Comments on: The Highway Of Love

By: The Road Trip to Love Forever

The Road Trip to Love Forever — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 17:50:51 +0000

[...] a link to one of my favorite articles for you about this…The Highway of Love…it will inspire [...]

By: Rori Raye

Rori Raye — Sat, 17 Jan 2009 18:18:17 +0000

Welcome, Flipper – And Thank you for your comment. I’m so glad you brought up “Trauma” – and I hope you’ll read the post I did here on how to heal Trauma without going back into the “story” – or as you put it the “source.” Everything that we feel NOW is linked to something in the past. And going back into the past is usually a re-traumatizing experience – and is totally unnecessary. We have ALL we need to work with right here in the Here and Now. I’ll be talking more and more about this, and having some expert guests post also, so you know I’m backed up by science. Love, Rori

By: Flipper

Flipper — Sat, 17 Jan 2009 12:26:19 +0000

Hi Linda G – I hear you, loud and clear (I’m responding to your other post, too) I had actually checked this one to come back to, hoping there’d be more and better direct feedback in the meantime, cuz I can mainly offer to share the misery. I feel sure a lot of readers out there can relate to your situation, as I certainly do. I can just feel your disappointment, frustration, feeling of being duped or hopelessly naive to have ‘bought into’ this strategy, etc etc – all things quite legitimate and that we can easily admit to on the surface – and the much deeper fear that the problem really is with myself, and my case at any rate, there’s a ton of rage that I still haven’t dealt with, still don’t really feel, despite some recent cracks in the sarcophagus.

I can feel hostility in your words (this is no critique – I feel that’s a good thing). Even disguised, it’s still better to get it out – it’s easier to pull off a mask than dig out something buried in the depths. And again, no criticism meant, I hope my comments will help you but they are really reflexions on my own situation, on things which trigger me, in which you may recognize some of your own truth). I feel challenge and defiance coming through your posts, it feels like hearing “Look at me – All I’ve done to become perfect (in advance, For YOU)!. So where’s my Reward?! Just What are YOU bringing me?! and Why are You bugging me with Your wrongness?” My own results in having this kind of hidden agenda are catastrophic.

I have, in both rehashed and new ways, slipped back into my old self-sabotaging habits. My Nasty Voices feel vindicated to find themselves back in their old comfort zone of ‘what’s the use?”. My disguise, to ‘justify’ my non-attraction, includes gaining a lot of weight back, feeling or acting depressed, confusion/resistance – anything to help understand and accept why I didn’t find Happily-Ever-After once I had slimmed down, was fit, relooked to fabulous, felt more wonderful still, went out all over the map, and was attracting people like flies.

This makeover happened several years ago, consciously, with a little help from a therapist freind, and got me into a ‘marvelous’ but, alas, imaginary relationship. And so I KNOW from experience that Rori’s approach works. But this was all well before learning about the Whole programme with its built-in support. In fact, it was the drag of that ‘failure’ that got me onto her. But the damage, to my still fragile self esteem (which was so largely based on HIS involvement with me) had already been done.

Finally, I’m allowing myself to realize I feel even lower than when I started (which was pretty bad) because I had not really got MYSELF to where I needed to be! So it’s back to the drawing board (literally, with my therapist, to put the ‘blame’ where it belongs, and not on myself or on Them, meaning all the dud or toxic Exes. We don’t dwell on the ‘blame’, but finding the sources of the trauma satisfies curiosity and serves as a springboard to slither (I’m not up to jumping yet) into my anger.) The reinforcement and support that I’m finding here and in the programmes are helping me to move faster, some small breakthroughs have been rewarded, but I know I cannot expect anything too Specific. FantasyMan is still on the back of my horse, tho’ careening tipsily and I manage to be ‘mean” to him now (see him as he is). I DO Expect to be Surprised, but the very nature of that means there’s no point in plotting it out in my overbearing mind.

I can’t offer any specific advice, but I do extend my heartfelt empathy to you in your suffering. Let it all fume and gush and hug yourself hard. xoxoxox

By: Linda G

Linda G — Fri, 16 Jan 2009 13:23:20 +0000

I have been trying my best to be adventurous, change my vibe, circular date, leaning way back, etc etc… It all seems to be going downhill. I went from not getting callbacks after 2-3 dates to cancelations even before they show up. My safety cage is no longer safe, every time I am rejected or neglected it just triggers me more and more. I find my self lamenting for a relationship that was mostly toxic, but familiar and there was lots of chemistry, which I don’t deem to be able to rustle up for anyone and when I do thay flee. I am getting tired of the whole thing. I hate that I fel this way. I hate that I still feel I need to be chosen rather than choose.

By: heartbeat

heartbeat — Mon, 12 Jan 2009 22:41:38 +0000

Hey Cookie, thanks!! I feel like dancing and all shy at the same time

The moment I described has changed me – I feel so much more relaxed and confident. I see him differently and feel loving and strong.

