Here’s a great guest post from Orna and Matthew Walters, who’re doing a fantastic tele-summit starting July 11th with great relationship experts (especially them – I really think Orna and Matthew are amazing together, as coaches, as people, as a business team, as a romantic couple – in every way)…
The one thing we all desire is love. And not just any love, what we truly desire is to be loved for who we really are; to share our life with someone and to feel acceptance from a man who is committed to you. And yet so many of us struggle to fulfill this desire.
What keeps us from having something that is so important to our happiness? Usually it’s our behavior that is in conflict with our desire for love. In order to understand why our true desire is so often sabotaged by our behavior, we have to understand where our behavior comes from.
Upwards of 90% of our behavior is generated from our subconscious mind and our subconscious is responding to our present through the lens of our PAST experiences. This is why it is so easy to recreate the same experiences over and over and over again. We learn a strategy for dealing with a situation early on in life and our subconscious applies that strategy to similar situations in the present.
If our past is filled with heartache because we were betrayed, it’s very easy to attract betrayal yet again.
We hear you, this doesn’t sound like good news. . .
However, once we understand a few things about our hard wiring, we can then focus to create the outcome of our desire – which in this case is LOVE (it will work with anything else that you desire too).
Our ego is committed to Homeostasis – now for those you who either slept through, or ditched science class – homeostasis is the state of keeping things the SAME!
Homeostasis is what keeps your body at a certain temperature, your blood pressure and body temperature within a narrow range, and your behavior consistent from one day to the next.
That’s right, our ego, and every other part of us is committed to keeping things exactly as they are.
Because right now you are ALIVE.
Now you may be alive, but you may not be happy, or feeling cared for, or loved. . . and quite frankly your ego doesn’t care.
Like Rhett Butler in Gone With the Wind, should you be able to have a conversation about all this love that you desire would tell you “Frankly, I don’t give a damn!”
Being alive is the priority of our ego and our entire body.
In order to have LOVE – true soul partnership love – we must be committed to THRIVE!
One way that your ego may sabotage your heart is by convincing you that love must come from ONE person. No one else can make you feel the way he did. No one else will treat you the way he did. These are all lies of the ego.
The Truth is that love is limitless with limitless expressions. You can choose to create love with any person. You can choose to feel loved at any moment. Only our ego stands in the way of love when we continue to look for love in limited ways.
The ego tells you HOW love is supposed to show up in your life. Your man may show he loves you rather then tell you – and if you are upset that you’re not hearing it, that simply keeps you from experiencing the love he is SHOWING you.
Our ego also has the need to be right. Being right and feeling loved are not connected in any way. When we get stuck in needing to be right in relationship, we fail to see the love that is available to us in the moment.
Love comes from connection and intimacy and does not require agreement.
Your ego may also be blocking love because it is holding onto anger and resentment from the past. Holding onto resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Resentment only harms you and your well-being.
The way out of resentment is to practice forgiveness. Forgiveness for self and others is a loving act that will attract more love in your life.
Become aware of how your ego is getting in the way of you creating love in your life. By letting spirit be your guide, you can release old patterns and move into limitless love.
Join us this summer and learn from 21+ Top Experts in love, dating, relationship, sex and intimacy how to create love on your terms. The Love On Purpose Revolution starts July 11th and can make this Your Summer of Love!
From Me: This tele-summit is FREE – I’m going to call in, and my 5 Heart Connection Tools are a bonus with it (in case you lost your copy)…