Comments on: Lessons From The Movies To Help You Get Into You

By: Rori Raye

Rori Raye — Wed, 18 Mar 2009 05:10:30 +0000

Gina – Bottom line here – the mistake she made was that he was married. That’s a total NO NO. A man who’s married is not available. Period.

And yes – being “all over a guy” is leaning in – but the Scarlett character wasn’t doing that. Your job is to “respond” and to not initiate. Think about that, and let me know how that makes sense for you in that character’s makeup that you identify with. Love, Rori

By: gina

gina — Tue, 17 Mar 2009 18:16:56 +0000

I saw the movie the other night – it was such a treat! I identify with Scarlett Johansen. I’m kind of confused about her behavior. They way she was all over the married guy: is that “leaning in.” I tend to be that way with guys I like, and it feels sexy, and it seems to turn the guys on, but I often wind up in confusing situations with men who are sexually into me, but unwilling to commit. Is her behavior (my behavior) inherently wrong, or was it just the wrong guy? Sometimes, when I’m deliberately leaning back, I feel less sexy and passionate, because I am refraining from being “all over a guy” that I’m really attracted to. Is it okay to express myself in that way once the guy has made it clear that he’s willing to commit? Was her mistake that she thought she could convince him of something by giving him sex?

By: Samat

Samat — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 09:47:35 +0000

I have seen the movie and I really liked it. I felt perplexed with Scarlett’s character. I felt triggered because i thought she shouldn’t have done what she did. This is a great question for me, even if you mee the love of your life after hes married should you go for him? I felt this wasnt right. Anyway I feel I am like Ginnifer’s character although I thought Jennifer Connelly was cool but I didnt understand why she didnt find her husbands affair so hurtful as the other stuff. There are a lot of things in the movie that you can think deeply with. I felt the guy Goodwin starts dating is a bit fake, I mean how can he suddenly fall for her from the scenes we saw about him. I must say I really liked Jennifer Aniston. I wish I could be as dignified as her. Ok another question here was Ben Affleck’s character genuinely afraid of marriage or was it the way Aniston acted? Apologies for the messy post

By: Bethany

Bethany — Sat, 28 Feb 2009 20:07:39 +0000

Hands down, I’m like Ginnifer Goodwin’s character most, although I feel that I’m wiser since I started working with Rori’s tools and noticing things…maybe I’m between where she starts out in the movie and where she ends up. I felt identified with her anxiety and obsessiveness, and also her inherent sweetness. I LOVED this film and can’t wait to see it again–I felt so surprised at how GOOD it is, really well-written and SMART. I feel so excited to recommend everyone here go see it today–it’s Saturday, after all!

By: alias girl

alias girl — Sat, 28 Feb 2009 05:40:36 +0000

i am looking for my best friend who i like to have sex with. it seems to me this will be obvious. i don’t feel i need to sweat anything. oh maybe i should have put this under the organic post.

it just occurred to me. and i feel really calm and content. like oh, right. that will be very apparent.

like the jennifer anniston character in the movie. ohkay. maybe i did put this comment in it’s best place.

i enjoyed the movie. i had really low expectations for it and ended up enjoying it. i related to all of them if i had to pick the one charc i related to the most it’d probably have to be the gennifer goodwin charc. then scarlett. then hmmmm maybe a tie between drew and jennifer connelly. then jennifer anniston. only bc i don’t really have real relationships like that.

By: Linmayu

Linmayu — Sat, 28 Feb 2009 05:06:57 +0000

From reading the descriptions I’m going to say I identify with Jennifer Connelly’s character, in every way…though I will have to see the movie to say for sure. Although in real life I feel a lot for Jennifer Aniston, I read in some magazine today about how she’s handling the whole Brad/Angelina thing (from what I read, she seems to be trying really hard to present the image that she’s OK, but she isn’t) and I feel so similarly to that; I feel like if I were to run into my ex with his new love (not that I know whether he really has one) I would likely act exactly the same way. I don’t know how I’d get around that.

By: Ann

Ann — Sat, 28 Feb 2009 04:44:53 +0000

At the moment my character would be a aggravated lady who is recoverying from being very sick, but trying to work with a computer and ISP that sucks…. now that feels better lol

My quirky self would identify the most with Jennifer Connelly but also have parts of Ginnifer Goodwin through in there.

Now I hope I can get this to post.

By: ABC

ABC — Sat, 28 Feb 2009 03:58:58 +0000

when i first saw this film, i felt a little insulted about how they portrayed the women in this movie. I especially felt really upset about how they completely portrayed Ginnifer Goodwin’s character as dumb and naive.
i felt so mad about that. Also, in the movie, the guy went from “not so into her” to “into her” just because she opened up and cried seemed a little fake—if there’s no chemistry to begin with, a guy is not going to be attracted to you just because you become vulnerable and cry—there has to be some kind of CHEMISTRY.

i am probably triggered by this movie in so many different ways:(

By: heartbeat

heartbeat — Sat, 28 Feb 2009 01:06:06 +0000

PS Katja I’m happy things are going well for you
I read it in an earlier comment on another post.

By: heartbeat

heartbeat — Sat, 28 Feb 2009 01:04:25 +0000

I can’t wait to see this film and see which character I most identify with!! It’ll feel like a treat for me. I feel like going on my own because I don’t talk about relationships in the same way as I used to to girlfriends. I’ll write here instead.

On the face of it, I might be a bit Drew Barrymore, with a bit of Scarlett and Jennifer thrown in….. oh I feel all embarrassed now… why can’t I just be PERFECT?????? Darn. OK when I’ve seen the film I’ll be back as…. ????