What someone gleaned from David Deida

I did eventually have him tell me that he got off FB because he didn’t want to see what I was doing in Hawaii. He said he felt jealous. He’s back on now and posting about us again.

I don’t know if you’ll read this, but wanted to answer your question.

is he felt underconfident because he didn’t have his license to drive, and he knew i didn’t want to drive to a man – though I DID the first time, just because I was out at that time and it sounded fun, and i let him know i don’t like driving to guys and wouldn’t do it again -

so he felt kinda incapable maybe and that made him feel resentful and less confident.

which showed up in his behavior

wow interesting. My love language is definitely Words of Affirmation.

When i said instant phone call, I saw him as instantly wanting to make me feel better – his attention on me – rather than worryign about himself and whether i’d refuse him

haha we’d be able to tell thru voice i think..

words are very powerful

my love language are acts of service, I think words of appreciation were meagre 3%, the last

so if someone told me they are glad to be able to feel beautiful woman like me feel better, I would feel it as a gross overstatement, like something a slave would say

Poor guys, they don’t have it easy with us!

I feel thankful my friend pointed out to me I voice just negative impressions about surroundings (not my friends), now I am trying to comment positively – it feels very unnatural at times!

maybe I should date your guy:)

well some men Are “mind readers.” I’ve been very pleasantly surprised by men, and their ability to make me feel good and get to what’s wrong.

I would not want him to apologize for something random. That COULD make me feel icky if he instantly goes into it. or persists in apologizing for things that arent issues for me

EW yes. I do know know guys who do the apologizing thing. I tell them i feel turned off, while feeling guilty of telling them that (because my pesky THINKING is assuming they have low self esteem)

But, checking to see how I’m feeling AND THIS MAN IVE TOLD SEVERAL TIMES I DONT LIKE TEXTING! would not have been so shocking.

Guys ARE caring. Nurturing is MASCULINE. I felt shocked by that too when i first read it in Rori’s book.

GUys can nurture and give soooo welll… i love it. I love being taken care of by a man.

And yes, I’ve known guys who I’ve had my fantastic conversation with before. And not just one.

this felt like something from a woman – caring instinct and mind reading, I would feel very very turned off

I know a guy who constantly guesses what he might have done wrong and then apologizes – it has the same vibe for me as self-derogatory comments. Offputting.