Comments on: Stay Out of the Long Distance Relationship Trap

By: dorothea

dorothea — Fri, 13 Aug 2010 17:16:36 +0000

coffe, i don’t understand…why did he say he was going to wait two whole weeks to call you? i feel confused.

By: coffelovergirl

coffelovergirl — Fri, 13 Aug 2010 17:07:42 +0000

Dear Rori, I have a follow up on my long distance raltionship, My boyfriend of 6months, left on Aug 7,2010 and started his new job on Aug. 9th. We have had no contact since he left, I texted him twice but no response back from him, I’ve been circular dating and just hate it so far, I still care about this man but don’t know what to do or why he is not in contact, he did say before he left in a converstaion we had that he would call me in a couple of weeks, but am at a total loss of knowing whats going on with him, what to do? Be patient and wait or just try to forget about him since his life is totally different 4hrs away?

By: Rori Raye

Rori Raye — Mon, 19 Jul 2010 02:01:46 +0000

Sarah, Welcome – and so sorry – but no one can fall in love with anyone they don’t see regularly – in person. Skype and phone and text doesn’t count. Smell, taste and touch count. Please Circular Date local men. Love, Rori

By: Sarah

Sarah — Sun, 18 Jul 2010 01:49:56 +0000

Dear Rori, I have been talking to a guy who currently lives in another country, from the staart he was someone who would contact me almost every day by text, email or a phone call, he would also tell me how much he loves me. only the past 6 weeks that he stopped contacting me, when I text, he will not respond my text soon, but will text me back maybe even few days after and says was not feeling well, it contenued and when I called him he will say there is nothing wrong, he is just buzy and stuff. I have emailed one day to let him know how I feel, which he did not respond, but when he saw me online the next day, he told me he knows how I feel and he feels really bad for not to keeping in touch. he also says I never gave him enough attention and living in another country he dosen’t know how to deal with this…this is coming from someone who says he is lin love wiith me and wants to be with me, I don’t know what to do now, as I am really in love with this guy, I am only thinking if I contact him again I will sound needy and the fact that I am pressuring him to be with me. last time I text him, I am still waiting or respond!! please advise me if I stop contacting him and just leave him alone, which is hard, do you thing this will change things…Many Thanks Sarah

By: Rori Raye

Rori Raye — Fri, 16 Jul 2010 01:04:16 +0000

Nicole, Welcome – and look up Circular Dating here….you’re getting all fixated on a guy who is NOT your boyfriend, nor should he be. Don’t call or text – let him do what he does, and meanwhile – et out there and DATE!! Love, Rori

By: Nicole

Nicole — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 17:00:34 +0000

i’ve been talking to this guy off and on for the past year. We finally met in person about 2 months ago. There was definitely chemistry, but for the past month or so I haven’t seen him because he travels alot for his job. I have really started to develop some feelings for him (nothing too serious), but enough that I want to keep him around. Now he’s stopped answering the phone and texting me, but he answers if I text him. I want to find out how he feels about me and where he thinks this could go. HELP!!

By: Rori Raye

Rori Raye — Fri, 09 Jul 2010 04:34:37 +0000

coffelovergirl, Welcome, and you must continue to Circular Date and just consider him another man you date…if you can’t handle that, then end it…trying to push him into something will not work…Love, Rori – AND you CAN do this! Just practice. Love, Rori

By: coffelovergirl

coffelovergirl — Wed, 07 Jul 2010 16:28:29 +0000

Dear Rori, I’ve been reading these long distant relationship blogs and I am getting the feeling that it is not a good idea to be in one, which I have known it usually does not work out. However i’ve been dating this guy for 6 months and he is moving back to his home town which is 4hrs away, he said he is not closing any doors on our relationship, but I have a feeling that things will change once he moves, I really hate to see him go, but I do understand his job is the reason for him leaving, plus he has been in Atlanta for 7yrs and has wanted to sell his place and move back home, his is committment phobic, I really want more out of this relationship but wonder if it’s not worth the lond distance that will come between us. I wish he would stay since we havn’t had enough time to really get to date longer, he said to me that he loves me but now that he is leaving he has not said it lately, I’ve done the circular dating and tried to realize in my mind that he is leaving and just to release him and let him go, but it’s difficult as I have deep feelings for him and don’t know what to do? Any advice would be appreciated.

By: Rori Raye

Rori Raye — Mon, 24 May 2010 18:54:51 +0000

StarGirl – not sure if I answered this before – please don’t be exclusive inany way (not even in your mind) with this man. You have so much time before you see him – open yourself to new experiences and new men. Love, Rori

By: Rori Raye

Rori Raye — Mon, 24 May 2010 18:39:20 +0000

Star Girl, Welcome, – and there’s nothing to stick to here. You are clearly not exclusively bound – so why ar you thinking and acting like you are? It’s nearly impossible to make relationship plans when you are apart. Please focus on enjoying what’s arond you today – including new men. Love, Rori