Mercedes, I actually love that you have kept your own style on here. During all this, I found myself appreciating more and more than you stood by your own style even when others were triggered about it.

It seems to me there’s been a lot of projection on all sides lately, myself included. That’s enough for me. What you call hypocrisy, I call experimentation. I try out different things on my blog, and with men, and on this blog, to see how they feel. Some people say I “should” have a more coherent identity, but my work is all about stripping off layers of identity to get to my essence.

I don’t want to argue with you. I enjoy you too much for that.

I’m going to suggest a question to ask myself as I read this blog.

Every time I get a triggered or icky feeling, I’m going to ask myself, “is there another interpretation of what I perceive this person as doing that would feel better to me? is there a more gracious light in which I can see what he or she is doing?”

I feel soooo happy tonight. I feel massive clearing of energy. I feel light and dreamy and super turned on by the guy I saw tonight. I feel soooo excited to see all the men and Daria this weekend.

Good night Sirens. Tonight I feel only love for everyone on here.

Much Love,
Mercedes

Note to other relationship experts visiting: WELCOME!!! Though I do not use Byron Katie’s “The Work” in any large way, I respect her beyond measure and would jump to have her contribute here. Same with Debbie Ford’s techniques for the “dark side.” I love body work, EFT, Somatic work, prana, yoga…everything and anything and am totally open to all different styles of helping us move forward, be happy, and get the love we want. Let ‘er rip. I am sure that Wayne Dyer and Marianne Williamson would love Feeling Messages and yet offer their own styles of healing communication — and look forward to that!

Note to all: That said…my work is my work. I am impacted every day by new things I learn and love to share it all with you. The important thing is that you know, with my work — I use it every day in my long happy marriage, I speak from my own experience and that of my clients, I am what I am, I speak what I believe, what I feel, what I believe and feel I know…and my own voice is the only one I have – just as YOUR VOICE belongs to YOU. It’s YOUR treasure. I leave it to all of you to share your own experiences here so we can enrich this work – what you find here with me – and make it sing as loud and powerfully as it can. Love, Rori

“But I predict that you will make faster progress with my method. Much faster progress. In fact, I specialize in the “impossible” cases. The guys (or gals) who have tried everything, and nothing worked.”

“I don’t know of any faster way to heal heartbreak and/or move on from your one-itis than EFT. I also don’t know anyone other than me who has become extremely skilled at using it for this purpose.”

You send out a vibe that says you feel your way is the best and only way. That may not be the vibe EVERYONE gets from you…but it is the one I get from you.

Then, you hate being “projected upon” by me, but you turn right around and do it to me??? I never said Rori doesn’t delete any comments. I said she doesn’t delete them simply because we are not using her style of writing. You say you WILL do it on your blog. Accusing her of censoring when you do it is hypocritical. Doesn’t matter who deletes comments and who doesn’t. The point is accusations aimed at others when you are doing the same thing is unfair and…don’t know how else to say it…hypocritical.

I appreciate your comment, and I’m running out the door so will come back later.

Again, I feel “projected on” and it was not my intention to say many of the things that you say I am saying, such as that my way is the “best” way. It is “a” way — one of many — and it works.

I notice such a huge contrast in how it feels to post here versus RSD Nation (where they let me back on). I share my EFT experiences there, and nobody gets super triggered thinking I’m trying to “tell them what to do,” etc. It’s not a judgment of here, I’m just noticing the contrast. It feels a lot better posting there.

When I got banned from the forum, the guys rallied for me and asked RSDN to bring me back. It feels nice to have the openness that I feel there. That it’s ok to share EFT experience and advice without everyone freaking out because they assume I’m saying that there’s only one “right way.”

I’ve never said that. Not once.

Erika: I just have to jump in here and say this to you because you are REALLY triggering me on this one. You used the words “I feel censored” (or something to that effect) with regard to you not being able to use your voice in the style you want to use it on this blog. I’m curious how you can be that judgmental when on your own blog, you made it clear that any comment which does not use your format or style (you even gave an example of what is appropriate) will not be approved and posted. This feels very hypocritical on your part. Especially considering the fact that although Rori prefers feeling messages and would like to see us use them, she’s never threatened to delete comments of those of us who are not using her style. As a matter of fact, on that very post about your new comment policy, you complimented this blog and how people speak here…yet you disagree with it. Why judge someone else? Is it possible your triggers on this come from your own feelings about what you’ve done on your own blog?

I’m comfortable with the way I am accepted here. Does everyone like me? Nope. Not even close. I’ve gotten lots of emails from people who think my voice is too masculine for this blog. I’ve also made new friends and have received lots of encouraging emails as well. But the fact is, no matter how anyone else feels about it, this is Rori’s blog and she’s never made me feel anything other than welcome…no matter which words I use. It triggers me when I hear you accusing her of censoring on this blog. She isn’t doing it unless there is an outright attack against another person here. And…as a matter of fact…she openly requests all anger be directed at her and not at each other. She’ll post pretty much anything we want to say in any way we want to say it as long as all attacks are aimed at her. That’s more than I can say for what you’re doing on your blog…so…it would feel better to me if you would at least try to be fair with your accusations.

I know personally, for me, I have a different style and I would, a lot of the time, do things differently than what is being taught here. At times, I ask Rori to clarify or I even outright disagree with her (not recommended on this blog though…triggers a lot of people). However, I’ve never been one to project that my way is the best way and nobody does it better than I do and if you use my technique you will be healed and blah, blah, blah. I figure if people want to know how I turned my relationship into the most loving and wonderful connection I could have ever imagined, they will read my story (about my own life…not about the lives of those I’ve helped) on this blog or…if they are even more curious, they will click on my name and go to my blog. I’m not trying to sell anything here or win clients or anything like that. I’m here to hear what Rori has to say, to read about how others feel about it and to post my own thoughts or ask my own questions about HER teachings. There are a TON of teachings out there and we have Google if we’re interested. I don’t go to a Pizza Hut website to post about Taco Bueno and I don’t come here to find out how I can be healed by you. If I’m so drawn, I know where to find you….you’ve made it clear time and time and time again.

I feel annoyed by a sense of “ganging up,” “group think,” and “mob mentality.”

I would so love to see an acceptance of experimentation, and different styles, and even an embracing of being triggered. That kind of openness would feel great to me. If I were a man, I would sure want that kind of openness in a woman too.