Comments on: Unwinding Compensatory Torque For Your Love Life

By: Tracy

Tracy — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 06:55:19 +0000

Tinque,Dock,
You guyz rock!totally agree with you on the career bit!I feel that life is about experimenting and trying new and different things everyday…
It feels great to have all these desires coming up…trying them out and finding out what really fits and what doesn’t…then going back to trying out stuff again…
I did feel a bit unsure about my career awhile back and what i really wanted to do….now i just feel confident that i am on the right path and i am trying all the things that feel good for me and letting it just flow…

By: DocK

DocK — Thu, 03 Sep 2009 19:32:29 +0000

Yes, Tinque, I agree – I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up. AG, I’m with you as well. If I had unlimited funds, I would probably take dance classes til I drop and get another PhD or 2 (I LOVE school), work out, travel and spoil myself and my family and friends.

By: alias girl

alias girl — Thu, 03 Sep 2009 19:28:33 +0000

as for career. god only knows what would make me happy. i seem to be happy with no career. my likes and desires change so frequently that it’s hard to really get my heels into something. preferably i feel good with just hanging out with a lot of money. that feels good and right to me.

but i realize that’s not for everyone. i would just keeptrying new things and ideas til one feels right.i know you have mentioned writing. and you are a good writer. so maybe that would make you happy.

By: alias girl

alias girl — Thu, 03 Sep 2009 19:23:20 +0000

bethany i feel grateful for your sharing. i feel grateful for all the sirens sharing no matter what they are going through or how it comes out.

i can often tell how good a decision was for me by how i feel AFTER. A possible experiment is do what YOU WANT and then see hoe you feel. OR tell those people what you are CONSIDERING DOING and say what do you think? like dad i want to spend time with you and i love you but i’m not so sure this healthcare meeting is for me. i’m considering not going. what do you think? then you have the option of putting your toes in the water with new behavior.good luck. i feel supportive.

By: tinque

tinque — Thu, 03 Sep 2009 17:32:57 +0000

Bethany – Follow your heart. She already spoke here loudly and clearly.
As for career, I’m still trying to figure out what I want to be when I grow up, and I’ve learned to love that, for I get the wonderful opportunity to experience so many different and varied things, some I keep with me always, others I tire of and discard.
xxoo

By: Bethany

Bethany — Thu, 03 Sep 2009 17:24:56 +0000

Well, Ok. If I stop working, what does that look like? Saying, okay Chris, I really feel uncomfortable driving all that way, I’m sorry I feel bad but I’m not coming? What if I tell my dad, sorry dad, I feel bad and I know this is a big deal for you, but I don’t want to go to this health care meeting? What if I just do what I WANT to do, like drive to Chicago for the long weekend to check it out? Even typing that I feel guilty and fearful of disapproval. What if Christopher gets disappointed and dumps me? What if I disappoint my dad and someday when he’s gone I’ll wish I’d been a better daughter? Okay, well, that feels really shitty. I feel like the most negative energy on this blog and I feel bad about that. I feel scared to do this but so what if I hurt his feelings if I tell him I changed my mind about driving up to him? He will do what he wants and he’s going to his cabin anyway. My dad will do what he wants and he’s going to his health care meeting anyway. What do I get out of complicitly going along? I get to feel obedient. I get to feel like I’ve pleased them both. I get to feel incredibly angry and justified. I get to feel fearful of losing control over everything. I get to feel like they’ll both take their love away if I don’t do what they want. Okay, analyzing again….stop, stop, stop…I hate this!!!! I hate having to do the basics!!! GRRRRRRRR I feel so frustrated…I feel so scared…I feel so confused!!! Dear Universe, please give me one tiny little clue as to what direction I should take. I want to feel a little bit like I’m spinning my wheels for a reason. I would greatly appreciate and feel thankful for a clue as to how to move in a new direction.

I feel less intense now. Thank you for the reality check, Rori. I feel resolved to get back to my structure.

But, to anyone here who is excited about their career path…how did you get to that decision?! How did you KNOW what you wanted to do?

By: alias girl

alias girl — Thu, 03 Sep 2009 03:55:51 +0000

tinque i am working with new thoughts around safety as well. thank you for a safe universe that allows me to expand joyfully. that i get to open myself and be vulnerable and be my true self and i am safe and protected. i can shine and people can be entusiastic and appreciative and i am safe and protected. thank you. i can leave my windows open and my doors unlocked and i am safe. i am safe. i feel safe and protected and i am. building friendships and being friendly is a safe and enjoyable actitivity. thank you. love is the ruling power of the universe.

By: tina

tina — Thu, 03 Sep 2009 03:33:37 +0000

Daria, thank you. I feel living in fear is far more dangerous for my health lol. Fear of feeling that I deserve happiness. I had one of my sad moments not to long ago and had a moment of clarity. I felt/found a I have/held a belief that I dont deserve much of anything. I loved myself anyway. My world was never a “safe place” I found that I do deserve to feel safe, I deserve to feel happy. I ‘went there” in my body, I found that place, I stirred it around a bit lol. I did some breathing tools today, accupressure.

By: Rori Raye

Rori Raye — Wed, 02 Sep 2009 17:29:07 +0000

Gina – you GO girl. Just map out a plan, map out the little, tiny baby-steps, and do them.. One at a time, even OUT OF ORDER. Just get moving, and momentum will take you the rest of the way, and you’ll find your “motivation” just from “self-satisfaction.” Love, Rori

By: tinque

tinque — Wed, 02 Sep 2009 16:59:57 +0000

Daria – I took a correspondence course with her which is how I got to speak to her.
I like oatstraw the best, red clover next, but I stopped drinking them awhile back. I can’t take things, anything, for extended periods of time. It’s probably time to cycle them back in.