At the weekend I rode my Horse through an amazing landscape of feelings, from frustrated to delighted, from weak to horny. He sang me ‘Just Like A Woman’ and I cried like a little girl…

I feel shy again now – I feel new and nervous. I feel calm.

I’m catching up on all the posts over the weekend, I’m amazed, I feel connected to you all. My knees feel shaky and I feel fuzzy in my stomach remembering this economic dip, and I’m angry it’s in our life.

I feel like resting, I’m tired, I don’t want to stop, just do stuff for myself tomorrow.

By: Caj13

Caj13 — Sat, 10 Jan 2009 16:39:49 +0000

Well, Cookie, from your new point of vision, you’ll be seeing those new beaux, pouring water onto your wheel, so get ready to rinse your eyes and say ‘you’ve come to the right place’ with them.

How about one of our Powerful Poetesses doing something with AG’s tiffs ‘n’ riffs – maybe a little haiku?

By: Cookie

Cookie — Sat, 10 Jan 2009 15:57:38 +0000

Hi, ladies, Hi Heartbeat, I got so excited reading your posts about being curious about your man and saying I feel like kissing you. I think that’s so energizing looking at a man (a new or old one) and looking at his lips and eyes and smile and being curious about him in that way. I feel so sensual when I am able to do it and it makes me horny. My guy makes it diffucult to do this with him, he spends much of the time we are together in his place with his back to me watching television. When we do go out, i.e, the movies or bowling, we don’t really face each other, I always felt underneath it all it was me that he didn’t want to look at but I know also that he doesn’t like being looked at, which feels weird to me because he likes dressing nice and having nice things. I don’t really understand but anyway, I guess I can practice looking at new men in this way. I had a brief affair with a co worker of mine a couple of years ago, I remember looking at him and being curious about him in these ways and I just felt so sexy and bold and good. The sexual energy between us was so thick it was hard to breathe around each other. It ended of course as all affairs do but it reminded me that I was still alive in those areas. I guess I stifled that part of me because of my guy’s issues, as if because something didn’t exist for him that it meant that it couldn’t exist for me. I want new men to practice on. You guys are inspiring.

By: Diane

Diane — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 19:46:37 +0000

I can really relate to the story about the Highway of Love and being on a horse. I have ridden horses for more thatn 45 years. I am divorced and have gone through so many bad days getting over my marriage. The one thing that kept me sane was the fact that I do own a horse and could alwyas go to him and feel better after spending time with him. Riding my horse is a sense of freedom and now thinking of what I justread, I will use this and put my horses face to this unbelieveable ride. I will explore the Highway of Love looking down from the back of my own horse. Thanks for putting things into a way that I can truely relate.

By: Reshi

Reshi — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 17:35:16 +0000

AG, I feel guilty about being picky about men too, but like…yeah. I like what I like. And you know what, I don’t believe there’s anything wrong with it. They want to be desired by us too. They don’t want to be with a woman who has to close her eyes and think of England. And if we’re not attracted to some guy, some other girl will be. I have an absolutely gorgeous, perfect-looking coworker who is no competition for me whatsoever because every guy I like, she thinks is completely unhot, and I feel the same way about hers. So here’s to pizza!

By: alias girl

alias girl — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 07:41:10 +0000

wtf is wrong with this jackass thing that i can’t finish a comment when I am ready to finish it? arghrrrrrrrrrrufff. i feel so angry. you would never know it to look at me but i am steaming inside. i feel so disconnected. i feel frustrated that things are going exactly like i want them to. wtf

i want to be rich
i want boy company of boys i love to spend time with
i want success
i want a home
i want to tell my boss he’s a complete troll. no i don’t i feel so sorry for him. i feel like that would hurt him more than he is already. but i would like to tell the truth when he is acting like an unconscious douchebag.
i want to never ever tthink about my boss again. i want his blech removed from my consciousness. i want to feel only neutrality about my boss.

i feel so sad. i feel so weak. i love my weakness. why? i don’t know bc rori says to love all of it. i love myweakness bc no one else does. sad face. i love my loser self. i love my trapped no dreams come true self. i love that i am dwelling in self pity and screwing up my whole manifestation vibe. i love that no cutie pie men have approached me. i love that i am unapproachable. i am either so beyond fantastic it must mean that guys are too intimidated to approach my greatness. or that i am sending out my self punishing not worthy vibe and so men don’t even want to be in the vicinity of me. i feel so sad. i feel so sad. i feel guilty i am so picky about men and who i like to date but i like what i like. if i was trying to manifest pizza and all that kept showing up for me was lobster i would still be sad. people would say alias girl why so sad. look at all this lobster. lobster is great. but i don’t like lobster. i feel sad. i feel sad. i feel like my head is in a fishbowl.