Comments on: How To Be In Your Dignity – The Jennifer Aniston Character http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/love-life/how-to-be-in-your-dignity-the-jennifer-aniston-character/ Marriage & Relationship Advice From Rori Raye Tue, 16 Mar 2010 18:47:18 +0000 hourly 1 By: Daria http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/love-life/how-to-be-in-your-dignity-the-jennifer-aniston-character/comment-page-1/#comment-6814 Daria Sun, 08 Mar 2009 02:32:04 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=334#comment-6814 I came back to this post after just seeing the movie. And really sank into my dignity. It felt grounding and good. I feel a lot of trust in myself. I came back to this post after just seeing the movie. And really sank into my dignity. It felt grounding and good. I feel a lot of trust in myself.

]]> By: alias girl http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/love-life/how-to-be-in-your-dignity-the-jennifer-aniston-character/comment-page-1/#comment-6760 alias girl Fri, 06 Mar 2009 02:24:11 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=334#comment-6760 omg rori, i literally got chills reading your comment. i feel i could burst out in an energy spasm of joy and relief at the truth. seriously. i'm going to be a bonafide GODDESS because of your generosity and sharing your knowledge and tools. ah, i feel my body shaking. argh. i feel alot of energy in my body. yae! i can't wait to read what you have to say about the rest of the characters! omg rori, i literally got chills reading your comment. i feel i could burst out in an energy spasm of joy and relief at the truth. seriously. i’m going to be a bonafide GODDESS because of your generosity and sharing your knowledge and tools. ah, i feel my body shaking. argh. i feel alot of energy in my body. yae! i can’t wait to read what you have to say about the rest of the characters!

]]> By: Linmayu http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/love-life/how-to-be-in-your-dignity-the-jennifer-aniston-character/comment-page-1/#comment-6738 Linmayu Thu, 05 Mar 2009 05:40:49 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=334#comment-6738 I agree with Alias Girl, he does seem soft. Not even feminine, but just...squishy. And my ex seemed similar in so many ways. I agree with Alias Girl, he does seem soft. Not even feminine, but just…squishy. And my ex seemed similar in so many ways.

]]> By: Rori Raye http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/love-life/how-to-be-in-your-dignity-the-jennifer-aniston-character/comment-page-1/#comment-6729 Rori Raye Wed, 04 Mar 2009 23:29:32 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=334#comment-6729 Oh - you're all going ahead to the Bradley character - okay - I'll deal with him as well as the Justin Long character - but I'll still post with the women first. I'm going to go with no labeling or judging - in other words, I'm going to call the Bradley/Jennifer Connelly issues all about telling the Truth - and it'll be about how the Truth makes you sexy, how it flushes out the lies that kill a relationship. This is all about them not having sex, not being close and why, and about doing a house instead of strengthening the marriage. It's a metaphor that you'll see - it runs rampant - paying attention to things that aren't important in order to keep the lies alive. What the whole movie is about, basically, for me, is how the truth, when finally told and heard, effects everything (especially how all the women's ability to finally hear the truth empowers them to stand up for themselves and change their lives). Oh – you’re all going ahead to the Bradley character – okay – I’ll deal with him as well as the Justin Long character – but I’ll still post with the women first.

I’m going to go with no labeling or judging – in other words, I’m going to call the Bradley/Jennifer Connelly issues all about telling the Truth – and it’ll be about how the Truth makes you sexy, how it flushes out the lies that kill a relationship. This is all about them not having sex, not being close and why, and about doing a house instead of strengthening the marriage. It’s a metaphor that you’ll see – it runs rampant – paying attention to things that aren’t important in order to keep the lies alive. What the whole movie is about, basically, for me, is how the truth, when finally told and heard, effects everything (especially how all the women’s ability to finally hear the truth empowers them to stand up for themselves and change their lives).

]]> By: heartbeat http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/love-life/how-to-be-in-your-dignity-the-jennifer-aniston-character/comment-page-1/#comment-6728 heartbeat Wed, 04 Mar 2009 21:15:00 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=334#comment-6728 The reason I felt a little nauseous when he slept with Scarlett was because I was naive once. I feel tense admitting that. I feel relieved I've moved on and become wise. The reason I felt a little nauseous when he slept with Scarlett was because I was naive once. I feel tense admitting that. I feel relieved I’ve moved on and become wise.

]]> By: heartbeat http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/love-life/how-to-be-in-your-dignity-the-jennifer-aniston-character/comment-page-1/#comment-6727 heartbeat Wed, 04 Mar 2009 21:10:48 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=334#comment-6727 I feel puzzled that Alias Girl is worried about people being angry with her for not being triggered as much. I didn't feel that triggered either. I feel a little embarrassed - I could relate to the character as a person trying to protect himself and being afraid to say what he wanted, and in the process making everything a whole lot worse for himself. I used to be like that. I used to feel afraid of my own wants and feelings and deny them instead. It felt like part of the comedy aspect of the film. I went to see it on my own and was trying to stifle guffaws in case the huddles of girlfriends thought I was wierd :) I feel puzzled that Alias Girl is worried about people being angry with her for not being triggered as much. I didn’t feel that triggered either. I feel a little embarrassed – I could relate to the character as a person trying to protect himself and being afraid to say what he wanted, and in the process making everything a whole lot worse for himself. I used to be like that. I used to feel afraid of my own wants and feelings and deny them instead. It felt like part of the comedy aspect of the film. I went to see it on my own and was trying to stifle guffaws in case the huddles of girlfriends thought I was wierd :)

