There are so many books out there that talk about what to “say” and what to “do” – to “play hard to get,” “have boundaries,” “don’t let him get away with stuff”…and the IDEA of STANDING UP TO A MAN is great –
– But if you “play” at anything – if you PRETEND to feel a way you DON’T actually FEEL – you’re being untruthful to yourself, and then your self-esteem drops down to the bottom and then everything goes downhill with it.
Telling a man how “wrong” he is – even if he’s done something thoughtless and hurtful – is USELESS.
***And that’s what we’ll be focusing on in tonight’s new, live and interactive Love Forever teleclass (tonight, Monday, February 10th, 5:30 PDT, 8:30 EST) – about how “resisting pain brings MORE pain, and how accepting and loving everything you feel brings more LOVE – along with answering your specific questions, addressing your personal situation, Scripting “What to say to him…” and helping you change the dynamics of your love life and relationships. To find out more about Love Forever, go here:
It’s useless to try to “correct” a man’s behavior because:
1. It makes him instantly feel defensive - and as he becomes defensive, he LOSES his ATTRACTION for you.
And when he loses his Attraction for you – he loses his MOTIVATION to work HARD to keep you and the relationship.
He doesn’t see or feel a way of WINNING with you.
He feels like he’s always hurting you or disappointing you – he can never do anything right.
2. Making him “wrong” makes him see YOU as NEEDY!
That’s right – he sees YOU as making him the center of your world.
If your man is good enough for YOU – you can turn your relationship around, and if he’s not, you don’t have to “give up” – you can just “lose interest in him” yourself!
I know it sounds too easy to be true – but this is how it works, and I know because I’ve tried to turn so many men who weren’t good enough for me into husbands and pushed away so many men who may have been good enough for me.
And I also know – because once I figured this out it was like I’d taken a magic pill – that you can both turn things around on a dime, and you can lose interest in a man you were once crazy about on a dime – all without any work or pain at all.
You Need To Know HOW To Talk To A Man – About ANYTHING! Here’s How To Learn:
If you’re enduring the back-and-forth of a “Rubberband Man,” or longing for love and feel like there’s no good man out there for you – I can help.
Every day with my clients I come up with new Tools to help you turn your love life into what you want it to be - fast, and since we’ve experienced amazing, dramatic turn-arounds in my Love Forever program – I wanted to let you know about tonight’s Love Forever teleclass (it’s also a 20+ hour recorded program you’ll get instant access to, plus new, live teleclasses every few months where I can give you personal, targeted advice for your particular situation). Just go here to learn more about Love Forever:
Hope to see you tonight, Monday, February 10th at 5:30pm PST, 8:30pm EST!