bridge to your Happy Ever After - whether it's him who shows up ready to have a real relationship, or a brand new man who's so much better. Remember this - please: You are ALWAYS free. Your heart is ALWAYS open. Make the conscious choice to take care of yourself and your heart - and to always make sure that you feel good and everything you want is in place before you agree to take on any man as an exclusive "boyfriend." Love, Rori Gudrun, Thank you so much for telling me your story. You are very brave, and I know that sharing your feelings with your boyfriend will help you Bridge to your Happy Ever After - whether it’s him who shows up ready to have a real relationship, or a brand new man who’s so much better.

Remember this - please:

You are ALWAYS free. Your heart is ALWAYS open. Make the conscious choice to take care of yourself and your heart - and to always make sure that you feel good and everything you want is in place before you agree to take on any man as an exclusive “boyfriend.” Love, Rori

]]> By: Gudrun http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/long-distance-relationships/how-to-go-from-long-distance-to-together-forever/comment-page-1/#comment-28 Gudrun Sun, 14 Sep 2008 14:46:06 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=54#comment-28 Hello Rori, Sarah's story sounds exactly like mine. How I wish I would have known your tool a little earlier before I made the final call (5 weeks ago), letting my 'boyfriend' know that I can't take it no more and asked him to set me free... Hello Rori,
Sarah’s story sounds exactly like mine. How I wish I would have known your tool a little earlier before I made the final call (5 weeks ago), letting my ‘boyfriend’ know that I can’t take it no more and asked him to set me free…

]]> By: Rori Raye http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/long-distance-relationships/how-to-go-from-long-distance-to-together-forever/comment-page-1/#comment-17 Rori Raye Wed, 10 Sep 2008 00:42:58 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=54#comment-17 Thank you so much for your post, Sarah. You are so right, and I'm so glad you're turning away from focusing on him, and want to encourage you to turn all your energy onto yourself. Make YOURSELF feel as good as you can feel. Do things that make you feel GOOD. You'll be surprised how quickly your life can change once you start valuing your own time and energy and love - he'll start to value you more, too. Thank you so much for your post, Sarah. You are so right, and I’m so glad you’re turning away from focusing on him, and want to encourage you to turn all your energy onto yourself. Make YOURSELF feel as good as you can feel. Do things that make you feel GOOD.

You’ll be surprised how quickly your life can change once you start valuing your own time and energy and love - he’ll start to value you more, too.

]]> By: sarah http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/long-distance-relationships/how-to-go-from-long-distance-to-together-forever/comment-page-1/#comment-14 sarah Tue, 09 Sep 2008 03:52:41 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=54#comment-14 Hi, thanks for your suggestion and aid. I realized that what went wrong is that im overfunctioning, im always the one who initiates, I was the one who gave him the opportunity to know that I m always that to a point that he doesn’t appreciate. I don’t know how this can be salvage but like what your tools suggest, to stop trying. If he is interested, he will call or contact me. the more I try to go near, I will get hurt even more. Hi, thanks for your suggestion and aid.
I realized that what went wrong is that im overfunctioning, im always the one who initiates, I was the one who gave him the opportunity to know that I m always that to a point that he doesn’t appreciate. I don’t know how this can be salvage but like what your tools suggest, to stop trying. If he is interested, he will call or contact me. the more I try to go near, I will get hurt even more.

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