]]> By: alias girl http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/love-life/how-to-be-in-your-dignity-the-jennifer-aniston-character/comment-page-1/#comment-6726 alias girl Wed, 04 Mar 2009 20:58:32 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=334#comment-6726 i feel weird saying this but i wasn't that triggered by the cheating husband character. he was very feminine and as i like to say SOFT. he caved into the pressure to get married. he didn't keep his boundaries with the scarlet character. just all across the board he didn't draw his own boundaries or take care of himself or have integrity. i felt inspired by the lesson that rori's work often points to. IF A MAN SAYS HE IS NOT READY/DOES NOT WANT TO GET MARRIED - - - it is probably in our best interests to believe him. i feel weird. i don't want people angry with me. i feel weird saying this but i wasn’t that triggered by the cheating husband character. he was very feminine and as i like to say SOFT. he caved into the pressure to get married. he didn’t keep his boundaries with the scarlet character. just all across the board he didn’t draw his own boundaries or take care of himself or have integrity.

i felt inspired by the lesson that rori’s work often points to. IF A MAN SAYS HE IS NOT READY/DOES NOT WANT TO GET MARRIED – - – it is probably in our best interests to believe him.

i feel weird. i don’t want people angry with me.

]]> By: Linmayu http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/love-life/how-to-be-in-your-dignity-the-jennifer-aniston-character/comment-page-1/#comment-6725 Linmayu Wed, 04 Mar 2009 17:20:04 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=334#comment-6725 I think part of the reason I felt so strongly about that character is that I see the same entitlement and non-caring about others in myself, and I don't like it. I think part of the reason I felt so strongly about that character is that I see the same entitlement and non-caring about others in myself, and I don’t like it.

]]> By: Daria http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/love-life/how-to-be-in-your-dignity-the-jennifer-aniston-character/comment-page-1/#comment-6723 Daria Wed, 04 Mar 2009 11:23:02 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=334#comment-6723 I don't even know who you guys are talking about and I feel triggered. My shoulder is tightening up so hard it HURTS. THank you shoulder. I FEL SO FUCKING ANGRY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Ok... that felt satisfying although I still feel angry... my shoulder feels super many tingles. I am triggered about my EX... WHO I CAN T EVEN CALL MY FUCKIN EX BECAUSE HE DOESNT THINK WE EVER WENT OUT AND WE DIDNT AND I FEEEL SO FUCKING MAD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My eyes teared up and felt weird and my ear tingles. This man you guys are talking about triggered me about my ex and I feel angry... I feel angry.... I FEEL ANGRY ... thank you!!!!!!!!!!!! I FEEL SO ANGRY.... I FEEL SO ANGRYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY ARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRUUUUUUUUUUUOAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOORRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR ANGERRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR RRRRRRRRRRRRRAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAa shoulder hurts... thank you!!!! YEEEEELLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL more ANGER... (my parents are asleep so I can't do the I feel so angry yell out loud tool) I love me... I feel better. I don’t even know who you guys are talking about and I feel triggered. My shoulder is tightening up so hard it HURTS. THank you shoulder. I FEL SO FUCKING ANGRY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Ok… that felt satisfying although I still feel angry… my shoulder feels super many tingles. I am triggered about my EX… WHO I CAN T EVEN CALL MY FUCKIN EX BECAUSE HE DOESNT THINK WE EVER WENT OUT AND WE DIDNT AND I FEEEL SO FUCKING MAD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My eyes teared up and felt weird and my ear tingles. This man you guys are talking about triggered me about my ex and I feel angry… I feel angry…. I FEEL ANGRY … thank you!!!!!!!!!!!! I FEEL SO ANGRY…. I FEEL SO ANGRYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY

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shoulder hurts… thank you!!!! YEEEEELLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL more ANGER… (my parents are asleep so I can’t do the I feel so angry yell out loud tool)

I love me… I feel better.

]]> By: Samat http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/love-life/how-to-be-in-your-dignity-the-jennifer-aniston-character/comment-page-1/#comment-6721 Samat Wed, 04 Mar 2009 11:06:24 +0000 http://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/?p=334#comment-6721 Ok i feel sickened by that guys character too. I mean I felt angry as well when he chose to do what he did. But he did hesitate i guess and he started flirting wiht her at the store. I feel like I am goin gout with a guy like this! But Im not sure how to identify if thats true. Bradley's character seems quiet and like someone whos not very agressive perhaps hes a feminine man. I'll try and identify. Anyone else feel like this? Ok i feel sickened by that guys character too. I mean I felt angry as well when he chose to do what he did. But he did hesitate i guess and he started flirting wiht her at the store. I feel like I am goin gout with a guy like this! But Im not sure how to identify if thats true. Bradley’s character seems quiet and like someone whos not very agressive perhaps hes a feminine man. I’ll try and identify. Anyone else feel like this?

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